We will never forget. Never.
So, I saw an email from Quora with someone asking how they can uphold the teachings of the bible being someone with homosexual desires and my first thought was, “You can’t…” and more so when this seems like a conflict of interest; you’re either going to uphold and stay true to what the Old Testament has to say about this, or you aren’t.
If anything, it’s about maintaining your belief in God more than what the bible has to say about these things and more so when, obviously, there are a lot of people who thumb their nose at that Old Testament stuff and, as I pointed out to my pastor one Sunday, “We’re not Hebrew so do these things still apply to us?” and especially when his sermon was all about the Hebrew people and their trials and tribulations and as told in the Book of Exodus.
He said that they did; I just nodded and in my “we’re going to agree to disagree” way because of the shellfish prohibition… and I knew way too many Baptists that love their shrimp and other shellfish – including myself. Still, I was already aware of the crisis of faith a lot of men and women were experiencing because they either had those homosexual desires and wanted to explore them or they took the plunge, found that it was good and then some but… they disobeyed God and all that stuff in Leviticus and now they’re seriously upset about what they were feeling, thinking, and what they may have done.
The gross hypocrisy I was aware of among churchgoers who’d get to thumping their bibles and decrying all manner of sins… and were sinning their asses off and especially this one deacon I knew had a love of sucking dick and being boned in the ass and had a preference for young adult males.
The crisis of faith is a real thing for so many people but it’s the basis of this: Which thing are you going to believe? What the bible has to say about these things… or what the reality of things are? The many homosexuals that I’ve heard say that if God didn’t mean for them to be this way, they wouldn’t be this way or that they made their peace with God and… they’re okay with being the way they are.
You’re either going to be devout… or you aren’t. You’re either going to resist temptations… or you won’t be able to. Oh, I remember a moment in the early days where, on Saturday, I’d had sex with, um, like five or six guys but on Sunday, our pastor was preaching his ass off about the sins of the flesh and the greater sin of homosexuality and, yeah, it felt like he was talking directly to me and like he knew what I’d done the day before and it unnerved me to no end; later in life, I’d recall this moment and understand that, for one, he wasn’t really talking to or about me but his sermon was designed to make one either toe the line or feel bad for not toeing it and, importantly, death comes for all of us.
I remember my crisis of faith… but. I was still and very happily having sex in the unapproved ways – homosexually and fornication – and… still alive. Didn’t get struck down from heaven and as our pastor would preach would be a given if you didn’t obey God’s Word and as written in the bible. Even then, I realized that… one of these things wasn’t right and went on a “crusade” to find out which thing was really wrong and, importantly, religion wants us to take it on faith that what those admonishments in the Old Testament will happen to you if you disobey.
But everyone dies. Heaven, hell, and life after death may or may not be real or, as I read in a book, “Everyone wants to go to heaven, but no one wants to die to get there.” Knowing that I was going to die someday unnerved me more than spending time having sex with guys and kid logic said, “Well, if you’re gonna die anyway, you might as well keep doing it…”
Crisis averted and disposed of. I don’t have a lot of belief in the bible or what religion teaches but, yeah, sure, I believe in God and that He gave us all free will after the Garden of Eden debacle; someone told me that because I was having sex with guys, I was going to die and go to hell and I said, “Well, I won’t be there by myself…” which “inspired” them to do some more preaching – and preaching that fell on deaf ears because I might not have believed what the bible had to say… but I sure as hell believed in the reality of human nature.
That reality was showing me that having sex with boys could be just as good – and sometimes better – than having sex with girls. Oh, my – it felt so good to be so bad! Or remembering that time when I was in the club and saw a male member of our church in there getting his drink on and “consorting” with women who weren’t his wife and… he wanted to suck my dick and he was very good at it and despite being a “devout Christian” and as he would often and loudly proclaim. Which was fine with me because I knew the truth of things: If you want to do, you’re gonna do it and the words in the bible aren’t the deterrent they were designed to be.
