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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Is It Asking Too Much?

A guy on the “new forum” asked this question and with reference to his desire to be the “monkey in the middle” as two guys have their way with him, one in his butt, the other in his mouth. The membership was pretty positive with their comments and quite a few wrote that they’d be eager to experience this themselves.

Is it asking too much? Well, no, not really – whatever floats your boat and all that and the fantasy of such a thing can be pretty exciting to think about; it doesn’t surprise me at all that a lot of guys want to have this MMM experience because, if nothing else, it’s a… test of concept (and because I can’t think of anything else to call it) that provide additional “proof” that they like dick as much as they’ve found that they do. It’s also quite the challenge and not just because you’ve got two horny dudes working together to do a number on you.

It’s challenging because most people don’t have a clue about having sex with more than one person. One of the things that is assumed – and I really don’t know why – is that three guys getting together to have sex with each other not only makes sense but it’s not as difficult as, say, getting a woman to join two guys in bed… when it’s not as easy as it’s presumed to be because, as I’ve said a lot, guys are funnier about this than women are.

Some MMM threesomes do happen spontaneously; to one and all involved, sure, sounds like it’ll be fun – let’s do it! But it’s something that has to be planned and with particular focus on the participants and their unique personalities, those things they find attractive about men and, importantly, their willingness to share something in a group setting that, as a matter of course, is more of a one-on-one activity

You’d think that “Pete,” “Frank,” and “Earl,” because they all like dick, they’d be on the same page about this and be more than eager to do it… and you’d be mistaken because for a MMM threesome to jump off, there’s more to it than all three guys liking dick. There are a lot of questions to be answered before “Pete” invites the other two guys:

  1. Are they even interested in doing it like this? Some guys dream about this act between three guys but doesn’t mean they really wanna do it like that.
  2. Does everyone know each other and, if so, do they even like each other enough to get naked in this group setting?
  3. Does anyone have any modesty or other issues that might be a problem pulling this off? As an example, if “Earl” is feeling some kind of way about the size of his cock, it’s one thing to let one guy get at him… but two? This situation gets “worse” in the case where “Earl” is very familiar with “Pete…” but doesn’t know “Frank” all that well.
  4. What’s everyone’s idea of being sexually attracted? It’s not unusual for guys to know and like each other enough to hang out… but when it comes to doing the nasty, eh, not really each other’s type so much even though all three guys like cock and ass.

I’ve found that if these things aren’t taken into consideration when thinking, “Ya know, I think it’d be fun if all of us got nasty with each other!” uh, things usually don’t go very well. Sure, you get some guys sauced enough, their inhibitions take a hike, and they’re all gung-ho for whatever happens but, conversely, the removal of their inhibitions might reveal that they’re a lot more nervous in the service than their un-sauced behavior tends to indicate; they’d be just fine in a one-on-one setting but a group thing lights up all kinds of caution lights.

If there’s some reluctance, sure, it’s possible to get all persons involved engaged in something but with a cloud of reticence hanging over things that, frankly, ain’t gonna be a good thing. I’ve heard guys talk about their unsuccessful attempts at this and they’ve wondered just what the fuck went wrong… and what went wrong is that they overlooked the fact that guys are funny about how they have sex and more so if they’ve never been in this situation before. It’s one thing to be talking to a guy and this comes up and he says, in theory, that he thinks this would be hot and all that… and obviously something very different when he finds himself in that moment of truth.

It’s deeply ingrained in us to only have sex with one person at a time and it’s not easy to set this aside even though ya might think it would be fun; shit, some guys are funny about getting undressed in front of just one guy so you might be able to imagine how getting undressed before two guys might make them feel. Some guys are even funny about the dicks they like to play with so if a guy is a fan of cut cocks and now he’s with two other guys – and one of them is uncut – oops; that might be a problem.

Ditto for cock size. A lot of guys subscribe to the “bigger is better” school of thought and guys who have issues with the size of their dick might not be of a mind to let more than one person know that they don’t measure up and “as expected.” And, yeah, some guys have self-esteem issues about the condition of their body and it can be a stretch to initially get naked with one guy but really pushes their comfort level when there are two guys eyeballing them from head to toe… and they might not like what they see.

I’d say that it’s not asking to much to want what you want… but you might be asking a lot of other guys you might want to engage with. There are, in fact, a lot of guys who think they can do this; they also find out that thinking and doing sure as fuck ain’t the same things.

Cityman asked me one time (actually more than once but I digress on this one) if being in a threesome would bother me and I had to laugh since, um, I’ve participated in more group sex than most people I know so this is old hat as far as I’m concerned. We got into a lot of situational and conditional things that involved preferences and one’s thoughts about what’s sexually attractive and what isn’t and I allowed that, sure, one must consider these things before agreeing to join the party but a lot of it has to do with how one thinks about having sex and I said to him, when we talked about preferences, that if there’s a preference to really be taken into consideration, it’s the preference to have sex that stands out the most.

If you let what you like and don’t like into the mix, um, ah, ya might find that being able to jump in there and have a fun good time might be hard to do. Which is why planning these things and hashing out the details is, to me, a necessary and important thing to do because there’s nothing that will kill a sexy moment faster than someone doing something that someone else doesn’t like – and no one knew that they didn’t like whatever happened.

Just having a liking when it comes to playing with a dick isn’t enough; there are just too many other things that play into this and while a MMM tryst can jump off spontaneously, it usually works out better for one and all when you can get everyone to buy into it, allay any fears or concerns, and other things that will make having one guy plowing your south forty while another reams out your tonsils a very satisfying thing to do.

 
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Posted by on 5 May 2019 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts

 

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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Three the Hard Way?

I was reading something DDJennifer wrote about threesomes which dovetailed nicely with a topic on the bi guy forum about threesomes and Jennifer mentioned the 80/20 rule that kinda/sorta says that if a guy finds out that his woman is interested in other women, 80 percent of the time, he’s gonna ask if she wants a threesome and for the other 20 percent, eh, they might not ask – and they probably know better than to ask – but they’ll have the thought of a threesome bouncing around inside their heads.

In the bisexual world, yeah, let a woman confess that she also likes women and some guys are just that clueless to blurt out the dreaded threesome word; I’ve seen on Twitter too many times stuff written by bisexual women who emphatically state that just because they like girls, doesn’t mean they wanna jump into a threesome… and if you really know a little something about women, you’d understand why they wouldn’t.

