Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Taking it to the Head

I always find it interesting to read and/or hear about what other guys think about sucking cock.  In days gone by, I can remember quite a few summer days where a bunch of us would be sitting around, say, after several games of basketball, and during some post-game trash talking, someone says, “Aw, man, suck my dick!”  I’d hear it – and in the context of the conversation – and I’d laugh to myself and think that while this epitaph gets used a lot, guys really should be careful about who they say it to… because the other guy just might say, “Okay – whip it out!”

Sometimes – and in this particular setting – one guy will keep saying this repeatedly and making me wonder if he’s really throwing a hint out there and hoping that someone would suck his dick.  Basketball is supposed to be a non-contact sport… yeah, sure it is.  Lots of running, sweating, and plenty of body contact up to and including a good slap on the ass for a good play… or in consolation for getting badly clowned.  The games are so fiercely competitive and the testosterone is flowing so much that, for one, it’s no wonder why some fights tend to break out during games but, for another thing, a lot of guys find themselves sexually aroused and, often, it was pretty apparent both during the game and afterward.  Yep, nothing like backing a guy down in the post, he bodies up against you and he’s either got a banana in his pocket or he’s really happy to see you…but, wait, he’s wearing gym shorts so he doesn’t have any pockets!

Back then, it wasn’t all that unusual about guys talking about getting their dick sucked and, as I’ve written about before, someone would invariably ask what someone would do if a guy wanted to blow them and it would just amaze and amuse me to hear guys say at first that they would never be down for something like that but turn around later in the conversation and come up with scenarios that would allow something to happen that, um, they first said couldn’t happen – and the number one scenario was, “Man, I’d have to be high as a motherfucker…”

Yeah, not always but, okay, homey, I hear ya.

Guys who’d let another guy blow them (or who’d blow another guy) wouldn’t admit it because one can easily lose face if it’s implied that they weren’t as successful at getting into a girl’s panties as they claim to be and letting it be known that because of their lack of success, they’re right on the edge of desperation and past the point where beating one’s meat is more of an aggravation than a relief.  While some guys would tell you that they’d never get that desperate, well, a lot of guys do get that desperate and the only thing that really keeps them from getting some dude to blow them is, one, finding a guy they can trust not to dime them out about it and, two, much worry about their image and reputation.

But, hey, I won’t tell if you won’t, aight?

These days I browse the bi guy forum and one of the biggest topics is cock sucking; is it better to give than receive, how does one do it, what does it feel like, and other questions.  There are guys who will happily and gladly suck any cock, any time, anywhere and reciprocation may or may not be an issue.  A lot of guys love to swallow, some guys are quite leery about it; some guys would prefer to do all of the sucking and not be sucked while with other guys, it doesn’t get any better than to be wrapped up in a 69 and going for the gusto.  It doesn’t surprise me that anal sex gets relegated to the number two spot among topics because even guys who aren’t into this are into sucking and being sucked, not just because it’s a lot of fun but other than mutual masturbation, it’s the easiest thing two guys can do to and with each other.

It doesn’t require a lot of preparation before the fact, can be done almost anywhere there’s a bit of privacy, doesn’t require any foreplay before the fact and, depending on the participants, doesn’t take very long to do and, to this particular end, one reason some guys say that they’d rather give than receive is because should they receive, um, it might not take very long before their balls empty themselves and that’s kinda embarrassing.  Some guys aren’t fond of receiving because, according to them, it’s almost impossible for them to cum this way so to avoid this bit of embarrassment, eh, leave my dick alone and let me work on yours, okay?  Okay!

I know a lot of guys watch a lot of porn – gay or otherwise – and, being the visual creatures men tend to be, sure, watching a huge dick getting worked over is rather thrilling and it’s said by some men that it’s because they’ve watched guys getting their dick sucked in porn flicks that they now wanna find out what it’s like to suck a huge cock and deep throat it so far that they can also get the guy’s nuts in his mouth, too.  Some guys have said that they’ve asked themselves, “How hard can it be?” – and then find out exactly how hard it can be.  Many guys fret over technique and while there are tips and tricks to this, not many guys talk about their level of desire to do this although there are guys who can go on at great length and captivate you with how sucking dick makes them feel and what they feel drives them to want to suck every dick they can get their mouths on.