That’s me, of course… but not the many people who have that crisis of faith – and it’s an emotional reaction that can make someone not use their intelligence and, again, as homosexuals were saying, if God didn’t mean for us to have sex with each other like this, He would have made it impossible to be done but since it could, well, hmm.
The crisis of faith is a contradiction: You know what the rules are, but you still feel the way you do; maybe you resist the temptation and like you’re supposed to, or you find that… getting sucked off by a guy or having a gal giving your pussy a damned good eating… feels so incredibly good and normal.
Giving a guy his first experience and he was sorely afraid that God was going to take his life because he was not only having these impure thoughts, he’s sitting before me naked, his dick seriously hard, and he’s got his hand wrapped around mine. He correctly says that we shouldn’t be doing this; I tell him that he’s right about that but we don’t have to if doing so it going to break his faith and belief.
For a first timer, he was… magnificent. He’d set his fears aside – and I did hear him say, “Fuck it…” just before he took me into his mouth and we 69’d the daylights out of each other but now… that moment of absolute clarity that refraction brings to the table and it’s an incredibly ugly feeling and, yep, he’s feeling guilty, he almost threw up because he was so emotionally upset and he was going to confess his sin to his pastor and beg God for forgiveness and, man, it is bad to watch someone go through this and knowing that there’s not a whole lot you can say but I “distracted” him by asking him how he felt throughout things and he told me how good it felt and that he did feel that he was doing the right thing and all I could say to him was, “So, what are you really worried about? I was taught the exact same thing you were taught and you don’t see me being upset about what we just did, do you?”
The reason why something that everyone says is so bad can feel so good is… because it’s supposed to feel good when you have sex. We sit and talk about how he’s feeling and not in terms of the two of us throwing the rules out the window. He calms down and… we go for it again and at his request. Really kinda weird to be sucking a guy and he’s praying to God to forgive him for this sin… and he’s fucking my mouth rather nicely and cuts loose moments later.
He was still conflicted, but I think he kinda got past it when he asked me if I still believed in God and I said that I did – I just no longer believed in what religion teaches about this because, obviously and clearly, it’s not telling the truth. I pointed out to him that if his faith and believe were as strong as it’s supposed to be, he probably wouldn’t have had the thoughts and feelings that brought him to me to talk about it, let alone doing it and, really, it’s okay because a lot of people do this and find that it’s normal and… their faith and belief in God really hasn’t been shaken all that much.
“All the homosexuals in the world can’t be wrong,” I had said to him. “Religion says that you and I aren’t supposed to do what we just did – but it doesn’t say that it can’t be done and, obviously, it can be.”
I asked him, “How do you feel?” and he said that he felt like a great weight had been lifted from him and that, yeah, he had some thinking to do but, well, um, if we were to do it again “for the road,” that wouldn’t necessarily be a bad thing… would it?
I didn’t think so. I felt that he’d gotten past his crisis of faith because… he went crazy having sex with other guys and when he said that he still believed in God, I said, “That’s the right belief to have…” and we got into it and he learned, on this day, that screwing a guy and being screwed… wasn’t all that bad, either.
Religion tells us how to have sex, who we can have sex with, the condition under which we can have sex and if you have sex outside of these rules, well, you’re gonna burn in hell and, in those ancient times, you will be put to death… because God said so. I dared to question that: Did He really say this… or did the people who created religion say it and in order to make people do things the way they’re supposed to be? Oh, I remember asking my pastor how and why God told them to tell us these things but didn’t tell us personally and… God works in mysterious ways, and He only speaks to certain and special people and… really? He knows what’s in our hearts and minds and, okay, I’m sure He does but if He knows that I have sex with males – hypothetically, of course – why hasn’t he punished me yet because I’m alive and well?