But that’s boy/girl stuff.  In the M2M world the MMM threesome is much fantasized about and I’m gonna go out on a limb and say that because one can see a lot of MMM porn, it’s one of those things that looks either like a whole lot of fun or a guy’s worse nightmare.  Why?  Because these things don’t always turn out as being easy to do or as much fun as one might think.

The guys were “going off” about MMM sex, what some have actually done and what the majority of participants have wet dreams about and as I read what the fellas had to say, I kept thinking that, hmm, some of these guys really don’t know what they wanna get themselves into.  True enough:  Having a fantasy is just “wishful thinking” and doesn’t mean that someone having this particular fantasy should or is gonna run right out and do it but, yeah, I was reading and thinking, “Be careful what you wish for…”

Why doesn’t group sex work the way some folks think it should?  It’s because we aren’t taught to behave like this – everything we do and especially where sex is concerned is to be one-on-one only and even when someone can get their head around this part – and it ain’t even easy to do that – then there’s the thing of being in the right place at the right time… and with the “wrong” people involved.

It’s just something one has to learn how to do… and most people can’t learn it.  I’d have to say that, comparatively speaking, sucking a dick until the guy cums in your mouth is easier to deal with than having two (or more) horny guys making you the object of their lust – and those of you who have been subjected to the full fury of a man’s lust knows exactly what I’m talking about.

I’d never say that a guy getting into a MMM threesome wouldn’t have fun because it is a fun thing to do… but if you base your fantasies about this on what you might see in porn, you’re gonna make a mistake that you just might seriously regret.  When it comes to threesomes of any kind, the one thing I say to people is that if you’re not grown up enough to deal with any of it, please don’t do it.

For couples, oh, lawd, if your relationship isn’t rock-solid strong, leave this alone because chances are very good that you’re gonna find out something about your partner that, perhaps, you might wish you hadn’t found out.  Some folks go into this with a laundry list of rules that contains more things that cannot be done than there are things that can be done; for some folks, this works… and for others?

Can you say clusterfuck?  Sure, you can…

If you have inhibitions, insecurities, and other such things and you’re thinking that jumping in the sack with two other guys sounds like fun, boy, are you gonna be in for a surprise.  Sometimes, the problems with any threesome comes when the participants try to plan or script how things are going to go and, I think, fully discounting the power of sex and it’s ability to take those plans and throw them out the window.  Sure, it’s about respecting everyone’s boundaries but I’ve seen this requirement join the plan in the trash can and I’ve also seen things not get trashed… but wind up not being as satisfying as everyone hoped it would be and that’s usually because the participants aren’t really on the same page about things and, again, no one ever considers the possibility that shit can change and unexpectedly so.

Never, ever, underestimate the power of sex and lust and always keep in mind that in all things that we do, Mr. Murphy is always lurking in the background just waiting to fuck shit up.  It came to mind that while there were a lot of guys sharing their MMM adventures, um, I didn’t notice anyone talking about any adventure they may have had that didn’t go according to plan and because no one did, that could lend itself to a false sense of things being okay for them if they threw it down like this and maybe not giving a lot of thought about this:  Just because it went well for someone else doesn’t mean it’s gonna go well for you or your results will most certainly vary.

Cityman and I were talking about this one day and he was sharing his idea of a MMM threesome and I told him to not kid himself into believing that it’s gonna go the way you envision it because it really is harder to do than it looks/sounds.  Again, to have that great, leg-shaking, breath-stealing outcome, everyone – and I do mean everyone – has to be on the same page… and then have the strength of will to not deviate from the script.  He mentioned a few experiences that, in his thoughts, didn’t go as well as he had hoped and I told him that it’s because he didn’t take into consideration the mindset of the guys he was doing this with, that and guys can be just as funny about sex that isn’t one-on-one than women can be.

Again, we aren’t taught or instructed on how to have sex with more than one person and while you can open a browser and find a billion or so references about group sex – both the pros and cons of it all – reading about it is one thing… but actually doing it?  I told him that any threesome always sounds good on paper… until the clothes come off.  Now you’re at the whim and mercy of everyone’s own expectations, what they want to do, and that long list of what they ain’t gonna do.

He asked me what was the best way to have one and I said that there’s no tried and true, cut and dried way to have one; it’s not just about what you want to do and what, if anything, you’re willing to do… but it’s also about those same things with the other participants and if one goes into this thinking that everything – and everyone – is fair game, um, whew, that might not be the reality of things.

Threesomes are best when planned and by this I mean everyone involved sits down and puts it all on the table so that everyone’s limitations are understood; sure, sometimes, a threesome can just happen out of the blue and with not much in the way of planning/talking about it other than, hey, wouldn’t it be fun if we did this?  The key here is that if you’re not sure that Guy A is gonna like something you wanna do to him, um, ask first.  Makes sense, right?  And you’d be surprised how many times this doesn’t happen, someone gets shocked, surprised, or offended, and the whole thing gets flushed.  Or someone doesn’t get what they wanted – and because no one knew that it was wanted – and now someone’s pissed off because they didn’t get what they wanted or in the way they wanted it.

Even if a guy is aware that pulling this off isn’t as easy as it might sound on paper, sometimes that awareness can still be very different from what really happens because unless you happen to be very familiar with the other two participants, anything else is basically a guessing game.  You know what you want to get out of this and it’s too easy to assume that the other two guys with you want what you want – and why this happens is something I can’t really explain except to say that this very thing does tend to happen; sometimes you guess correctly, sometimes you don’t.

You have to have a certain mindset to participate in group sex and, indeed, a bit of devil may care attitude helps but if one can divorce their minds from the mandated one-on-one sex thing, that’ll help a lot, too.  Having few or no inhibitions is a plus and, of course, if someone is doing something to you that you don’t like, never hesitate to say so because if you don’t, well, whoever’s doing the thing to you that you’re not liking is going to keep doing it.  If there’s something you’d like to have done to you, um, say something; the point here is that a lot of threesomes get all fucked up because when the sex starts, the communication stops, that and it’s assumed that a participant’s not gonna change his mind about something… and no one accounts for shit just happening in the heat of the moment.

Because guys tend to be in a top/bottom mode of behavior, this can make MMM threesomes… interesting, to be polite about it.  The roles are, um, clearly defined but, again, no one seems to take into consideration that, say, the bottom who’s being ravaged by two tops just might want to do some ravaging of his own and in a way most tops, by “definition” ain’t trying to hear.  Not saying that it couldn’t work because some guys can, in fact, get this to work… I just think it’s a problem coming right out of the gate because, again, guys think that they roles they’ve adopted are immune from shit happening and someone’s mind changing in the much-denied heat of the moment – you’d be surprised at how many people don’t think this is a valid thing and that nothing should ever happen in the heat of the moment.