Ask most guys what they think the best part of giving a blow job is and they’ll tell you that not many things compare to the feeling of a dick pumping sperm while trapped inside their mouth… and I have to admit that, yep, that’s pretty exciting feeling.  Guys talk about making the other guy squirm and curse and call on anyone they think can help them but to feel that first blast of spunk – and followed by those contractions – well, the only thing that gets better than that is if you’re the one doing the pumping… because busting a nut is just a fun thing to do and, besides, it almost serves no purpose to suck a guy’s dick if you’re not gonna induce him to cum – unless you have other plans that calls for loads to be shot somewhere else.

There are guys who feel, believe, whatever, that oral sex isn’t sex; it’s merely foreplay and a precursor to penetrative sex and while it feels good to be sucked, that nut isn’t supposed to be consumed – it’s to be injected somewhere else.  Some guys talk about how wonderful it makes them feel to suck a guy right to the edge and then bask in the feeling of hot sperm being shot onto their faces, chests, whatever, while others feel that if the other guy isn’t gonna flood their mouth with cum, bleh, what was the point of doing this at all?

It’s a bit surprising that a lot of guys don’t know why sucking dick makes them feel so good and I’ve explained it to them – and, in case you didn’t know, it’s related to being nursed as a baby, via breast or bottle; sucking is related to food which is related to a sense of pleasure and comfort and while parents often go crazy trying to get a child to stop sucking their thumb – and because it can wreak havoc on their teeth, if you’ve ever sucked your thumb, well, you know how good that makes you feel… and if you don’t know, um, go wash your hands and spend a few moments sucking on your thumb and see if it goes from being a silly thing for an adult to do to something kinda nice.

Just saying.

Taking it to the head is just a fun thing to do and I often ask those guys who insist that they don’t like being sucked, “What’s wrong with you guys?”  Whether it’s truly better to give than receive just depends on how a guy is feeling at that moment.  Guys often talk about how submissive it makes them feel to have a guy using their mouth for his pleasure while other guys nix the submissive thing and insist that when they take it to the head, they’re anything but submissive in their quest to make the other guy scream for his momma to save him.

 

Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: That First Time…

I just left the bi guys forum and saw that an old post had some new input  – the one about guys sucking cock for the first time.

It’s kinda heartwarming to read about guys who have been able to set aside whatever fears they had about doing this and just say, “Fuck it…” and find out what a lot of people already know:

Sucking cock can be a lot of amazing fun.

I know I’ve written about this very thing before but, wow, it just never really gets old when you can read about a guy who’s discovered that whatever he was afraid of before he did it was just plain silly.  Sure enough, some guys find that as much as they want to experience this, they just can’t bring themselves to doing it but for those who’ve said, “Fuck it…,” it’s not all that surprising that they find themselves truly hooked on it – well, until some asshole comes along and ruins such a pleasurable thing to do.

As I’ve written so many times, those of you who don’t suck cock won’t understand this… but those of you who have had your joy of doing this stolen from you may have forgotten what is so thrilling about having another guy’s cock in your mouth and why you were hooked on it at some point.

I see guys on the forum write about what turns them on about M2M sex and, yup, sucking cock is right at the top of the list… but the only thing better than sucking cock is sharing the moment when a man has his first experience with this.  I re-read the post and saw that at every turn, those guys who had their first experience were hooked and the only thing they regretted was not having many more opportunities to get into this.  The saddening part of re-reading the post were the number of guys who opined that they’ve yet to experience M2M oral sex… but they want to… and as I read such comments, I could only shake my head and wonder what those guys are waiting for…

But it’s rhetorical because I do know what they’re waiting for and it’s old news:  They’re just afraid to do it.  It’s not to say that their reasons lack legitimacy or, plainly, there’s no reason for them to be leery, afraid, hesitant, whatever, because there is, from people they know finding out that they’ve done this to the risk of contracting an STD.

But it seems that a lot of guys have found themselves in that peculiar moment and have just said, “Fuck it…” and they’ve either let another man blow them and/or they’ve gotten their first taste of cock and even spunk… and have found that, hmm, it wasn’t as bad as thought/believed and I think, importantly, they have not instantly turned homosexual and, in fact, still feel quite manly and masculine.

