I’ve decided to tackle this Tuesday’s offering!
1. Do you think sex is less important after age 50? Why or why not?
I think sex is just as important after age 50 as it is when you first started having sex. It’s part of the human condition and while we often try to downplay its importance to our physical and mental health, yeah, sex is still important. If you’re hooked up with someone (married or otherwise) it tells them that you still love them, that your desire for them is unwavering and unflagging and, seriously, that you’re gonna continue to be intimate with them no matter what being over 50 brings to the table… because that’s the way it’s supposed to be until you can’t do it (read this as you’re no longer breathing).
2. Were you ever squeamish about sex? At what age (or age range)?
Oh, hell, no! I think that because I started having sex at a very young age, any squeamishness got shoved aside by my rather exuberant desire to do more of that thing I wasn’t supposed to be doing.
3. When did you quit being squeamish and start to relax and enjoy sex?
As with #2, since I lacked hesitancy when it came to sex, I was able to relax and enjoy sex early on. Sex is fun and my young mind figured out early on that if you weren’t going to have fun doing it, why bother to do it?
4. What is sex worth to you?
I’m not sure what this question is asking. There are some things I won’t do for the sake of sex and, really, if sex has a “price” or something else that equates to worth, then perhaps there’s something wrong with the way one thinks about sex. It is said that we all pay for sex in some way or another and I guess there’s still a lot of truth to this. I’ve heard and have even known people who have said or demonstrated that they will do anything for sex, that’s there’s no limit to how aggressively they’d pursue sex and, yes, I’ve known people to go through a bunch of changes just for the chance to have sex, from altering their personality to totally debasing themselves; people have taken lives for the sake of sex. For me, sex is a “valuable” and necessary thing but for me to ascribe some sense of worth doesn’t make much sense since I know that there are times when sex isn’t worth the price you might have to pay in that moment or later on.
5. What do you seek in exchange for sex?
From a man’s point of view, this is a really weird question and more so since it’s been my experience that we, as men, have to be able to offer women something in exchange for sex and, as such, it tends to put us (and me) in the position where it’s not about what we want in exchange for sex – it’s what we’re willing to do for sex and, just like #4, the butcher’s bill can be quite high because what we might have to do to get sex isn’t what I’d call consistent and that’s because of something else we all learn in this: Women are really funny about sex and to the point where we are expected, required, and demanded to do stuff to get sex (and we might not get it even if we did it) and we find ourselves in the position of having to beg or otherwise barter to get in between those legs. It sucks that we go about sex like this, that we have put a price – literally and figuratively – on sex and a price that, sometimes, cannot be met or equalled.
6. Is your sex life better or worse now vs. five years ago? Why?
A little of both because even when you’re over 50, life can still pretty much fuck up your sex life, from health issues to just being too busy trying to keep the wolves away from your door – you still have to find the time and have the motivation to have sex and more so when a lot of things are ‘conspiring’ against you and your partner to keep you from having it.
7. Would you answer your mobile phone (a call or text) if it rang/dinged while you were having sex?
Well, since my mobile phone stays in another room that has the door closed (because we have a nosy cat), if it rang, I’d never hear it and, besides, I wouldn’t answer it. Now, having said that, there was a time when I had to – my job required almost constant access to me so I was never really “off duty” – but now? I’m retired and of the mind that if it was really that important, they’ll call back later, leave me a message, or correctly guess that I’m getting laid so since the bed is rockin’, don’t come knockin’…
Bonus: What is the one thing you wish your love interest understood about you?
That my love and desire for her has few boundaries…