And that’s a mistake if I’ve ever heard of one.  Indeed, in the world of swinging, this is one of the reasons why bi guys aren’t always invited to participate in a threesome with a straight guy in attendance and it’s because the straight guy is paranoid and will almost always assume that at some point, the bi guy is gonna jump on them and start sucking their dick or playing with their ass… and the reality is that in the heat of the moment, such things can happen.

And I say that if you’re not prepared to deal with whatever might happen outside of what you think should only happen, ya might not want to actively pursue your MMM fantasy.  Nope – not all guys get all totally mindless in these things and boundaries are respected… but if you assume that your boundaries will always be respected, ya might wanna give this MMM thing some more thought.

Do I sound as if I’m trying to talk guys out of experiencing a MMM threesome?  Yes… and no.  It’s my opinion that a guy should experience what it’s like to be in a dog pile with two other dudes; I’m just the guy who’ll be right up front and tell you that what you think should happen and what might happens ain’t the same thing and, again, if you’re not prepared, willing, and able to deal with whatever might happen, no – don’t do this.  If your list of things you won’t do with another guy is longer than the list of things you will do, um, don’t do this.  If you go into this thinking and believing that your boundaries will always be respected, you might want to change your thinking a bit because even with guys you know, eh, your boundaries just might get tested, stretched, and maybe even broken.

And if you’ve never been subjected to a man’s lust, I would highly recommend you get a lot of one-on-one experiences under your belt before you try to make you MMM fantasy come true because if you find that doing the nasty with one guy is intense, wait until you have two guys to deal with and more so with two guys who may or may not be on the same page with you about what’s about to happen.

When I go on the forum and read about guys who’ve never played with another man talking about this particular fantasy, it really does make me shudder and not in a good way.  Some guys do say that they have this fantasy… but they don’t think they could really do it and that’s pretty damned honest of them to be able to admit this – and the right frame of mind.

These things don’t always go tits up – I’m just the guy who’ll tell you – or remind you – that any kind of threesome can go tits up at any time and for any reason, that’s all and that your experience in this is only gonna be as good as you try to make it.

 
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Posted by on 15 September 2018 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts

 

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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts:  Three the Hard Way

One of the topics that seems to experience bursts of activity is one about MMM encounters and the number of men wanting to have this experience doesn’t surprise me as much as I have a sense that they might not know or understand that as wonderful as this can sound, um, sometimes it isn’t.

If you think that getting two guys together for sex and be… interesting, adding another guy (or more) gets really interesting and more so when some acts of group sex are kinda scripted, even in an individual’s mind as they think about what they want to experience and, often, what they’re not gonna do.  Now, I’d never say that getting together with a couple of your best buds and spending time making each other cum isn’t a fun thing to do because it is… as long as everyone is in the same page about how the nut busting is gonna take shape.  If you’re not into anal sex but one or more of the guys with you are eager to fill your butt, eh, he’s not gonna disrespect your wishes… but it might be in your head that, in the heat of the moment, he might try to bone you and if you’re worried about this, chances are you’re not paying much attention to anything else going on.

Likewise, of sucking cock – or being sucked – isn’t you’re thing to do, ya might find yourself sitting on the sidelines and doing some mood killing spectating while dicks are being happily devoured… and you’re left sitting there stroking your ever-shrinking dick.  Or, if there’s a lot of kissing and cuddling going on and that’s not your cup of tea, well, things might not be as much fun as you hoped.

One of the things I thought about, as I read the new comments, is the notion that seems to suggest that three dedicated bottoms getting together to have a threesome isn’t going to work any more than three tops going for the same thing so in order for a MMM to be successful – at least in theory – is to include guys who are the opposite of your preferred role or, at the very best,  everyone involved is more of a versatile leaning.

You can, if you choose to, believe me when I tell you that nothing will trash a MMM threesome faster than finding yourself lying between a guy’s legs and doing what you wanted to do – sucking the life out of his dick – only to suddenly find that your back door is being invaded and, um, you’d rather not experience that or, really, anything that’s not on your list of things to do.

It’s probably just my opinion that some guys are paying attention to what they want to do and not so much attention to what could happen in the heat of the moment… and, yeah, unexpected shit can happen even though most people are of the mind that it’s not supposed to.  Ah, I could spent quite a bit of time sharing horror stories with you of how every MMM I’ve ever been a part of went straight to hell and all because someone failed to expect the unexpected.

I know what you might be thinking.  You’re thinking that if the terms of the MMM have been laid out and agreed to, then all parties are expected and required to abide by them at all times… and I’m the guy who’ll tell you that it doesn’t always happen like that and that this just a concern you have about the other participants…

Because if you’re not prepared to surprise yourself and find yourself doing something you previously said you weren’t gonna do, I can’t say whether or not you’d be pleasantly surprised or not and more so if you believe that you’re not capable of such a thing. Like, there was this impromptu MMM that happened and one of the guys said that he wanted to join in but he didn’t suck cock and wasn’t going to but he’d watch me and the third guy do it.  Okay, no big deal, homie – it’s your loss and all that.

Well, the cock sucking was getting very deep and the guy trying to suck the black off of me suddenly stopped and blurted out, “What the hell?”  I looked up and the guy who said he didn’t suck cock was sucking it like his life depended on it… but that’s not what broke the party up – that happened when this cock sucking newbie was warned that an explosion was imminent (several times) and he didn’t stop sucking and, well, you know what happened, right?

The newbie killed the whole thing because he got very pissed off, not because he got a mouthful of cum but – and get this – we “made him” do something he said he’d never do and, yeah, he even got it into his head that this was a fighting offense.  You’re probably laughing about this or maybe doubting that such a thing happened but it did and it was funny – at least to me – and while he was ranting and raving over what we “made” him do, I asked a questions:  “What, you didn’t think that such a thing was possible to happen?”

Apparently, he didn’t and that’s exactly why when someone says that doing a MMM sounds like a good idea, well, I say that you’d best be prepared for anything to happen and despite any prior agreements.  I cannot stress enough that, yes, agreements can and do be abided by and things go well… just don’t kid yourself into believing that shit doesn’t, can’t, and won’t happen.  Oh, and if you’re wondering if I mentioned this to the MMM fantasizers, um, no – I didn’t.