They discover that despite what’s been said over all this time, nope, it’s not just a woman’s thing to do and, nope, it’s not the sole province of homosexual males, either.  And while it’s no secret that this behavior between men has always been considered taboo and immoral, it’s a truly special moment when a guy finds out that this thing we’ve all be made to believe to be true isn’t really all that true.

And, lest you think I’ve overlooked something, it’s also quite special when a woman learns that, um, there is something another woman can do for them and, to our everlasting shame, better than men can do it.  Just saying.

What do you say to the guy who asks, “Why didn’t I do this before now?”  You can rightly say that things happen when they’re supposed to happen or, perhaps with more accuracy, things just didn’t line up at the right moment for it to happen.  There was a time when I’d say that a guy just doesn’t wake up one morning and decide today’s a good day to finally suck a dick… because I’ve since learned that, yeah, it can happen like that because today, more than at any other time I can recall, there are more men who are determined to suck cock for the first time and to find out what the big deal is about having another guy blow them.

Then they find out…

 

Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: “I Won’t Tell If You Won’t”

I was sitting here re-reading my scribbles on the bro job and something popped into my head about the moment a bro job is about to happen.  It’s something I’ve heard from other guys as well as saying it to confirm that what’s about to happen will be handled discretely.  Now, this phrase isn’t always about a prelude to sex but I’ve also heard it – and confirmed discretion – for guys who want to tell me without anyone else knowing that, um, they like dick in some way.  Sometimes a bisexual’s greatest fear is being outed or otherwise ratted on for a “rules violation” – thinking about crossing the line or being on the verge of doing just that.  No one really wants to be outed and more so if it’s not on their own terms… but, sure, guys who are perhaps minutes away from pulling the trigger with another guy just might ask this question or require you to say it as if taking an oath of silence, as it were.

Hmm, let’s see… you want to engage in oral sex with me and I don’t have anything against that… so it kinda makes sense that if I want to do this, not telling that it happened is warranted.  I can’t imagine someone asking, “If I wanted to suck your cock, you’re not gonna tell anyone are you?” and the reply is, “Man, I’m gonna tell everybody I know!”  Not saying that it’s not possible because, um, some dudes are bigger and worse gossips than women can be and nothing would make them happier than to get some drama going that’s gonna embarrass the shit out of someone.

And speaking of gossip, wow, I don’t know how many times the fellas have been hanging out and someone mentioned that this guy asked to have sex with him and he told him no fucking way (or so he says because, you know, we’ve been known to lie like rugs about that).  So much for “I won’t tell if you won’t” huh?  Some guys might get propositioned and, indeed, won’t mention it even if he turned down the proposition – this, too, can be embarrassing since people have a tendency to believe perception more than the actual truth so if “Larry” told someone that a guy offered him a blow job and he turned it down, the person he’s talking to will likely figure that “Larry” is lying and he let some dude give him some head… and probably returned the favor as well.

Growing up, this was very serious and damn near sacred; it was about trust issues among a bunch of guys who hadn’t yet learned what a trust issue was.  I don’t recall how many times I’ve heard a guy say that he wants to have sex with me but the thing he’s worried about isn’t getting caught – it’s whether or not something is gonna be said to others.  I’ve had guys blurt out, “I want you to do it to me!” and turn right around and say, “Forget I said that – you’re not gonna tell anybody I said that, are you?”  First, ya can’t “unhear” that… but telling someone?  I mean, sure, you’d be ratting them out but because it was said to you, uh, now ya might have others looking at you strangely even if you didn’t do anything.

 

With consideration to the bro job, “I won’t tell if you won’t” remains sacred and, really, it’s no one else’s business if straight guys “Bruce” and “Jake” found themselves in a situation where sucking each other’s cock was warranted, necessary, and even needed.  Does it really sound that far-fetched that a guy can get into a bro job moment and the only condition is not telling anyone else that it happened?  And, um, if the two guys keep their word and not tell anyone else that it happened, er, ah, doesn’t that kinda open up the possibility that it could happen again and especially if it was da bomb the first time?

Shit… I won’t tell if you won’t…

 

Disgusting

Something’s come to my attention here lately, something that as a man I find disgusting, domineering, and downright dangerous:  Men choking women with their dicks.