Got grounded for a month behind that one. I learned that once the lie has been exposed, shedding the belief in religion tends to happen… but not one’s belief in God. The fact that so many of us continue to believe in something that hasn’t changed over all this time… but we – humans – have been changing all along the way and, yep, having sex in the ways that are prohibited and with the understanding that having sex – period – is good, normal, natural and healthy for us to do so, um, does it really matter who we’re having sex with? Religion says it does; human nature has something very different to say and… which thing is right?
The crisis of faith gets dealt with the moment someone understands that… human nature is right and religion, eh, not so much. It’s heresy to speak out against religion and, as always, I don’t and never will speak ill about anyone who believes what religion teaches but, look around you; open your eyes and your mind and see the reality that has always been with us and the reality that religion would prefer we don’t pay any attention to.
I know that I lost my belief in religion because I knew of pastors and ministers who were sinning their asses off but come Sunday, bouncing around the pulpit and flinging fire and brimstone while admonishing the congregation to never sin but if you do, beg God for forgiveness; all will be forgiven and go forth and sin no more and, yeah, like that was really going to happen.
I’m thinking that this one pastor wasn’t as devout as he’s supposed to be when he asked my wife if he could fuck her and telling her that I didn’t have to know about it. She told me that he’d hit on her and… I had a word with him about it and reminded him that he should be practicing what he’s been preaching and, oh, yeah – approach her like that again and find out what I’m gonna do about it and God’s not going to save you and I won’t have a problem standing up next Sunday and telling the whole congregation what you tried to do.
“This isn’t a threat: It’s a promise and if you don’t believe me, well, try me,” I said. “By the way, she wanted me to tell you that she wouldn’t have sex with you even if her life depended on it and she’d heard that you suck at sex, and you have a really small dick…”
It seems to me that if ministers of faith aren’t going to play by the rules, expecting and demanding that everyone else does… stinks of hypocrisy. Kinda really tells you more about human nature than anything else and, yeah, which thing are you going to believe?
The many people around the world who have and enjoy homosexual sex… can’t all be wrong – it’s just that religion says they are. The power of belief is formidable; in this context, it covers our eyes to the truth of things or, don’t believe what so many people are doing – believe what I’m telling you about not doing it… or you will perish and burn in hell.
If you believe, then you do. Never and disrespect meant or implied. I, along with a lot of other men and women, know the truth: The way it’s supposed to be is all well and good… but it’s not the only way of things and the fact that someone, somewhere in the world, is finding this out for themselves and at this very moment that you’re reading this. Are they sinners? Religion says so… but are they really just being human?
Just a matter of which thing you’re going to believe. My mother asked me why I stopped coming to church and I told her that I couldn’t deal with the hypocrisy and, bluntly, the bullshit that goes on in church. That I felt better to keep God in my heart than to sit there and listen to stuff that… I just can’t believe in. She wasn’t happy to hear this but said that it’s more important to keep God in my heart and that I shouldn’t let the bad behaviors of others get in the way of my faith.
My faith is fine, but I don’t have to subject myself to religious teachings that I know are flawed or be around “Christians” who have proven to me that they’re not as devout as they’d have you believe and, yeah, you can probably guess how I know this… and you wouldn’t be wrong in your guesses.
So many bisexuals have this crisis of faith; many get past it and some… can’t or don’t and, really, there’s nothing wrong in this but I have found that once a guy finds out that getting a blowjob from another guy ain’t as bad as he believed it would be – and as bad as he was told it is – that crisis of faith just… goes away. Retaining a belief in God? Sure. Continuing to believe what religion says? Not so much. And, yeah, a lot of men and women find this kind of sex exciting and satisfying because it’s prohibited and a mortal sin.
Hmm. I still have the nerve to speak on this because it’s very much a part of why people are bisexual and the stuff they have to content with because what we’ve been told to believe very much conflicts with what can happen… if you want to. You don’t have to and this, too, is fine but, yeah, I have a nice big pair of balls to speak to a truth that religion doesn’t want you to believe.
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