Because while forewarned is forearmed, sometimes you do have to find out what it will be like for yourself…

 
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Posted by on 27 August 2017 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts

 

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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Bisexual Group Sex

One of the misconceptions about bisexuality is that bisexuals are all about threesomes and other forms of group sex… but if you understand the current mentality a lot of people have about sex, you’d know that at best, this is wishful thinking because, as we’ve been taught, sex is better when it’s one-on-one… and it is… but it’s an untruth, to be polite about it.

Bisexual porn doesn’t get it right… but the genre isn’t about accuracy – it’s all about sensationalism – so if you look at this crap and think that this is what happens when two men and a woman climbs into bed, guess again.  For one, most women would freak the hell out just thinking about being in bed with two men and some men are too territorial to allow another dick to join the party.  Even with the women who would go for this, if she isn’t getting all of the attention, well, that’s a problem and, as I’ve seen a few times, if she’s giving the guys head and thinks she’s doing one hell of a job – and then the fellas get to blowing each other – she can get quite miffed to, essentially, get shown up because the guys are sucking dick better than she ever could.

The list is long and not so distinguished and it’s about one of the fastest ways I know to expose one’s insecurities when it comes to sex – and that’s never pretty.  In my life to date, I’ve been in so many threesomes and moresomes than I care to admit to; I’ve seen them exceed expectations and crash and burn in the most hideous ways and these spectacular failures is one of the reasons why I’d tell someone who was thinking about this that if they think they know some shit about sex, um, no – you really don’t.

Still, I happen to be one of those bisexual men who have experienced group sex and the kind where everyone was fair game; in my mind, well, that’s the only way to do it!  Throw all the rules and inhibition away and let’s see what kind of magic we can make.  Even more, it doesn’t mean that all bisexuals would even want to engage in such activities because they might be able to step outside the heterosexual box… but they still have their thoughts and beliefs on what constitutes the best way to have sex – and that’s usually without any extra participants.  Now… I ain’t gonna say that a group sex scenario won’t pop up in their heads because I can tell you without any doubt that if you really want to experience the best of both sexual worlds, group sex is the way to do it… and it can be intense and give one a better understanding of what sensuality is, among other things.

But thinking and doing are not the same things, are they?  Bisexual women have been known to freak out because their male partner, upon learning of her duality, throws that threesome thing out there and, even as a joke, women just do not think this is funny.  When you put the shoe on the other foot – girlfriend says, “So, you like dick just like I do?  Let’s have a threesome!” and for a moment, the bi guy will think this is a good idea… until it hits him that the other guy is gonna be all up in his pussy and, oh, hell, no!  So while a lot of bisexuals have what it takes to be bisexual, it’s not a given that they have what it takes to have sex in a group setting — this is an entirely different mindset, trust me.

You find out pretty damned quick that if you can’t run with the big dogs, you’d better keep your ass on the porch.  Bisexuality challenges your view of things sexual… but not like group sex does.  There is, however, an erotic, aesthetic sensuality that can be seen and experienced, not simply because of some “wide open” sex but because you can see and experience humans at sex and how it’s not as disparate as we’re made to think.  Reproduction notwithstanding, it is about that which stimulates both men and women into orgasm and, perhaps it’s just me, but you haven’t lived until you’ve shared a dick with a woman, being aware of what she’s doing, aware of what you’re doing, and then being aware of the effect it’s having on the guy who owns the dick.  Shit, you ain’t lived until you share eating a pussy with a woman – and for the exact same reasons.

But if your head ain’t in the right place, well, you know.  Bisexuality and group sex can take having sex to a new level and one that, I think, inherently scares the shit out of most people and if they are scared, well, yeah – I happen to know that they have good reason to be scared because the power of sex can either make a person seize up as if they got dipped in liquid nitrogen… or unlock things about them they never knew about themselves (or didn’t want exposed in any way).  It can make you vulnerable; it can remove your inhibitions and to the point where you might have started out being a rational, intelligent person… but this form of bisexual eroticism can reduce you to a bundle of orgasm-tortured nerves and there’s no telling the impact on one’s sensibilities when the storm is over.

Like I said, I’ve seen it at its best and at its very worst; it is both very damned sexual and sensual… and as scary as anything you could imagine when “Sexamania” is running wild on everyone involved.  If you’re bisexual and you can do it, it  can be the ultimate sexual experience and the only thing that makes a threesome better is adding more people to the mix.  But if you think that bisexuals just get into this as a matter of course, well, guess again.  If what I’ve written here so far about this makes you feel some kind of way (and I don’t mean in a good way), then you should know that a lot of bisexuals will feel the same as you do about it:  Sounds like a good idea but you’d never get into anything that looks like this, uh-uh, nope, no way, you gotta be fuckin’ kidding me.

And that’s just group sex with a mix of men and women involved.  Now, you’d think that if you got a bunch of horny dudes together, well, this should work nicely… and it can… but I’ve seen this one go horribly wrong, not just because men are territorial but because – again – group sex requires a different mindset and some guys – and, yes, even bi guys – don’t want an audience when they throw down.  I’ve experienced the good and the bad; nothing can kill the mood faster than one guy jumping up and punching on of the other guys in the face for some reason or an argument getting started because someone’s feeling left out or, worse, being “targeted,” i.e., the other guys team up to bring the noise on just one guy; women aren’t the only ones with fears of being raped (or anything that looks like it), you know.

That shit they show in gay porn?  Not even close to the real truth when it comes to this because, sometimes, having all that testosterone saturating the air ain’t exactly a good thing and you just do not want to know how things can spiral into the drain when you’re the only guy in bed with several women and even if they’re bisexual as you are.  By comparison, being bisexual is easy; being bisexual and being able to engage in group sex?  Good luck with that – let me know how it worked for you.  I’m not saying that it can’t work because I know for a fact that it can and, yep, sometimes, it goes badly.  What I am saying or pointing out that the attempt to link bisexuality with group sex is, in reality, not a realistic thing to do and if you understood how most people are about sex, well, you’d know why it doesn’t make sense to think of bisexuality in these terms.

I know a lot of bisexuals who are more afraid of a threesome (or other group sex settings) than they are about getting outed at the next family reunion.  Like I said, they can get their head around getting some dick or pussy… but to be in a position/situation to get both at the same sitting?  Not a common behavior for most bisexuals… or anyone else for that matter.  I was poking Rougedmount about a blog she posted – https://rougedmount.wordpress.com/2015/07/06/erotic-erection/ – and I encourage you to go read what Rouged wrote (damn, she’s good!), see what I said to her, and see what she said about my comment… and you’ll get an understanding of what I’m talking about here.  This shit sounds good on paper but practically applying it is beyond most people – it’s just the way they are and there’s no fault or blame in this.  There are a lot of sexually adventurous people out there (and many here on WordPress)… but bring up a group setting and with a bisexual in the mix?  Without offense, you will now see something very different about them and that can include bisexuals… because people are just funny about sex that isn’t boy/girl and one-on-one and can be just as funny when it’s boy/boy or girl/girl.

