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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Getting It Done

Once someone gets past the “why me” moment and decide that doing something is the thing to do, it’s now all about giving some thought about what to do and, importantly, who to do it with.

Figuring out what is probably the easy part and, for men and as I’ve written about, the entry level starting point is oral sex with another guy (and probably the same for women but, eh, they don’t talk about it so much). A lot of guys find their inhibitions slipping away now that they’re in a position to explore their feelings or, if they didn’t get hit by the truck that came out of nowhere, they can now do that stuff that they’ve been thinking about for the longest time from sucking cock to finally getting the answer to what it feels like to be fucked and have a load of spunk fired into them.

That’s the easy part. The hard part is trying to find someone and it seems to me that, today, a lot of guys make this more difficult than it has to be, that and one of the things they discover is that you can’t tell a bi guy from a straight guy just by looking at them and no one wants to hit on a guy and proposition him and then find out the guy ain’t like that and, oops, he might not be polite about being hit on for a sexual encounter.

Prior to the Internet and all the apps we see today as a matter of course, if you wanted some dick, you had to go looking for it or, if you were lucky, you’d be minding your own business and some guy would come over to you, strike up a conversation, then proposition you in some way and you’d have to make a snap decision to take him up on his offer or politely refuse. Going at it this was often more miss than hit – and depending on where you live, of course, but it remains true that if/when you wanted some dick, you had to put in some work in order to get some dick and the way you wanted it.

Today, the apps have made things wide open and using them gives a guy such a wide and diverse choice of men to engage with. I know in the early days of the apps, wow, there was plenty of dick to play with and from guys who were aboveboard and true about themselves, their intentions for wanting to get with you, and what, if anything, they expected. Sometimes it was just the “quick and dirty” hookup; meet me here or come over to my place and we can get it on, bust our nuts, go on about our business and maybe we can get together and do this again but if not, well, we still had fun.

But as time went on, using the apps got… complicated. Guys were very aware of the fact that the Internet allowed them a great deal of anonymity and there was – and still is today – a lot bullshit going on, from guys who’d talk a good game and enough to get you interested and then, when it was time to get it done, he was a no-show and if he bothered to explain his absence, most of the time, it was so lame that a blind man could see through the lies these guys would tell.

Don’t even get me started with the hyper-macho and overly aggressive guys you can find on almost all of the apps. While you’d think that the apps make it easier because there are so many men looking to do the nasty with other men, at times, they’re more of a problem than they are a lot of help. A lot of guys were successful with Craigslist… until a new law went into effect and Craigslist’s operators complied with the law and shut down that part of their service, leaving perhaps millions of guys (and maybe gals, too) without a source for this kind of sex… and now they’re looking for alternatives and having to rely on the apps which, again, can be quite the clusterfuck.

I see a lot of guys on the forum saying they haven’t done anything because they can’t find any guys… and what they mean is that they can’t find the specific kind of guy they’re looking for even if such a guy only exists in their minds but it seems to me that actually leaving the apps and websites alone and hitting the bricks – and like we had to do in the pre-Internet days – isn’t something they feel like doing.

Admittedly, it’s not all that easy to get it done when you’ve decided on this. It can leave you discouraged and frustrated to the point where they just stop trying to take care of their need to do this and then studiously try to ignore the urge. All I can say to these folks is to don’t give up and to look everywhere because you just never know when someone you can get it done with will show up and, sometimes, from unexpected directions.

Having the sex is easy. I know that guys fret over a great many things that makes them set conditions that are almost impossibly high and I don’t think they’re aware of this or, if they are, they stand on their right to set the bar as high as they need to but they’re the same guys who are always complaining about not being able to find someone compatible enough to do what they’ve been wanting to do since discovering – or rediscovering – their bisexuality.

When people ask me what to do about this, again, I tell them not to give up but I also tell them to give some thought about making it easier for someone to get at you by setting the bar lower; take a look at your preferences and the conditions you’ve put in place and minimize/simplify them; if you’re looking for guys with monster-sized dicks only, you’re passing up a lot of guys with “smaller” cocks who just might give you the thrills you’re looking for. Pay more attention to the person and what makes them tick more than just looking at them because what you see might not be as good as you think it is.

Most guys prefer to get it done with other guys who are similar to themselves; some guys want guys who are almost a polar opposite to the person they are – no secret that opposites attract, right? A lot of guys are seriously opposed to hooking up and experiencing the dreaded blow and go and while I understand this, um, being opposed to this isn’t getting you the sex you’re craving but as I’ve said a lot, casual sex is almost forbidden in the M2M world and to the point where just merely hooking up for a blow and go moment is the last thing on their list of things to do when they want to get it done – and get done.

Guys worry about the health risks and this, too, is understandable but, guys, that’s what they make condoms for – use them and make it a non-negotiable item or, as they used to say, “No glove, no love!”

Sometimes, in order to get it done, you just gotta “take a chance” whether it’s a hookup situation or one that you’ve patiently crafted over a period of time; at some point, you’re gonna have to make the decision to do it or go back to sitting on the bench. It’s a scary moment for those men and women who are on the verge of having that moment of truth that will reveal if they can really do what they want to do or not and I don’t think or believe that’s there’s really a way to avoid “taking a chance” in that sense.

What I do know is that if you don’t, guess what ain’t gonna happen? Then give some thought about the levels of frustration and a few other things you’re gonna have to deal with. What I know is that many men and women kinda say, “Fuck it…” and just do it and discover that they’ve been sitting on the sidelines and worrying about this or that… and find there wasn’t anything to worry about.

“Why did I wait so long before doing this?” is a sentiment I hear a lot of and while not every first experience has that “storybook” happy finish, many find that, overall, it was better for them to get out there and do something about the way they’ve been feeling – they’ve gotten their feet (and other stuff) wet, gotten over whatever fears were fucking with their heads and, importantly, now know how to proceed in this going forward… and if they choose to do so… and many do.

Because that shit just feels so fucking good, it seems.

Make sure you’re gonna be safe; look for opportunities wherever you go because you never know when you’re gonna run into someone who wants the same thing you want. If you can, make it “easier” for someone to get you into a bed while not compromising what I’ll call your core stance on doing it like this. You can get what you want and the way you want it but, to me, it just makes sense to make it easier to get it rather than making it hard on yourself. Develop a sense of adventure because diving into this particular pool is, indeed, an adventure; it’ll have its ups and downs and you’re gonna learn some stuff about this that you need to learn – and I’m telling you this so that you don’t have to learn these things the hard way.

