I’m kinda staring at my Dashboard and notice that an old post about asking for a bro-job as returned to the Top Post thingy and the question of how do you ask a guy if he wants to suck dick with you popped into my head…
And the answer is, “Very carefully.”
Experience taught me that some bro-jobs… just kinda happen on their own and, sometimes, neither guy is… predisposed to cocksucking. As I’ve written many times, I’ve just been hanging with a guy, we’re both bored out of our minds and… dicks get sucked. Now, for me, it’s not a big deal but I’d get surprised to hear a straight guy even hinting that, um, you know, if we were to do this, it’d be a good thing… wouldn’t it?
Or all of those times when I’ve sat and watched guys… make themselves look pretty silly throwing all kinds of silly hints that are all about them not minding if I were to suck their dick and some even “sweeting the pot” by hinting that, um, they might be willing to give it a try. I’m now thinking about asking for a bro-job and trying to remember… if I’ve actually ever asked a guy if he’d be interested in blowing me.
Honestly, I’m not sure I remember if I had but, then again, I “usually” didn’t have to ask because I’d get asked to give one or if I’d mind if he sucked me off and, hell, no, I wouldn’t mind at all… as long as I got to suck his dick, too. I got to thinking that Younger Me, sheesh, all you had to do was show me your dick and I’d start drooling and I wanna suck it and, I guess, the good and “bad” thing was that a lot of guys knew that… but even then, I seem to recall that it was rare that I’d ask a guy if I could suck his dick. I realized that, um, there were a lot of times (and I’m being nice by saying it like that) where I wanted to suck a guy’s dick, but I’d learned some hard lessons from other guys who asked “the wrong guy” and what happened next wasn’t nice and could be quite bloody.
Besides, why ask when a guy would ask me? Teenaged Me would start hearing the “beating around the bush” stuff that would continue on into the young adult years, like, “Yo, um, what would you do if a dude asked if he could suck your dick?” and since I’d learned that there are some guys that you’d better not say anything about being a cocksucker, my answer could be anything from, “I’d let him!” to “I’d tell him no!” and learning that… there was more to the question; it was a prelude to and for a guy to ask me if he could suck my dick and, um, if I’d be okay sucking his.
Well, since you asked nicely…
What I didn’t immediately figure out was why beat around the bush; why not just ask me directly and… like Younger Me was very used to? Oh, that’s right: That’s some gay-assed shit! Having to learn the difference between a guy asking such a question in a general sort of way and him wanting to coat my tonsils with his cum and that wasn’t easy to discern and, yeah, suffering some embarrassment and humiliation to tell a guy that, sure, I’d blow him and, shit, it was a general kind of question! So, I learned to just sit and wait to see where this conversation was going and one of benefits I gained from this – other than sucking dick/being sucked – was learning how to make “snap decisions” on the fly and without requiring a “whole lot” of information and more so when these offers were of the one-time variety. It got me to pay a lot of attention to a guy’s personality and mindset so that I wouldn’t make a mistake… and I’d made “too many” of them by sucking off “the wrong guy.”
Once I got the gist of how homeboy was tap-dancing all around directly asking me, I’d be thinking about (a) all of the things I’ve been hearing and seeing about him and (b) whether I’m going to say yes or no and, sometimes, (c) do I even feel like it, right now or later or whatever. Sometimes, I’d play dumb and act like I have no idea what he’s hinting at because he’s either (a) going to give up throwing hints at me or (b) come right out and ask if I’d want to get into some cocksucking with him – and, sometimes, (a) and (b) would be like… cause and effect. I learned that… hints tend to go right over my head, making me feel a little silly once it was pointed out to me that, yeah, there was a pretty strong hint… and I didn’t get it.
That’s okay because when I get your dick in my mouth, I’ll make up for that… but, yeah, you could have just come right out and ask me. Yeah, I know why they don’t, and, in many cases, they had no idea that I’d be down with it although I have had a “few” guys come right out and ask to be sucked or can they suck. As I’ve mentioned about this before, different reasons for this from being bored and horny to being quite desperate for some kind of sexual release and… if no one minds, it’s not gonna matter.
Other things to be considered and beginning with… being predisposed to having sex like this which, obviously, is a major plus; having said that, I learned that you just never know what might be going through a guy’s mind. He could be curious or, as I found with some guys, they were already bi but not of a mind to let their secret be known. I’ve been in this moment with some guys who start out saying that they’d never do that but then, they change their mind and… here comes the comedy show of beating bushes.
“Man… I wouldn’t mind getting my dick sucked right about now…” is usually a clue and more so if he doesn’t mention a woman. I agree: I wouldn’t mind that either but where I come from, the sucking is mutual, you know, if you ain’t scared. I recall one guy who kept going in this particular direction and annoyingly so, making me ask him, “Is there something you wanna ask me and, if so, damn it, ask!”
Not that I didn’t know where he was headed but by this time in my life, I was firmly of a mind that if you want it, ask for it.
I’ve selectively offered them and it’s risky to do so which goes right back to the answer back in the beginning: How you ask a guy for a blowjob is… very carefully. Many moment when I knew that it should go down and… it didn’t but seeing the guy the next day and he mentions that if I had asked him to blow me, he would have and, well, shit. Not a given that the offer still stands, though. Or the one guy sitting on my sofa and squirming and readjusting himself because he had a good-sized boner, it’s just the two of us and he excused himself to use the bathroom… so he could jerk off and I know that because I heard him, which tells you that he was beating the shit out of his meat.
I wasn’t beyond fucking with him. Not only did I tell him that I heard him from where I was sitting, uh, um, I would have sucked his dick if he had asked.
“Oh, now you tell me,” he groaned and I… just shrugged because I don’t have a problem giving a guy a blow job… but again, if you want it, ask for it.
Because if I want to suck your dick or, yeah, ladies, eat that pussy, I’m gonna ask. After quite a few years of watching guys making me laugh at their antics, I resolved that the best way to get this done is to be direct and whatever happens, happens. And despite what some folks say about the sexuality of the guys in question, it’s not really a sexuality thing… but it is a sex thing and…
I won’t tell if you won’t.
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