One on one, ya mon, it’s all good… until doing something other than that is on the table.  Bisexuals and group sex?  Not the “given” people seem to think it is and, yep, I’m the bisexual guy who’d tell you that it isn’t.  Bluntly, most people, including bisexuals, don’t have what it takes to engage in group sex and, no, that’s not a black mark against them so let’s not go there, okay?  I’ve been in group situations and have seen that the moment anyone goes to the bi side, all holy hell breaks out so, hell no, even folks who are into group sex aren’t as enlightened as they think they are in the majority of times – and more so if it happens to them.

This whole dynamic is so damned fascinating but where bisexuals are concerned, grossly and incorrectly taken out of context… and if you really knew anything about people and sex, you’d know why it isn’t what people seem to think it always is with bisexuals.  And, no – you don’t have to believe me; all you have to do is imagine yourself in a group situation with some bisexuals present (and even if you’re bisexual) and then take note of your initial reaction to such a scenario… and if you feel a little freaked out thinking about this, well, you know that saying all bisexuals love threesomes and have to have them is pure unadulterated bullshit – because a bisexual can have that same freaked out reaction.

You’ll learn something important and the least of it is that thinking and doing are not the same thing.  Even if this scenario didn’t freak you out to think about it, your next mission, if you choose to accept it, is to figure out the probability of you actually doing it (if you haven’t already, of course) and if that makes you feel some kind of way, then you’ve learned something important about bisexuals in general along with everything else that can be learned (and a lot of it is about you, by the way, and not bisexuals so much).

And, yes, I’ll keep saying it but this is one of those situations that, even if you are bisexual, should be totally and completely left alone if you can’t make the proper adjustments to your sexual mindset – just walk away and don’t look back.  Ha, there are people who think I’m insane because I can walk into a group sex setting, strip down butt-naked in front of a bunch of strangers, and go for the gusto and not give it one thought.  And, really, it’s not because I’m bisexual – I love sex, period, and being bisexual facilitates that love of sex in some gratifying ways… and even if I don’t do one “bisexual” thing.  But, yep, I’ll go in there ready, willing, and able to eat (and fuck) pussy and if there’s a cock willing to be sucked (or if a dude wants to blow me), it’s on like the proverbial motherfucker; you just have no idea what it’s like to have a hot pussy sitting on your face and some guy trying to eat your cock off your body!  But I’m one of the exceptions and not even close to being the rule when it comes to this.

I’ll leave you with something else to think about this.  See, not only does this upset a lot of sensibilities for some folks, there are folks – bisexual or otherwise – who won’t dive into this part of the pool because they can’t sexually multitask…

 
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Posted by on 6 July 2015 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts

 

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What Started Me Blogging

I had to go back and edit “Group Sex Thoughts” because I missed some boo-boos and it got me thinking about why I started blogging in the first place.  Linda and I belong to a couple of swinging websites and this one site had a forum that I found interesting enough to interact with many of the people there expressing their opinions about the lifestyle and it didn’t take me long to (a) become a popular contributor and (b) piss a lot of people off because I challenged everything they knew about  sex.  Then, one of the friends I met on this site, my girl Cinnamon, was sharing her blog with the site members and, damn, I thought that was so cool to be able to do this so I asked her about it and I wound up here on WordPress five years ago and I was off and running… um, typing.

Some of the really early stuff I was ranting, raving, and pontificating on was the hypocrisy of the swinging lifestyle and how there’s always this group of “elite” motherfuckers who feel that other swingers have to bow down to their often incorrect view of group sex and, well, even in the forums, I’d go off on them and while I made some friends by daring to slap those elite motherfuckers in the face, I also made a lot of enemies because I had the nerve not only to call them on the carpet for their very narrow mindset but to put their hypocrisy on blast for all to see.

These elitist bastards and the drones they have following behind them and French kissing their asses have managed to take the words “open-minded” and “like-minded” and put such a spin on them that they don’t mean what you think they mean and the short version of their hypocritical mindset is, “If you don’t wanna do it the way we say it should be done, you’re the punk-assed bitch and not us.”  You wanna see discrimination in action?  Go to a swinging site and, if they have open forums, just sit and read what’s being said.

One of the things that really irked me was that they’d harp on the rules of swinging… and then act as if the rules never applied to them; if you were of the “wrong” ethnicity and the “wrong” sexual orientation, my God, the way they behaved about this was deplorable.  One of the other things I’d often rip them about is the “rule” about liars and the only things worst than a liar in the lifestyle were a single guy and any bisexual guy; yet, it was okay for some of these elitist assholes to blatantly lie about their sexuality or, really, tell another couple any lie they could think of so that sex would happen.  It was okay for them to behave so badly but wrong for anyone else to do the same thing… and doubly wrong if you had the nerve to call them on it.

Like yours truly.  Cinnamon would just shred them about their elitist behavior and wouldn’t back down from anyone – and I so admired her for  that and, yeah, she was right, too.  At some point, between me and Cinnamon tearing those elitist bastards a new asshole, she got banned from the site and I got warned and threatened with being banned… and for telling the truth and exposing a behavior in group sex we found just heinous, pompous, discriminating in every way imaginable and, of course, hypocritical.

A lot of swinging newbies would join the site and be treated so badly because, sure, one of the rules of swinging is that if you get rejected – and you will – don’t take it personally and I ‘d be like, “Say what?  How could you not take it personally?” but, of course, if you rejected them or weren’t willing to give up what you wanted out of an encounter in favor of what they wanted – oh, yeah, and if you didn’t give it up to them without any additional conversation, well, you were just plain wrong and you’d be told to get off the site and get out of the lifestyle altogether.  It was okay for them to discriminate or to treat people any way they wanted to… but if you did it to  them, oh, lawdy, they’d get on the forums and put you on blast in a heartbeat.