Don’t be so… picky and superficial; some of the best sex I’ve ever had in this has been with people who ain’t even close to being the “Ken and Barbie” type but their personality and mindset have been right on the money and the sex was quite gratifying.

If you’ve been thinking about getting it done, it’s on and up to you to make this happen and in the best way you can but, in my opinion, if this is what you want to do, you have to be willing to put in whatever work is necessary to get it done and to get done.

If you’re not willing to do the work, well, I don’t know what to tell you except that if you’re not getting what you want and need, the blame for this lies completely on you.

I maintain that if this is something you really want and need to do, you will find a way to get it done so you can get done.

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Posted by on 11 July 2019 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Finally Thought About Something!

Well, that didn’t take as long as I thought it would and, unsurprisingly, the thought popped into my head… while making another cup of coffee and changing the filter in our Keurig brewer.

The other day and while clearing out yet another spammer in Tumblr, I saw a clip of two men having sex. Normally, I note these things and don’t pay much attention to them but this one actually got my attention so I sat and watched the whole thing.

A “younger daddy type” was laying the pipe to an Oriental twink but it wasn’t this stereotypical coupling or the expected multiple position changes, a rather passionate kiss between them, or even the expected ass-to-mouth cock sucking moment – or the fact that the twinky guy was sucking “daddy’s” dick in the beginning that got my attention:

It was the way they were going about it. None of that hair pulling, slapping the other guy around; no gratuitous ass eating other shit that I find to not only be outrageous but totally unnecessary. The twink gave “young daddy” a couple of nice, long, slow sucks, laid back and there’s the close-up shot of hard dick going into not-so-tight ass. No “Oh, my god he’s fucking me so good!” nonsense; none of that, “Yeah, you know you want this dick, bitch!” shit and most definitely no rough stuff.

Just one guy fucking another guy without any drama queen or uber-macho bullshit and I had thought, “This is the way it should be – just two grown men giving into and enjoying that primal urge that drove them to do this in the first place.”

As the scene changed to show a really close-up shot of “young daddy” reinserting himself while the twinky guy was in the missionary position, I thought about the many people who’d freak out seeing something like this and how the thought of being fucked in the ass can even freak out bisexual men and I remember shrugging and I know it was my lack of a bias about this that made me shrug and think that, well, it is what it is and what it’s always been.

Thoughts like this were floating through my mind as I watched the clip, noting how easy they were together and as if this might not have been their first time together. Put the dick in, take it out, repeat. No trying to beat the guy’s asshole down or trying to hammer him through the bed – just “young daddy” fucking an Oriental twinky kind of guy.

The scene changed – they’re back in the missionary position (and after going through all the other very predictable ones) and the camera zooms in real close and in time to see “young daddy’s” cock buried deeply in twinky guy’s bottom and furiously pumping away.

I said to myself, “Hmm…” as the twinky guy was being inseminated; none of that pulling out for the money shot and spraying spunk all over the place; none of those fuck faces you tend to see in such things, and no overly done moaning and groaning, either.

Just “young daddy” emptying his balls into twinky guy’s butt. They did do that other gratuitous thing; “young daddy” pulls out in the close up and you see the “proof” of insemination when twinky guy pushes the spunk out of his butt.

I felt myself frowning at this and thinking, “Was that shot really necessary? I mean, it was obvious that homey was pumping it in, ya know?” I’ll admit that there’s something… sensual about seeing a dick delivering its spunky load and no matter who’s on the receiving end of it. In a lot of porn, eh, you usually don’t see the pumping action since, usually, the guy pulls out and jerks off all over the place. Or if he stays in there, seeing the pumping might not be so… prominent since in most cases, the guy had already gotten rid of that first load and now he’s on his second wind and, well, his unloading isn’t so… vigorous.

The clip ended and I closed Tumblr with my mind flooded with both a lot of memories as well as a lot of thoughts about what I’d just watched. People make such a big deal about people having same-sex sex and more so when the participants are both male. They see or know of the act – but they don’t see the raw, primal beauty that’s there to be seen and more so when the participants – and even opposite sex ones – aren’t trying to over-emphasize what they’re doing.

They may see people on a screen doing shameful and “nasty” things… but not seeing people doing what we were designed to do and, yes, even when the participants are both male. I thought about how… juvenile we can be about sex and how what we know can happen – and what does happen – makes us hide our heads in the sand and as if it shames us to be so intimate with each other and in the many combinations we can do so.

My thoughts then turned to the many guys who would have loved to be the twinky guy in the clip or the guys who’d want to be the “young daddy” and I shrugged to think about how difficult men can make it when, in fact, they want to be that guy in the clip I watched. They’re so… conditional, demanding in a way, and all about what they specifically want and not really giving a fuck about what they could be doing, that which is possible but, sadly, not on their preferred list of things to do with another guy.

That clip, to me, represented a display of M2M porn and as I thought it should be; again, no overacting, no outrageous displays, facial expressions, or any of the other shit that plagues and, I think, sullies M2M sex. It was sex in it’s most raw and primal way and if either man in the clip was worried about catching something because it was done in the raw, well, you didn’t see it – all you saw, at the end, was “young daddy’s” cock pumping away to complete the act of sex and intimacy and not so different from when a man is pumping away inside a woman, whether it’s porn or real life sex.

It was intimate and that, I think, is what struck me and held my attention. I thought about the bottom guys on the bi forum and how they’re embracing the intimacy of being taken, screwed, and inseminated with care; not necessarily lovingly in that romantic sense but intimately. Yeah, some guys are the raving sex-crazed lunatics you usually see in M2M porn as they impose their will and lust on a guy who’s acting like he’s being murdered and, supposedly, loving being fucked that way and, I think, absent the intimacy that should be displayed instead of showing how our lust, as men, can often make us behave badly.

No wonder there’s a lot of women who don’t wanna give us any pussy.

As I cranked up my Xbox One to go back to working on the oceans of lava I was trying to make go away, I thought about the male size queens, those dudes who defiantly say that if the other guy’s dick ain’t eight inches or better, don’t even bother to ask. “Young daddy” wasn’t gigantic but he wasn’t small, either. He didn’t have that long, fat, thick dick that a lot of men say they’d give their left nut – and their asshole – for… and I thought those size queens would have been disappointed at “young daddy’s size” and, as such, would have passed on what would have been a very intimate fucking.

Those who prefer the guy fucking them to bring lots of noise – and roughly so – would have been disappointed because “young daddy” wasn’t in a hurry… but he wasn’t really taking his time, either although, with the clip’s editing, the five minutes shown seemed to take much longer than that.

