…bisexuals are also heterosexual and many are heterosexual by “default,” for lack of a better word. When you look at the famous Kinsey scale, it goes from zero to six, with zero being “totally heterosexual” and six being “totally homosexual” but the debate these days – and some that insist that the Kinsey scale is outdated – is what’s between zero and six which, duh, is one, two, three, four, and five.
A lot of bisexuals, on the Kinsey scale, are a 2; mostly heterosexual, occasionally homosexual. Some feel that they’re a 3 on the scale, which is the 50/50 point and probably the point that makes people think that if you’re bisexual, you should interact with men and women equally. Four to five basically says one is more homosexual than heterosexual. But what’s being discovered – and the thing that does kinda invalidate Kinsey’s findings – is that bisexuals are more fluid in their behavior than the scale actually indicates and that bisexuals can be “all over the scale” if that’s where their desires are taking them and this greater “flexibility” can change from one moment to the next instead of it being said, “Once a 2, always a 2…” or something that’s rather static and, thus, blunting a bisexual’s fluidity.
One should keep in mind that the Doctors Kinsey came out with their report way back when I was born in the 1950s and we’ve learned a lot more about bisexuality than those worthy researchers knew about back then – but they knew enough to open people’s eyes about human sexuality and set a standard that, until recently, was widely accepted.
It’s just that when people see or hear “bisexual,” they almost always think “homosexual” which, duh, really gets people’s attention and, methinks, makes them forget that we’re also heterosexual or, being a guy and all that, it’s the thing that makes me tell such folks that, um, I love me some women and pussy. It’s the thing that makes people ask, “Which do you prefer?” or, kinda classically, “If you had to choose…” and that’s just it and the fallacy of such questions because if you’re bisexual, the answer is – or should be – “I choose/prefer both!” and now you get into the nitpicking aspects, like those folks who’ll say they’re not bisexual because they won’t play with a dick/pussy all of the time.
They think frequency has something to do with this… and it doesn’t but, hey, whatever makes you sleep easier at night. It’s not when you do a thing in this but the fact that you’d do it and under the right conditions and situations.
And, in case you were wondering, when I’ve been asked these questions, I usually have two answers, both of which are “valid” to me. The first is, “I’d take the pussy first… but I wouldn’t say no to the dick…” and the second is, “Hmm… that depends on how I’m feeling; I might want the dick first… sure as fuck wouldn’t say no to the coochie.” The funny thing is what people pay attention to, like, I wouldn’t say no to the dick… when they should notice that my answers don’t exclude pussy and, frankly, they never will because, um, you know, pussy is always good.
I just think that folks have to be reminded that bisexuality isn’t all same-sex stuff – it’s just as opposite sex, too and, of course, depending on an individual’s situation. It’s such a nitpicky kind of thing that even bi guys go out of their way to quantify their behaviors, i.e., do you like dick more than pussy or vice-versa and, admittedly, I find this kinda funny because I don’t see the point in asking such things except, maybe, if a guy is questioning themselves as to whether they’re more gay than bi or, on the Kinsey scale, more of a 4 or 5 than anything else. This is understandable and more so if a guy finds himself playing with dick more than pussy.
And even if this is the case with someone, it doesn’t negate their desire for the opposite sex; they might not be getting a lot of pussy… doesn’t mean they don’t want any should it be offered.
I’d suppose that given the lingering angst toward homosexuality, it’s just easier for those who care to keep bitching about this to lump bisexuals into this mold and ignoring opposite sex attractions… well, except to get women thinking that being with a bi guy is guaranteed to kill them because, you know, all bi guys automatically come with HIV and they can get HIV just thinking about looking at a dick and/or deciding that they’re bisexual.
Yeah, right… sure. Still and despite this particular thing, when you think “bisexual” just don’t think homosexual-only because, duh, that kinda defeats the purpose of “going both ways,” doesn’t it? It appears to me that, socially, we have such a fear of homosexuality that it gives us a bad case of tunnel vision that makes us only look at one side of this equation and in the same vein that makes some people think that bisexual women are really lesbians in denial and they’re only getting the D to “keep up appearances of being heterosexual.” We still have issues getting our heads around the fact that human sexuality isn’t black or white – you’re either straight or gay and, sadly, thinking this way shows a level of… immaturity that’s disturbing given that it’s not the truth of things and as forever evidenced by the fact that we’re still pitching a bitch about people being bisexual.
If it ain’t real, what are people fussing about? Why do we keep asking, “men or women?” when the reality is “men and women” and now it’s just a matter of personal preference as to what a bisexual spends most of their time having fun with and I mentioned way back in the beginning, most bisexuals are heterosexual by default – it’s the way they behave in the majority of times and probably that lends itself to the accusation that bisexuals are taking advantage of some kind of straight privilege, something I find patently ridiculous since bisexuals are both straight and gay but neither thing exclusively.
It’s just amazing how, on the whole, we just overlook this as not being significantly important. Bi guys like pussy just as bi gals like dick – and just like any straight person would… we bisexuals just don’t discriminate if it’s dick/pussy being offered; if it’s some same-sex interaction that’s wanted and/or needed, okay, we can do that and many of us even understand that just because we can do it that way doesn’t mean we always have to do things that way which, interestingly enough, is why a lot of guys “forget” about liking dick as long as they’re getting pussy… but when the coochie dries up (and for any reason), they go back to gorging themselves on cock if they can actually get it.
For some, it’s an interesting change of pace, a bit of “dietary diversity” that can be enjoyed because, uh, it can be enjoyed. And, I think, despite the inherent fluidity of bisexuality, people just tend to always be in their default behavior until they have reason not to be… and a whole lot of bisexuals are heterosexual in their every day default behavior until they’re made an offer that they’re not of a mind to refuse.
I don’t often write about this aspect because, probably due to a fault that’s mine, it’s a no-brainer of sorts – I know that bi guys love women and pussy right along with having a thing for a hard dick and due to this oversight, I kinda forget that a reminder should be made that speaks to the dual nature of our sexuality for that, I do apologize.