The thing that would fuck with me was those elite motherfuckers who touted their sexuality discrimination, i.e., if you were a bi guy, the only thing lower than you were was a single guy.  They’d spread their biphobic and homophobic mindset like a plague and the fucked up things about it were (a) they didn’t know what the fuck they were talking about and (b) some of those hypocrite were secretly bisexual themselves and, you just gotta know that I would tear into them with much glee and when they tried to come back and get all nasty about how they’re right and I’m not, what they never realized was that I was exposing their negative mindset for all to see.  It just made me nuts to see people riffing about bi guys and how fucking horrible we are and how we shouldn’t be in their straight lifestyle – but they’d also categorically deny that they were discriminating against anyone; in their minds, their preferences for anything were more important than anyone else’s preferences.  I could never figure out how someone who would never be bisexual could tell me, of all people, about being bisexual and more so since I was bisexual before a lot of  them were born.

They’d use their prejudices like a weapon and just beat down anyone who wanted to be in the lifestyle for the diversity of the sex as well as the diversity of the people.  If you weren’t physically fit and perfect, you were just shit on the bottom of their shoe – but they’d also swear that they weren’t looking for “Ken and Barbie” in the same sentence.  There’s discrimination against sexuality, race, age, body type and condition – and the elitist assholes would stand by their right to be prejudiced against any who wasn’t like them… like they were all perfect… and some of them I wouldn’t fuck with my worst enemy’s dick.

These folks could take the joy of sex/group sex and just fuck it all up – and never in a good way.  You kinda know that some people just behave badly when it comes to sex but if you wanted to get an idea of how badly they can behave, try getting into the lifestyle (or any aspect of it) and see what happens.  You’d get to see just how shitty men can act when it comes to getting some other guy’s wife; they will lie like rugs, disrespect her man, and do the one thing I know women just can’t stand:  Treat her like a mere piece of ass.  There are other horror stories and, sadly, they’re all true like those guys who’d show up at a group sex gathering and assume that every woman there is his for the taking and without anyone’s permission and if you reject them, well, all holy hell would break out and, sometimes, violence would ensue.

Women, well, a lot of them were really victims more than willing participants, having been conscripted into the lifestyle pretty much against their will by their man who has a very bad case of pussy-on-the-brain.  I’ve seen these guys use their women as bait and throw them into situations they’re ill-prepared to deal with – and then leave them to fend for themselves.  I’ve seen women just take to the lifestyle like a fish to water, only to get their asses handed to them because they’re having more fun than their men are; likewise, I’ve seen women just wind up being traumatized just being there, let alone because some uncaring, lust-crazed motherfuckers – men and women – tried to get them to do something they just weren’t up to the task of doing.

Bisexual women are still highly prized and what I call the “Mandingo Syndrome” is in effect; it’s either that BBC (big black cock) nonsense or the lust for Black women can be so prevalent that some motherfuckers will actually insist that a Black man (and his big dick) stay away – but it’s okay if he leaves his Black woman for them to ravish as they please.

Now as I said yesterday, group sex – threesomes, foursomes, moresomes – can be one hell of a good experience… but you gotta be prepared to deal with a mindset that, I think, only serves to devalue people more than it encourages them to broaden their sexual horizons.  I think about Ann’s experience and what she wrote about being left unprotected when she needed it… and it pissed me off that this happened to her… but it’s also what I’d call typical behavior by many in this situation.  If you show up at one of these… parties and think that you’re walking into a free-for-all kind of thing, guess again; if you think that you’re gonna show up and everyone’s just gonna automatically respect your boundaries, I’d ask you to rethink this one.  And, really, if you think that people can be damned funny about sex and how they approach it, you just have no idea how funny they can be until you get into a group sex situation with some motherfuckers.  If you think that those in attendance is going to care about your feelings and/or they’re supposed to, um, I’m here to tell you that you’re gonna probably wind up terribly disillusioned because there are a bunch of elitist sons of bitches who have, somehow and for some reason I don’t pretend to understand, taken the thrill and joy of uninhibited group sex and have turned it into one’s worst fucking nightmares.

People have asked me about group sex stuff and I’ll tell them what I think is damned good about it… but I’ll also tell them what’s very bad about it and, no, I don’t sugar-coat it or try to be PC about it because when it comes to sex, some people just behave very badly because they feel they have the right to behave badly and to disrespect anyone who doesn’t conform to their way of doing things in this… and this is just sad to see… but if you don’t learn anything from a group sex experience, you will find out things about sex and how people can behave that you’ve never seen before and, honestly, I’m not surprised that there are so many people who’d never have this experience and many more who do want to experience it… then see human behavior at its worst when it comes to sex.

Can you get into one of these situations and have every fantasy you ever had come true?  Yep, you betcha!  Can you have your comfort zones expanded?  Uh-huh, ya sure can!  Can you learn some shit about yourself that you might not have been aware of before?  Oh, hell, yeah you can!  Can you have nearly unimaginable fun in a group sex situation?  Does a bear shit in the woods?  Can you have your perceptions about sex expanded or changed?  Yeah… but, trust me, you’re gonna learn all the bad shit, too; you’ll encounter those elitist motherfuckers whose views on sex and group sex can turn this mind-blowing experience into an “us versus them” war that can be so fucking ugly.

Just saying.  Not everyone who’s happily into group sex is a narrow-minded and prejudiced elitist; you can meet and have sex with some pretty amazing people… but as Ann learned, you can also meet some pretty fucked up individuals, too.  They say it’s just sex and some of them make it a point to dehumanize having sex like the feelings of those they’d fuck don’t matter – it’s either their way or no way.  They say none of it is personal… and I’ve consistently failed to understand how fucking someone isn’t personal; even when I’ve had them explain this to me, I admit that it just doesn’t make sense because sex, even casual sex, is personal… but  the elitists will tell you in no uncertain terms that it isn’t, that they have no responsibility to give a shit about you as a person – you’re just a means to their end and nothing more.

And I’m the guy who’ll warn you to avoid these elitist assholes if at all possible; they give group sex a very bad name and reputation,  if ya ask me (and you didn’t).  Ann said to me, in her comment to yesterday’s blog, that she wished that I had written it before she had her experience and, damn, I feel as if I need to apologize to her and as if I somehow let her down but, Ann, in the future, if you have a question, you can ask me or you can even ask Larry (yeah, Larry, I just volunteered you, dude).  I think these motherfuckers bother me so much because even in a group sex situation, I just give a fuck about people and, as the elitists have told me, I care too much and that I shouldn’t care about anything other than getting the sex I want and by any means necessary.

But because I do care, yeah, I will expose the hypocritical elites who believe that they own group sex and that they can make it in their image and speak out against the many prejudices and acts of discrimination they employ against anyone who isn’t like them.