As I proceed in my task to make all that lava go away, I shrugged to myself about all of it; it just is what it is but, perhaps, not what it could be if we ever get around to getting our collective heads out of our collective assess and see this kind of sex – and even girl/girl sex – as being as normal and natural as anything else we do when we want and need to have sex.

I’m dropping block after block of red sand into the huge lake of lava that was on my agenda to get rid of and it’s something I’ve gotten so used to doing that I don’t even think about, leaving me thinking space to think about how squeamish we can be about sex – period. From M2M or F2F to group sex, open relationships and marriages to poly relationships, we often behave as if having sex in these ways is something we’re not supposed to do but we do admit or otherwise concede that sex – and having sex – is, in fact, normal… as long as it’s boy/girl only and no one else gets invited or it’s not done in the same-sex mode.

I shrugged again and even sighed when I again recognized my own lack of bias when it comes to these things because, sure, been there, done pretty much all of that stuff I just mentioned and have seen F2F up close and personal enough times to be in awe at how easily and passionately women can make love to each other and, yeah, sometimes feeling jealous about it or envious at the level of intimacy before my eyes… and even when that level of intimacy was something new for someone to experience.

I mean, who knew, right?

Not wrong, not nasty, not perverted – just sex and, perhaps, the way it’s supposed to be in giving in to one’s desires and need for sex while relishing the intimacy and, really, not being all that particular about who they’re being intimate with if that’s the way things should go in that quest for sexual satisfaction and the intimacy that goes along with it, the inherent beauty to be seen in sex, and that we don’t always pay attention to these things – but we’re quick to talk about what’s wrong about it and even quicker to lay shame on those who love that raw, beautiful, passionate and intimate moments when they’re having sex, either in the preferred way or, really, in any way that makes them happy.

Yeah, all of this popped into my head while making coffee and changing the filter and now my head is once more empty – at least for this moment.

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Posted by on 8 July 2019 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: What Men Tend to Learn

When a guy decides to take the plunge with another guy he has to learn how to have sex this way and one of the things that kinda messes with their head is the perception that getting down and dirty with a guy is very different from being with a woman but they eventually learn that, nah, it’s not really all that different.

Some men like to kiss and cuddle as a prelude to sex, like having their nipples, neck, and ears sucked or otherwise messed with, their cock sucked and some think having their ass eaten is the cat’s pajamas. For guys into getting boned in da butt, they even get to learn why women get “that look” on their faces in that moment when they’re first penetrated and the dick is going in them and, as such, they most definitely learn what it’s like to be fucked.

What they also learn is what it’s like to be subjected to another man’s lust as well as why women tend to have the opinions about us – men – when it comes to looking for sex up to and including how we can behave when we get it… and some of it isn’t what I’d call nice.

The first example of this is when guys have their first cock sucking experience. Now, I really can’t say what guys who are waiting for their first cock sucking experience think when they’re playing out that first time in their mind; what I do know is that what can happen doesn’t always match the scenario in their heads. There’s nothing more… disappointing? (can’t think of the right word – need more coffee) than to think that you’re going to be presented with the dick and you’re gonna give it the kind of attention you’ve always imagined… but the guy attached to the dick has other ideas the moment your mouth engulfs his knob.

Maybe he just chills and let you go through your discovery process or, as I’ve often heard, he starts doing shit to your mouth and as if you’re a life long master cock sucker, from trying to jam all of his dick down your throat to grabbing you by the head and fucking your face with reckless abandon and while being called all kinds of bitches, whores, etc..

And it’s more upsetting – and this is the word I should have used above – when what he does when he gets his dick in your mouth isn’t what you agreed to before the fact… and definitely not what you expected or anticipated for that storybook first time.

You find out pretty quick why some women aren’t all that enthusiastic about sucking dick.

Likewise when a guy is taking his first dick in the ass. Again, I’m thinking that a lot of guys eager and waiting for this create all kinds of scenarios in their heads for how it’ll all play out and all that. Maybe the guy takes to heart that this is your first time and does his level best to make the most difficult part – getting the dick in you – as painless as possible then giving you all the time you need to either adjust to this huge invasion as well as giving you that moment to either tap out or tell him to proceed with the fucking… and then the fucking takes place with great consideration and care until he unloads into a condom or directly into your butt, leaving you feeling pleased, satisfied and well-fucked.

Or – and again as I’ve often heard – the guy gets you into position and maybe one that wasn’t included in those scenarios, positions himself at your back door and pushes… and you almost pass out or throw up from the incredibly painful sensation and one that can never, ever match your knowledge that, yeah, it’s gonna hurt going in… and now you know what that feels like. Not only has he taken a running start and leaped into your formerly virgin hole and like you’ve been taking dick in your ass for years, he’s not even giving you a chance to get adjusted, doesn’t ask if you’re okay, and not giving you the option to tap out.

And, oh, yeah, trying to get him out of you and/or getting away from him ain’t likely to happen since, for one, you’re now fully impaled on his dick and he’s got a hold of you and you’re not going anywhere until he gets done. Before the fact, you told him to take it easy and to go slow, not so much for the enjoyment factor but ya still gotta get used to this very strange and different thing happening to your body but, nah, he’s reneged on his word to take it easy and he’s hammering your ass so hard and fast that your body is being jarred so hard that instead of that heavenly feeling you imagined, you’re about to throw up – and that’s if you didn’t barf when he slammed his dick into you in one fell swoop.

And now you’re being fucked in a way that you probably didn’t want to be fucked and you sure as hell didn’t factor this in when you were thinking about what it’s gonna be and feel like. If you were expecting some tender, gentle fucking and like you’ve seen in gay porn, well, that’s not what he’s doing! Or, if you were, in fact, expecting to get your hole ravaged – and by that big, thick dick you’ve been dreaming about, um, he’s doing anything but ravaging your virgin butthole and, as a matter of fact, he fucking you like he has all day to do it and it’s starting to seem like he’s never going to bust a nut, either in a condom or via direct injection and insemination.

Maybe he’s manhandling you in some way or otherwise making things uncomfortable, oh, like, having you in the missionary position and making your hips and legs do things that they’ve not been conditioned to do and instead of it being that heady, pleasing thing you’ve imagined, your whole body is sending a lot of red alerts to your brain as your joints, tendons, and muscles are being abused – and right along with that thick phone pole of a dick being buried in your rectum.

You find out pretty quickly why some women react the way they do when they’re being screwed in a way they didn’t want or expect to be as well as why they get leery and/or hesitant to give up the coochie to you. You learn that being subjected to a man’s lust can be very damned scary and that some guys are so Jekyll and Hyde – the nicest guy you’ve ever met before the fact, and a ravening animal once he gets his dick into your mouth or ass.