As most of you know, I’m not averse to sucking a man’s dick and I find a great deal of enjoyment in this.  As a man who equally has no issues with having his dick sucked – and it could just be me – there are some niceties and perhaps a certain etiquette and even maybe an “upper limit” when it comes to introducing your erection into someone else’s mouth.  Now, most people who suck cock take into account that when a guy’s getting sucked, ah, man, that fucking motion just comes into play almost on its own accord; there are those who have trained themselves in the art of disconnecting one’s gag reflex so they can eat that dick all the way down to the root, something that is, all by itself, inherently dangerous given that your gag reflex is responsible for keep you from choking on things.

But to have a man with an average to above average cock jam his cock into – in this case – a woman’s mouth and force her to keep all of it down her throat until she gags and even vomits, well, dude, what the fuck is wrong with you?  Of course, there’s a lot of porn out there depicting this very dangerous behavior and I would hope that there aren’t any men out there in real life who think this is their idea of fun, just as I hope that there aren’t other cocksuckers out there who think this would be a cool think to try because it is dangerous and potentially life-threatening and more so when the guy gets the “brilliant” idea of holding the nose of the person being subjected to this.

When you can’t breathe, your body automatically goes into a panic mode and the less air you’re getting, the less oxygen in your blood and the less oxygen going to your brain; this, all by itself, kills brain cells that do not replace themselves.  While oxygen starvation lends itself to a kind of euphoria no narcotic can ever match, if you’re feeling euphoric, um, that’s a sign that your brain is in the process of shutting down from the lack of oxygen and even if you get pulled back from the edge of the cliff, you’re still suffering brain damage and even if you don’t think that you are.  Your mouth and throat are connected not only to your stomach but to your lungs – anyone who as had something “go down the wrong pipe” can tell you that this isn’t a good feeling.  There a “flap” that opens and closes depending on what you’re doing, i.e., breathing or swallowing and if that flap somehow gets forced to stay open – and then your body, still in panic mode, tries to make you regurgitate in order to remove the foreign object causing the distress, it is possible to aspirate vomit into your lungs and I trust that you don’t have to have a PhD in chemistry to understand what hydrochloric acid can do to delicate lung tissue, do I?  Oh, hydrochloric, you may ask?  Well, yeah!  The “acid” in acid reflux and the stuff that digests your food and pretty much anything else that winds up in your stomach is hydrochloric acid.

The science lesson aside, to see depictions of this being done just insults me at so many levels.  It is abusive and I know that any time some dude tried to make me take more dick than I wanted to it was grounds to whip their asses.  It shows a domineering behavior, well, another of many porn likes to show you, that gives women another reason not to suck dick… like they needed any more reasons not to do it, right?  I dunno, y’all, maybe I’m too chivalrous or something but I couldn’t think of a reason why I’d want to deliberately choke someone with my dick, let alone get it into my head that it’s fun.  I know that if someone actually asked me to do this, I would refuse because even if they’re not aware of the potential dangers, I am and, uh-huh, I can see myself explaining why that person wound up in the hospital or, God forbid, winds up dying and all because I obviously didn’t give a fuck about whether or not jamming my dick down their throat and holding it there despite their resistance was going to hurt them or not.

I love sucking dick; I don’t mind it too much when a guy starts to fuck into my mouth as long as he doesn’t get carried away with it and if he does, I’m either going to stop and say something to him about it or I’m going to stop and commence to whipping that ass – but more often than not, a good hard squeeze is enough of a warning for him to behave himself.  When I’m being sucked – and because of my experience sucking dicks, yeah, I’ll let whoever’s sucking me take me as deep as they can and when I get to that point where I’m fucking into their mouth, I’m not going to try to shove more in there than they can deal with – it’s just the right way to behave and more so if you want that person to ever blow you again (and if you even care about that).

Even though such a thing offends me, I’m not saying that if it’s your idea of fun that you should stop doing it; after all, it’s your body and all that and maybe you don’t think there’s anything wrong with it… which is why I mentioned what could possibly go wrong.  Yeah, there’s great juju in being able to deep throat a dick… but even that has its limits, as far as my sensibilities go…