 

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Group Sex Thoughts

This is probably the one thing that’ll take someone who’s secure with sex and turn them into a prude quick, fast, and in a hurry.  It’s something that can make folks with privacy/modesty issues want to soil their underwear to be naked in front of a bunch of people, let alone engage in sex while an audience is watching and cheering them on to orgasm.  It’s the one thing that, for people who’d swear to how much they love sex, make them change their mind about that statement when, ah, performance issues show up to tell the truth.

It is some really scary shit and, sometimes, even for experienced folks in this because as much as people try to make group sex a controlled situation, you just never know what’ll happen because, well, pussy makes motherfuckers crazy (for men) and women can totally freak out to see more than one hard dick waiting to get a piece of her.   There are a bunch of perceptions about this, like, if you’re there, then you’re there for sex and in whatever form it shows up in; the truth is that even people who are open-minded about this and open in their approach to sex can go out of their way to not let sex happen if it’s gonna encroach on their sensibilities.

Yes… a safe environment is called for, although not all group sex is planned – sometimes, the shit just breaks out all by itself.  You expect everyone in attendance to be on their very best behavior and I’ve always thought, “Are you kidding me?” because I’ve seen some very well-behaved people go totally ape-shit when sex is on the table.  “No means no” isn’t just for group sex – it’s all-encompassing where sex is concerned because one should never be made to do something they don’t want to do… yet, they’ve just walked into a sexual situation where anything can happen.

Inhibitions can get thrown away at the door… but some of them can come slamming into place as well.  Sensibilities can be challenged, like, if seeing some bisexual shit happening before your eyes makes you want to wet yourself, well, why are you there… and what exactly did you think was gonna be going on?  Some folks will hang on to their modesty for as long as they can and then wind up having to endure people wondering or asking why they’re still dressed when everyone is as naked as the day they were born.  If you’re someone who has body image issues – with your own body or the bodies of other people, well, what the fuck – did you really believe that everyone’s going to be in the best physical shape?  If you have age issues, again, what the fuck – do you think it’s only young people who like to fuck and indulge in all manner of sex?  I guess so since people involve themselves in these things with their preferences firmly in place and rely on attraction to drive their need to have sex… and then get miffed when there’s no one there who qualifies to have sex with them.

If you have fears, hangups, inhibitions, and other things along this line, why in the name of all that’s holy would you willingly show up in an environment that is going to take everything you believe about sex and stress the shit out of it?   Sure… it sounds like a great idea… until you get there and the reality of a group sexual situation slaps you upside the head.  I have seen for myself the folks who, before the fact, are talking tons of shit about how they can handle a group sex situation, only to watch them cower in the corner with their clothes still on because whatever they thought was gonna happen wasn’t even close to what’s really happening.  I’ve seen women who claim they love sex and are willing to take on anyone wind up being in tears because more dick than they could have imagined is being presented to them.

Group sex can turn you into a prudish, punk-assed bitch quicker than you can say your name… even if it happens to be in a setting with people you know.  Sex invokes vulnerability; it can expose one’s limitations and do such a bad number on one’s ego that it literally isn’t funny.  Like I said, in a group sex situation, one’s sensibilities can be taken to task just by watching what’s going on around them and if this doesn’t make you rethink everything you thought you knew about sex, I don’t know what will… and I’ve learned that just finding out that you didn’t know shit about sex like you thought you did will make someone head for the hills faster than “Speedy Gonzales.”

I’ve seen people throw up; I’ve seen them barely make it to a bathroom before they shit or piss involuntarily; I’ve seen “strong” people break down and cry because they just couldn’t handle what was going on; I’ve seen people literally be so stunned that they kinda leave, their minds retreating and going into self-protect mode and they’re just sitting there staring at things no one else can see.  I’ve seen men freak out just because some other guy accidentally came in contact with them; I’ve seen women freak out to open their eyes to see who’s eating their pussy or sucking on their nipples and find another woman doing it and, yep, seen men freak out when they see a guy deep-throating the shit out of them.

And all of this makes me wonder, “Just what did you think was gonna happen?”  It’s my own personal thought that if you don’t have a very high ceiling (or you have a huge list of what you ain’t gonna do) to your limits, ya might not want to walk into a group sex situation.  I learned to walk into these situations – planned or otherwise – and expect anything to happen… or to expect nothing to happen.  I’ll walk in with my safety in mind – I’m not gonna let anyone do anything to me that I don’t want done (and I have the muscle and very nasty temper to back that up if I have to) but, I know that being in this situation is going to test my resolve as much as what I know about sex and I believe that if I have any doubts about my ability to be up for whatever happens, I’m not going to be there… but, um, I love a challenge; I actually like having my sensibilities challenged and my ability to interact with so many people tasked to the maxed.

Linda likes to jerk my chain at times because I have practically zero inhibitions and definitely no modesty whatsoever… and that’s probably due in part to the many sexual situations I’ve been in to date and, yeah, probably some ego as well because who wants to be known as the person who said they could hang… and then they didn’t even get naked with everyone else?  Not me… never me but, yeah, if it’s something I ain’t down with, I will politely beg off.  I’m not without a couple of hangups, like, ya might not want to bust a nut in my face or try to shove two dicks in my ass at the same time; ya might not want to try to hold me down or otherwise restrain me because my reaction will be immediate and violent… then again, I will make it known what I won’t put up with and that list is short… but it does exist.  Otherwise, if I’m walking into a situation where anything can happen, well, let’s see what might happen.

Men have this… tendency to worsen our reputations by not approaching women with respect and asking her permission to engage with them and if you’re a guy in this situation and you don’t understand that a woman will just freak out on you if you try to take her without her permission, then you need to stay away from group sex situations.  It’s a given that we don’t handle rejection well at all and I’ve seen guys react very badly when a woman tells them no for any reason.  We’re expected to be on our very best behavior in a group sex situation… but if you believe that this is always the way we should behave, well, you don’t know shit about men and how sex affects us – you really don’t.

Women… well, we just know how funny women can be about sex, don’t we?  Still, ladies, I gotta say – and without one bit of offense – that if you don’t have your head in the right place about group sex, please, stay home – and by “the right place” I mean being fully aware that you could be subjected to shit that’s way outside your comfort zone so if you have a small comfort zone, don’t even show up – it’s for your own good, trust me.  Hell, if you’re not there because you really want to be there, it’s okay for you to tell the person begging you to go with them that you don’t want to go; one of the things that really pisses me off is seeing women in a group sex situation and looking lost and/or afraid because they really didn’t want to attend and only did so because their man insisted on it.  And, yes, I’ve seen men in this same situation and it’s just not a pretty thing to see happen to anyone.