You learn that when a guy is being consumed by his lust, um, he’s not so good at following directions and you find out that if you, in any way, interrupt the flow of what they’re doing, eh, they kinda/sorta don’t like having their groove disturbed and more so if you’re complaining about something. You learn that when a guy gets his dick in your mouth or ass, he somehow suffers from hearing loss as well as a loss of vision – can’t he see and hear that you’re gagging and making those “I’m gonna hurl!” sounds as he rams all of his dick down your throat your attempts to make him back off are being ignored? Or, again, if he’s got you in the missionary position, can’t he see the obvious pained look on your face? Can’t he feel your whole body trying to remove itself from the source of the discomfort; shit, can’t he feel your hands trying to prevent him from driving all that dick into you and, likewise, isn’t he aware of how you’re struggling to get him out of you… or is he, like so many guys, misinterpreting all of this and, in his mind, he’s giving you one hell of a good fucking?

You learn why women tend to make it damned near impossible to bed them and because you’ve learned that a guy will tell you anything he thinks you want to hear in order to use his dick on you and all those conditions that you created in your head around this thing are and can be disregarded and any “promises” he made in order to get you to give it up will and can be reneged.

If you come away feeling used, abused and so dirty that no amount of soap and water will ever make you feel clean again, now you know how even you can make a woman feel when you’re subjecting her to your lust and that gut-wrenching feeling when her words tells you that she enjoyed what you did… but her body language and her eyes are saying something else. You can learn why she just might lie there and do her impersonation of a dead body while you’re doing whatever to her or that look of joy on her face isn’t because you made her feel heavenly… but the look means that she’s thrilled to no end that you’re finally finished.

You learn what it’s like to be treated like a woman and while it’s true that many men just love being treated in this way, many more men find out that, oh, hell, no – this is some fucked up shit and it sure as fuck ain’t what they thought it would be like. Yeah… you get to find out why women are often totally disillusioned the first time they get laid… and a lot of this is because what they imagined it would be like turned out not to be that fairy tale moment they envisioned… and that’s despite having their female friends telling them about their first time and how totally fucked up it turned out to be.

Yes, some guys from the very beginning want to be made a bitch for other men while those guys who’d prefer not to be somebody’s bitch learns what it’s like when the other guy is trying to do just that either by the way he’s using his dick or the verbal abuse being hurled you way when he says, “Yeah, suck daddy’s dick, bitch!” or when he’s mindlessly hammering your aching butthole and he’s saying, “Yeah, you like this dick, don’t you, bitch? Whose pussy is this? Say my name, bitch!”

Forget all that staged bullshit you see in porn; real life sex with another man can be an entirely different animal and one you may not find to your liking. It’s not to say that some guys really and truly don’t want to be taken by a man and like he’d take a woman – it’s just that a lot of guys do learn that being taken like this just ain’t their cup of tea.

Even when they know how other guys’ first time went for them and I guess even when they know this, they’re thinking, “That’s not gonna go down like that for me!” – and then it does and now they’re feeling some kind of way. Now they’re second-guessing themselves and questioning why they thought having sex with a man was such a good idea… and why they were so sure it would be all that and a bag of chips.

Now, it’s not that guys don’t have a good first experience because they do; I’m just the guy telling you that it might not be as good as you imagined or even, fuck, planned it to be. You learn that what you want and how you want it to happen can sometimes not mean a damned thing because it’s not about you – it’s about him and whatever he wants to do to you; he might start out going along with your version of how this should be and, if you’re lucky and have chosen rightly, it’s happy ending time…

Or that one nightmare you didn’t expect or anticipate and one that’s going to haunt the fuck out of you going forward and if you even move on from that horrifying first experience.

And now you know why women behave the way they do when you want to fuck them. You understand why many women make having sex with them so conditional it’s almost impossible to have sex with them because it’s almost impossible to not only meet those really exacting conditions, it’s almost impossible to consistently meet them. It’s not like some guys aren’t aware of women who are like this – it’s the thing that makes them set up their own specific and rigidly strict conditions which also has the effect of setting the bar so high that no one can reach it and, as such, they ain’t getting any dick and in whatever way they wanted it.

A lot of men get royally pissed when they run into a guy who’s behaving like a woman would and, to them, it doesn’t make any sense… but that’s because they, themselves, have no idea what it’s like to be on the receiving end of a man’s lust. Such men do, in fact, expect other guys to act and behave just as they do like that very annoying thing they like to do when they say, “Less talking, more getting to the sex – what is there to talk about? You wanna get with a dick… and I wanna give it to you so fuck all these questions and telling me what you want and how you want it and let me do what I wanna do…”

“Bitch-assed motherfucker.”

I know that when I have the honor and privilege to talk to a first-timer about this, this is the one aspect I tell them and one I really want them to understand: What you’re thinking is one thing but what might really happen could be something else. If you’ve read all of this – and I do hope that you have – you might get the impression that by telling a guy all of this, I’m trying to talk him out of taking the plunge… and you’d be right on the money. I’ve learned that a lot of guys get into this with no real clue about how surreal this can be and that whatever they’ve imagined it’s going to be like may or may not match up nicely or perfectly. I even tell them to think about how they go about propositioning women for sex and, if successful, how they have that sex with them and, specifically, how they behave when laying the pipe to her and, being specific again, asking them if they’ve ever really paid attention to how the woman they’re fucking is reacting.

And if they do, in fact, know this and are aware of their actions, well, now, this is something you can look forward to experiencing when you get naked with a guy and his dick gets hard. Maybe he’ll take your ideas or whatever into consideration and give you the first experience and the way you imagined it would be… and, really, chances are very good that you’re about to get one hell of a wakeup call.

And let’s keep in mind that a lot of guys aren’t all that aware of how women behave when they have sex with them, let alone what they’re doing, how they’re doing it and most certainly whatever is going to come out of their mouth when trying to convince a woman that she’s not making a mistake by letting you get at her.

I can pretty much guarantee that if you didn’t know, you’re gonna find out.

Even those guys who, for their first experience, imagine themselves being the top, serving up the dick and running the whole show because, you know how it is, they want to retain every aspect of their masculinity and are expecting the other guy to be just as masculine as they treat them just like any other woman they’ve ever had sex with… only to find out he’s dealing with a guy who’s behaving like a woman would, asking a shitload of questions, setting a lot of very specific conditions and wanting another shitload of assurances and other such things and before he’ll even consider meeting you, let alone getting naked with you.

To those guys, well, you just might be in for a big surprise and more so if you’ve determined and set the condition in your mind that dicking down a feminine-acting guy isn’t going to be your idea of fun. You may even be forming your “I’m the boss here and what I say goes” plans and part of your master plan is to avoid any emotional attachment and, usually, guys plan for this because they have no fucking idea how powerful sex is and what it can do to someone else, oh, like, totally unlocking emotions that are usually tightly locked down in all most all men.

If ya think like this, oh, boy, are you about to get one hell of an education! Hell, even my protege tells me that it drives him totally batshit when the guys he’s with behaves like a woman would with all the conditions and need for assurances like being exclusively his guy and other things that, I think, guys who decide to be a top don’t ever think about.

They “foolishly” expect and require other men to act like men at all times and that’s just unrealistic.

Guys get a hard and fast lesson in not only what it’s like to be the girl in this but an equally hard and fast lesson of how “I want what I want and the exact way I want it!” doesn’t mean shit because this kind of thinking doesn’t match up with the other guy’s version of this.

And how having this mindset prevents them from doing whatever they wanna do with another guy. And you know how it goes: I’m the guy who will tell you about this and tell you how very real it is because I, too, learned these lessons and, yeah, sometimes, the hard way.

And most guys do learn this the hard way right from the start, I’m sorry to say. It’s why so many men who were eager to dive in wind up being discouraged, disappointed, disillusioned and just all kinds of fucked up in the head because what they thought or imagined – or finely tuning what they want and the way they want it…

Doesn’t mean jack shit. You don’t have to believe me but rest assured that at some point, you’re gonna find out that I wasn’t bullshitting you.

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Posted by on 4 July 2019 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Is It Asking Too Much?

A guy on the “new forum” asked this question and with reference to his desire to be the “monkey in the middle” as two guys have their way with him, one in his butt, the other in his mouth. The membership was pretty positive with their comments and quite a few wrote that they’d be eager to experience this themselves.

Is it asking too much? Well, no, not really – whatever floats your boat and all that and the fantasy of such a thing can be pretty exciting to think about; it doesn’t surprise me at all that a lot of guys want to have this MMM experience because, if nothing else, it’s a… test of concept (and because I can’t think of anything else to call it) that provide additional “proof” that they like dick as much as they’ve found that they do. It’s also quite the challenge and not just because you’ve got two horny dudes working together to do a number on you.

It’s challenging because most people don’t have a clue about having sex with more than one person. One of the things that is assumed – and I really don’t know why – is that three guys getting together to have sex with each other not only makes sense but it’s not as difficult as, say, getting a woman to join two guys in bed… when it’s not as easy as it’s presumed to be because, as I’ve said a lot, guys are funnier about this than women are.

Some MMM threesomes do happen spontaneously; to one and all involved, sure, sounds like it’ll be fun – let’s do it! But it’s something that has to be planned and with particular focus on the participants and their unique personalities, those things they find attractive about men and, importantly, their willingness to share something in a group setting that, as a matter of course, is more of a one-on-one activity

You’d think that “Pete,” “Frank,” and “Earl,” because they all like dick, they’d be on the same page about this and be more than eager to do it… and you’d be mistaken because for a MMM threesome to jump off, there’s more to it than all three guys liking dick. There are a lot of questions to be answered before “Pete” invites the other two guys:

  1. Are they even interested in doing it like this? Some guys dream about this act between three guys but doesn’t mean they really wanna do it like that.
  2. Does everyone know each other and, if so, do they even like each other enough to get naked in this group setting?
  3. Does anyone have any modesty or other issues that might be a problem pulling this off? As an example, if “Earl” is feeling some kind of way about the size of his cock, it’s one thing to let one guy get at him… but two? This situation gets “worse” in the case where “Earl” is very familiar with “Pete…” but doesn’t know “Frank” all that well.
  4. What’s everyone’s idea of being sexually attracted? It’s not unusual for guys to know and like each other enough to hang out… but when it comes to doing the nasty, eh, not really each other’s type so much even though all three guys like cock and ass.

I’ve found that if these things aren’t taken into consideration when thinking, “Ya know, I think it’d be fun if all of us got nasty with each other!” uh, things usually don’t go very well. Sure, you get some guys sauced enough, their inhibitions take a hike, and they’re all gung-ho for whatever happens but, conversely, the removal of their inhibitions might reveal that they’re a lot more nervous in the service than their un-sauced behavior tends to indicate; they’d be just fine in a one-on-one setting but a group thing lights up all kinds of caution lights.

If there’s some reluctance, sure, it’s possible to get all persons involved engaged in something but with a cloud of reticence hanging over things that, frankly, ain’t gonna be a good thing. I’ve heard guys talk about their unsuccessful attempts at this and they’ve wondered just what the fuck went wrong… and what went wrong is that they overlooked the fact that guys are funny about how they have sex and more so if they’ve never been in this situation before. It’s one thing to be talking to a guy and this comes up and he says, in theory, that he thinks this would be hot and all that… and obviously something very different when he finds himself in that moment of truth.

It’s deeply ingrained in us to only have sex with one person at a time and it’s not easy to set this aside even though ya might think it would be fun; shit, some guys are funny about getting undressed in front of just one guy so you might be able to imagine how getting undressed before two guys might make them feel. Some guys are even funny about the dicks they like to play with so if a guy is a fan of cut cocks and now he’s with two other guys – and one of them is uncut – oops; that might be a problem.

Ditto for cock size. A lot of guys subscribe to the “bigger is better” school of thought and guys who have issues with the size of their dick might not be of a mind to let more than one person know that they don’t measure up and “as expected.” And, yeah, some guys have self-esteem issues about the condition of their body and it can be a stretch to initially get naked with one guy but really pushes their comfort level when there are two guys eyeballing them from head to toe… and they might not like what they see.

I’d say that it’s not asking to much to want what you want… but you might be asking a lot of other guys you might want to engage with. There are, in fact, a lot of guys who think they can do this; they also find out that thinking and doing sure as fuck ain’t the same things.

Cityman asked me one time (actually more than once but I digress on this one) if being in a threesome would bother me and I had to laugh since, um, I’ve participated in more group sex than most people I know so this is old hat as far as I’m concerned. We got into a lot of situational and conditional things that involved preferences and one’s thoughts about what’s sexually attractive and what isn’t and I allowed that, sure, one must consider these things before agreeing to join the party but a lot of it has to do with how one thinks about having sex and I said to him, when we talked about preferences, that if there’s a preference to really be taken into consideration, it’s the preference to have sex that stands out the most.

If you let what you like and don’t like into the mix, um, ah, ya might find that being able to jump in there and have a fun good time might be hard to do. Which is why planning these things and hashing out the details is, to me, a necessary and important thing to do because there’s nothing that will kill a sexy moment faster than someone doing something that someone else doesn’t like – and no one knew that they didn’t like whatever happened.

Just having a liking when it comes to playing with a dick isn’t enough; there are just too many other things that play into this and while a MMM tryst can jump off spontaneously, it usually works out better for one and all when you can get everyone to buy into it, allay any fears or concerns, and other things that will make having one guy plowing your south forty while another reams out your tonsils a very satisfying thing to do.


Posted by on 5 May 2019 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Pull the Trigger

It’s a difficult thing for some budding bisexuals to do, even after spending x-amount of time investigating this same-sex thing to the best of their ability and with any means at their disposal. Even when armed with all the information they can gather, both the good and bad of it, there’s still the moment of truth; likewise, regardless of how well they’ve convinced themselves that this has to be done, not only to answer all those questions but to put their minds at ease, the moment of truth trips a lot of people up.

Once again, I point out that despite what we tend to believe, thinking and doing aren’t the same things.

It’s a paralyzing moment in time, the polar opposite of the mind being willing but the flesh being weak. The flesh is anything but weak but the mind is all over the place as it rehashes every little nitpicking thing that it’s already processed and even then tending to focus on the negatives. I don’t really know how it works with women – they don’t really talk about such things and if they do, they sure as hell don’t talk about it with guys so much but with guys, getting to the point where they can pull the trigger is often filled with moments of false starts and even more moments of second-guessing themselves and to the extent that I’ve seen guys be naked and obviously quite aroused, their finger poised on the trigger…

And they just can’t squeeze it. I’ve seen all kinds of reactions in this moment, from panic/anxiety attacks to becoming physically ill, from guys crying as if someone just murdered their favorite pet to even guys laughing hysterically when, obviously, this moment of truth is anything but a laughing matter. Once, a guy was so… discombobulated in this moment that he wound up spraying spunk all over me and elsewhere and I’m pretty sure he wasn’t even aware that his body was doing it.

I’ve seen guys get bitch-slapped with the truth of themselves; they thought they could do it, knew they wanted to and even had to and in that moment of truth, well, it’s not that they’re “wrong” about the decisions they’ve made that got them to this critical point.

It’s that shit just got very real and way beyond anything they could have imagined. Now, some guys, in this very terrifying moment, wind up just saying, “Fuck it!” and they pull the trigger even though, inside their head, their thoughts and feelings are so jumbled and confusing that thinking almost becomes impossible to do – it’s their brain on overload and trying to process a crazy amount of information in a really short period of time. I’ve seen that “Fuck it!” moment on their faces and I’ve actually heard them say this and, being the ever-curious person I’ve always been, it makes me wonder just what was going on in their head that made them “throw caution to the wind” and utter those two words to themselves or aloud.

It’s easy to say to a guy standing on the precipice to just take that last step when their thoughts and feelings are so frenzied that even if they literally had to take one step, they can’t do it. I’ve seen guys get really pissed with themselves because they’ve gotten right there, everything is good and ready to go and they’re almost literally frozen in place, their finger on that metaphysical trigger and maybe even squeezed almost to the trigger break…

And I’ve wondered what’s going on in their minds in that moment and I’ve been fortunate to have had a lot of guys tell me about this and as best they can. It’s generally a mix of fear and excitement, a lot of uncertainty mashed up with certainty and along with this mishmash of confusing thoughts and feelings, the more prevailing thought of whether or not they’re really trying to do the right thing for themselves.

I’ve even had them ask me, “Am I doing the right thing?” and the bad part for me is that it’s a question I cannot answer for them and, really, no one can except, duh, the guy asking the question.

They say that, usually, the first answer you come up with is usually the right one and my mom used to tell us, “If you study long, you study wrong.” I used to wonder what the hell that meant but what I eventually learned is that you can come up with the right answer the first time but the more you think about it, you’ll eventually – and somehow – manage to convince yourself that the answer you initially came up with isn’t the right answer and, oddly, it’s something one can see when taking multiple-choice tests.

As a mentor and a “first-time provider,” this is the moment in time where I’ll tell a guy who can’t finish pulling the trigger to not force himself to pull it: If you can’t, then don’t. I’ve heard of other guys in this situation insisting that the trigger be pulled and, often, with disastrous results for the other guy. I’ve had this suggestion met with some extra confusion and guys asking me, “Don’t you want to do this?” And, for me, there’s only one answer.

“I’d love to… but not at the expense of your sanity. This isn’t about me – this is about you.” I’ve even found myself explaining that for me, this is a no-brainer – it’s not something I have to really give a lot of thought about because, duh, this isn’t my first time but, importantly, this isn’t my first time giving a guy his first time and I’ve learned a few things about this, like, if the guy can’t do it, don’t let him do it.

To the question of how one can get to the moment of truth and complete the trigger pull, my answer probably isn’t what one would say a good one: I don’t know other than they have to find it within themselves to take the next step and not let their fears or other concerns make them “study wrong.” Which, of course, is easier said than done. If you think that you’re about to make a mistake, well, let’s not let that happen. If you’re not sure, let’s just stop and do nothing until such time you are sure.

And if you never get to a moment of certainty, that’s fine and it’s nothing to be ashamed of because, remember, I did tell you that doing this ain’t as easy as it might appear to be.

For anyone thinking about taking the plunge, ya need to be aware of this moment. You may be 100% sure that this is what you need to do and you can be equally sure that you can do it and I’m the guy who’s telling you that you could get to the moment of truth and it’s time to pull the trigger… and ya might not be able to. I’m the guy telling you there’s nothing to be ashamed of if you can’t – it happens and sometimes it happens to even the most experienced of us.

If you can pull the trigger, then pull it and have fun… but if you can’t, then don’t.

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Posted by on 14 April 2019 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: And Now, A Contradiction of Sorts

I was just re-reading TBT: It Ain’t Pretty But it Works and the part about making eye contact when sucking dick caught my attention. I read it, agree and stand by what I wrote but, um, shit – I thought of a reason why one would look at the guy being sucked – and it has everything to do with a newbie losing his oral cherry.

Not so much a real contradiction to what I wrote but an exception because, at least in the way I do things, when giving a guy his first male-provided blow job, it’s important to pay attention to how he’s doing and to see that, uh, you gotta look at him as well as stop what you’re doing and ask if he’s okay… because despite the hardness of the dick in your mouth, he might not be as okay as you think he is or should be.

As I re-read things, I thought, “Shit… how could I forget that?” An easy answer – I wasn’t thinking about the exception at the time so as I open the editor to share this with y’all, I thought about what I’ve seen when I’ve glanced up to see how he’s doing.

Some guys have their eyes closed, which I’d say is fairly normal – but if their eyes appear to be tightly closed, that could be an indication that he’s having an “issue” about what’s going on south of his navel. Some guys have their eyes open but in a half-lidded kind of way because, again, men are visual creatures when it comes to sex so watching someone sucking your dick – and when that someone isn’t supposed to be a guy – can be very visually appealing.

Then there are the guys who have their eyes open so wide that those proverbial dinner plates comes to mind… and the look on their face tends to say, “I don’t believe this is happening!” When I see this particular look, I’ll admit that I find it difficult not to laugh and more so when I can well imagine what’s going on inside their head.

Sometimes you can look at a guy and, via the look on his face or his body language, tell that he’s trying to cope with what he’s seeing and definitely feeling… and sometimes, what’s going on inside his head isn’t a good thing and chances are good that even as he’s being sucked, he’s second-guessing his decision to go through with this. Sometimes this having second thoughts thing appears right away and is rather apparent… because not only isn’t he already hard, he’s not gonna get hard because his thoughts are too distracting… which is why I’ll stop, ask if he’s okay, and suggest that he literally stop thinking and just relax – and, yes, I do know that this is easier said than done but it’s also important, by checking on him like this, to let him know that you’re not gonna leave him hanging and that you want him to have the best possible first experience.

Sometimes they can relax and just let it happen, sometimes they can’t so you just stop and have a conversation about it because, again, you want him to really be okay and not give him the impression that you think he made the wrong decision to go for it. Usually – and in my experiences – you have a talk about it, he gets it back together and, some time later, he’s happily exploding.

Or he’s apologizing for something that’s not really his fault and it’s just as important to not give him the impression that you’re pissed because he couldn’t continue.

But to see the signs, you really do have to look because if he’s looking, um, what he’s seeing might not be pretty and now it’s a matter of getting him to pay more attention to what’s being done and not so much about who’s doing it.

Just had to correct my oversight on that part. Admittedly, if there’s a second time with the former newbie, nah, I’m not looking at him and I can confirm that for those who’ve done me, um, they’re too busy getting the hang of what they’re doing to be getting distracted by looking at me and in that doe-eyed, cock-worshiping way that, again, pornography just loves to plant in the minds of many.

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Posted by on 23 January 2019 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: It Ain’t Pretty But It Works

While struggling through a quest playing “We Happy Few,” I was distracting my growing frustration with the game by thinking about the gist of yesterday’s TBT – “Again, Why?” and the many questions some folks tend to ask about bisexuality. There really is a lot of “common sense” that plays into this – it’s just a matter of how one might define common sense and, for the most part, bisexuality seems to be just outside of what we normally think of as common sense.

Even bisexuals tend to overthink this at times as they search for much deeper meanings and probably because the simplest explanations don’t seem to be… valid? Can’t really be why they are the way they are? Just too easy an answer to all of this?

I’m going through my third attempt to finish this quest in the game and I’m nodding to myself despite frowning because I’m injured and my life meter is heading south… and I can’t find my “healing balm” anywhere in my inventory – but I have a few of them. The questions people might ask do make sense since bisexuality is couched in a bit of mystery, misconceptions, and stereotypes and, again, I’m nodding to myself… while waiting to recover from my most recent death and debating on how I’m gonna get this stupid quest done.

One objection I’ve heard popped into my head; I seem to remember reading it somewhere but it’s been so long ago that trying to figure out when I read it would give me a headache (and on top of the one the game was giving me): It doesn’t look sexy or, at the very least, some folks don’t believe it looks sexy, erotic, or anything that sensually pleasing.

For the most part, they’re right… but I was kinda unsure as to why this seems to be the way it is. I put an image of a man and woman having sex onto the screen of my mind and while there are some folks who’d not find this sexy or exciting, most people do so that checks one box and more so since when we think about sex, this is the image that pops into our heads. Then I put up an image of two women having sex and, again, while there are some folks who’d say, “Ew!” to seeing such a scene, it still lends itself to being quite erotic – so that’s another box checked since while we tend to fuss about anything that looks like lesbianism, we just accept that women get a pass on this one.

Tossed up a picture of two guys being in the moment… and the screen “locked up” and, in real time, I’m frowning again and it doesn’t have anything to do with the game at this point. I got the image unstuck and let it run from the moment these two nameless and faceless guys met right through the whole process of them having sex and, yep, it might sound weird coming from me but, nope – doesn’t look sexy at all… if you’re thinking about “conventional sex.”

Why is that? My mind latched onto something, that being, that my first “look” at this was me looking at the participants and not what they were doing and then seeing that nagging pre-programmed warning flash that guys aren’t supposed to be doing this to each other and since I tend to ignore that warning, it made the scene in my mind not look good.

Ah. I wound things back and instead of focusing on the participants, I focused on what they were doing and that allowed me to see that what they were actually doing wasn’t really all that different from what the other images portrayed – kissing, fondling, oral sex, putting A into B or C as required, orgasm and where applicable, ejaculation.

Yeah… it ain’t pretty to look at but it does work just the same. I got to thinking about porn, not so much in terms of what sex is happening but in the many ways they show people getting their freak on and how they try to make it look visually appealing while allowing that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. In the genre of gay porn, they go out of their way to show it and in the same, loving and tender way you’d watch some straight or even lesbian porn or, um, how they’ll also show us the raw, savage passion and lust that’s also involved when we have sex with each other.

So when someone sees two guys in the beginning stages of having sex, nope, it ain’t pretty to look at and that, by itself, is interesting because porn aside, we know or can otherwise reasonably assume that guys start doing the nasty to each other in similar ways they’d do it with a woman – it just looks very weird to see two guys doing it – but not so weird watching two women tongue-kissing each other to death – and, again, it’s because it’s firmly implanted into our minds that guys aren’t supposed to be doing it but, huh, there they are doing what we think and insist shouldn’t be done.

My mind moved away from this initial view of things and latched onto something I actually heard a woman say: “Men don’t look good sucking dick!” I remember laughing at this because, um, does anyone actually look good sucking dick? Oh, wait – that’s right – porn can “make” a woman look so hot and sensual sucking on a dick… but where it destroys the illusion of “looking good” is when they show guys sucking cock and in what they think is a very sensual and erotic way… and I’ll confess that even I think it doesn’t look good… but that’s probably because I happen to know how guys really suck dick.

Some women have a problem with how porn objectifies them, like in how they show all women worshiping the dick and as if their very lives depend on it… and porn show guys doing the exact same thing… and it ain’t pretty and, admittedly, even in this new wave of amateur gay porn, it looks even less pretty. I honestly cannot remember lying back and having a guy who’s sucking my dick look up at me with such “desire” and “intensity” and just like I can’t remember ever doing that while sucking cock. I’m not saying that some guys don’t do this… but you gotta question why they go about sucking cock and in the same way you’d see a woman doing it in porn.

And I’m thinking that it’s the way it’s supposed to be done, theoretically speaking; I’ve even read “how-to” stuff about how to suck a dick and that making eye contact with the guy you’re blowing is a must-do thing and, I guess, to really cement that physical and “emotional” connection… except, um, er, do people – as a rule – really suck dick like that?

We’re paying attention to who’s doing it… but perhaps not so much to what’s being done? We see how it’s being done and, okay, when it’s two guys, sure – it ain’t pretty. One can, if they’re of a mind to, see the beauty and eroticism of a cock being sucked if they can not pay a whole lot of attention to who’s doing the sucking.

Time to fuck. Watching one guy fuck another guy, again, ain’t pretty to look at, not in the sense that watching a guy laying the pipe to a woman… but, once more, we’re conditioned to disapprove of a guy plowing another guy’s south forty. Porn, jeez, porn tries to show this in the same sensual light as any boy/girl sex you’ve ever seen… and it still ain’t pretty to look at. It’s still not to say that guys don’t lay the pipe to guys in that sexy, erotic way… still doesn’t look right and more so when, um, you consider the hole being fucked; yet, one can see a guy corn-holing a woman and, okay, nothing all that “wrong” happening here.

So no – when it’s two guys doing whatever to each other, it ain’t pretty if you’re paying attention to the fact that it’s two guys doing it and, again, not so much attention to what’s really going on – it’s just sex. Even for those folks who don’t watch porn, you get this idea in your head of what sex is supposed to look like as well as the reason for having sex in the first place… and it’s not because of having sex for the sake of having it.

And then, let’s not forget or loose sight of the fact that two people having sex can be quite erotic but, um, look at their faces they make while doing it – I’m sure that everyone is aware of their “fuck face” when they’re getting busy. I thought about sex scenes in movies and even when they show the simulated sex as hot and passionate, just take her up against the wall right then and there and, my, my – don’t they look good doing this? I also had to laugh because, usually, the next scene shown are the two lovers lying in bed and they have to get outta bed for some reason… and not only do they both look like a million dollars and not like they had sex, sometimes, they’re not even naked – the guy has his underwear on, the woman clad in bra and panties. Yeah, depending on the movie’s rating, there’s only so much that can be shown… but even the movies make sex look good and when, in reality, it ain’t pretty to look at.

But it still works. A woman told me that she thought and felt that two guys sucking each other’s dicks was disgusting and I asked her why because I really wanted to know. She said that when she thinks about it, well, it’s just disgusting and I asked her if she’d ever actually seen two guys blowing each other and she said that she hadn’t and wouldn’t want to… and I realized that in her mind, she’d already decided that whatever image her brain provided for this – and given that she’d never seen it for herself – made it disgusting.

I said, “Well, you suck dick – do you consider that to be disgusting to picture in your mind?”

And you know that she said that it wasn’t and that indicated to me that she, like so many others, was paying more attention to who was doing it than they were what was being done, even if only within the confines of their thoughts. Guys just ain’t supposed to be having any kind of sex with each other so it’s ugly-looking and disgusting.

The thing is that it’s not supposed to look pretty – it’s just supposed to work and when it’s two guys blowing the living daylights out of each other, it does work and even when it’s not supposed to. We take it as a given that only women are supposed to suck dick and be fucked… even though we also take it as a given that this is untrue… but because it’s not supposed to happen – whether it’s boy/boy or girl/girl – it takes the shine off of the visual aspects of sex.

I mean, seriously and, again, it’ll sound weird coming from me, but I can see a scene of two guys sucking or fucking – and doing the same things I’ve done – and can easily see how “ugly” it looks… but I’m not looking at who’s doing it – I’m looking at what’s being done and why it’s being done as well as from a dual perspective, you know, as someone who’s had a guy blow him and as someone who has been doing the blowing. So, it all makes sense to me…

It ain’t pretty… but it still works. I’ve heard people say that they don’t understand the need for this and, again, the simplest answer is the best one: It feels good and, for guys, usually results in a toe-curling moment of ejaculation. Is it pretty to watch? No, not really but I say again, it’s not supposed to look pretty – it just has to work and it does work quite well. What’s the difference between a woman doing this and a guy doing it? It’s who’s doing it… and not what’s being done and for a woman to do it, it’s seen and accepted as being less disgusting looking that when it’s a guy doing it – well, maybe some women wouldn’t readily agree with this but, yeah, it’s the way we tend to think about such things.

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Posted by on 22 January 2019 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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Random thoughts from a random mind


Writing about recovery.

When you feel like giving up......

If you feel sexy you are sexy!!

The Watering Hole

Where everyone comes to quench their thirst for insight to life's challenging questions.


Parts Of My Life

Date A Bisexual


The Wise Serpent


Fetishes, Gender Issues, Sexual Politics, Erotic Memoirs

a worried whimsy

bouncing between happy and anxious

ann st vincent

My journey through marriage, open marriage, divorce, being a Mom, sexual rebirth, online dating, failed relationships, and lots of sex

The Self-Actualized Life

Have a fulfilling life sexually and every other way!

Larry Archer's World (

------ Erotica from the dirty mind of Larry Archer


is there a path to a successful open marriage?


The silent inside of an anonymous Indian rebelling against society

The (Bi)te

The uninteresting world of a young bisexual girl


What Perspective Matters Most Depends on Your Perception


Just my random thoughts and meanderings... I'll try to keep you entertained


when and why size matters


I write when the choice is to die if I don't

My SEXuality

Why am I afraid to tell you who I'am?

Confessions of a Cheating Housewife

...because love just isn't enough ;)

Apparently I Don't Exist

The Many Adventures of a Bisexual Genderqueer

foreverdreamingoflove 💋

WARNING **This Blog Is For Mature Audiences OVER THE AGE OF 18**

Writing Myself into a Hole

The flailing scraps of a struggling writer. Original fiction and creative whining, whenever my petulance will allow it.