Group sex can be emotionally and physically “dangerous” for some folks and enough that just thinking about it will scare the shit out of them and make them not want to ever experience it… yet, there are people who are very much aware of the “dangers” and will show up anyway – some people actually get a thrill out of facing their sexual (and even sexuality) fears, well, right up to the point where they just freak the fuck out and haul ass from things as fast as humanly possible so, again, it makes me ask:  “If you can’t handle it, why are you there?”  Maybe some folks are just gluttons for punishment – I really don’t know but if I’ve learned anything from being in group sex situations, I’ve learned that showing up and acting like this is gonna be like one-on-one sex is a mistake and that if I don’t have a sense of adventure, that’ll just compound the first mistake.  If I walk in there and I’m more worried about what might happen to me, I’ve already taken myself out of the game before I take my shoes off because instead of “focusing” on the sex, I’m too focused on literally protecting my ass at all times so, yeah, if this is the mindset I’m bringing in the door, maybe I should have just stayed home.  Now, check this out… because I think it’s important.

Guys, if you and your lady get into a group sex situation, you’d better not just throw her to the wolves and make her fend for herself.  You’re not only there to enjoy all the sex you can, you have a duty – and obligation – to protect and defend her honor, even in this setting, so if you go off and think, “She can handle herself…” you, sir, are a total asshole; when she shreds your ass because you weren’t watching her back or, worse, she freaks out worse than a 1960’s hippy on a bad acid trip and now you gotta try to pick up the pieces, well, you truly deserve it.  Okay, yeah, I know – keeping an eye on her is going to take your focus away from having sex with other people… and that’s just too bad – accept it and adjust things accordingly.  Yep, Linda and I can be in a group sex situation and even if I’m doing something else, I am very much aware of where she is and even peeking to see what’s going on and looking for any signs of distress… because it is my duty to do this and if I have to stop what I’m doing to come to her aid, so be it – and that’s even though I know Linda is a bad-ass all by herself and more than capable of handling situations… but it doesn’t mean that I’d be that asshole and assume she really can handle anything.  I might get a lecture about coming to her rescue when she really didn’t need rescuing… but at least I was there for her.

And if you’re not gonna always be there for the woman you showed up with, you need to have your ass kicked.

If you’re looking to expand your sexual experiences and horizons, group sex is a great way to do this and, yes, lawd, it can be more fun than you could imagine but I’m the guy who’ll tell you that there’s a special mindset you must have before you even try to do this and if you can’t adapt to this special mindset and go in there thinking you can do it on the fly, you’re making a mistake and one you’re gonna regret for the rest of your life.  I’m not bullshitting you about this because I’ve seen people make this mistake more times than I care to think of and, yes, in my early experiences with this, even I had to learn how to leave my fears at the door (so to speak) but to also be willing and able to protect myself if it becomes necessary.  If it’s your first time with any kind of group sex – a threesome or facing a whole building full of people having sex – this is some really scary shit and scarier than you may be thinking about… but if you’re someone who has issues dealing with their sexual (and, yes, even sexuality) fears, please, don’t even try this even if someone dares you to, okay, because I can almost guarantee you that you’re gonna find out that you’re not as grown up as you think yourself to be.

 
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Posted by on 5 June 2015 in Life, Living and Loving

 

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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Group Sex

Not only is this something that a  lot of people never get – or never want – to experience, it’s something that is part of the bisexual stereotype, that if you’re bisexual, any kind of group sex is gonna be a given and, yeah, that includes the myth that all bisexual women just gotta have that threesome.  So I was sitting here, letting my mind wander to find out what might be in it and I thought about how back in the day, um, our little group of kids indulged in group sex and without realizing what it meant or, really, what the fuck it was.

I can’t really say that when it first happened, it was deliberate or even planned.  A few of us started playing “Doctor and Nurse” and I thought about the lack of modesty we had – just stripping down in front of others wasn’t that big of a deal – so if you were to walk into our “clubhouse” (vacant apartment buildings and houses, really…) you might see a bunch of pre-teens naked, on the floor or on mattresses, and just going for what they knew.  The first time, it was purely boy-on-girl sex… but there were times when the fellas were together and doing the all-male group sex thing – think of it as same-room sex (which is a swingers’ term by the way) more than all of us being in a pile.

It was just plain wicked from our points of view because we’d all been warned about the evils of sex and how much more evil it was for boys to do it to other boys… and, honestly, I don’t remember ever hearing about the girls being admonished about having sex with other girls.  It wasn’t unusual to see guys paired up and sucking on each other’s dick, doing some fucking and sometimes in groups of three; one guy could be getting fucked while he sucked another guy’s dick or there might be a guy being fucked… and the guy fucking him is being fucked as well.

I’m thinking about this and said to myself, “Shit… we were doing shit that adults wouldn’t have the nerve to do…” and we did it shamelessly, too.  There wasn’t any fussing or fighting over anything; if you got your dick sucked, you sucked the other guy’s dick and if you fucked him, getting fucked in return was a given.  If the girls were present, okay, yeah, some… discussion would take place about who was gonna get which girl and, of course, they had their favorites based on dick size, what skills were learned to that point, who ate pussy, who was busting a nut, stuff like that.  But it would get sorted out; even the guys or gals that got “left out”when things got going would either pair up or join any couple already in the heat of things.

No one was left untouched in some way; by the time things broke up, everyone present had had some sex of some kind – everyone had oral sex and everyone got fucked.  I compare this time of my life to my experiences with group sex as an adult and, well, as kids, we just did it better and a lot easier.  We did threesomes, foursomes and moresomes and while the concept of sexuality was pretty much unknown to us, it made it easier (for lack of a better word) for a guy to just go suck someone’s dick (or get sucked) or a gal to get a taste of pussy (or have hers tasted by another girl).  It was just totally shameless, unadulterated sex; we were learning and doing things that adults either didn’t know or wouldn’t do and not giving a lot of thought to any of it as we began to explore this sex thing we were told not to do until we were a lot older and more responsible.

Amazingly, none of the girls in our group got pregnant; no one caught anything nasty, either.  The girls who were afraid of getting pregnant had no qualms about sucking a guy off or letting him fuck her in the ass and some of them liked a dick in their ass better than in their pussy (if you can imagine that).  Now, at some point, we learned about rubbers and one day, one of the guys showed up with a few packs of them that he swiped from his dad… and you should have seen us trying to figure those damned things out!  We did figure it out but, um,  given our lack of size, there was no way they were going to fit any of us yet but it wasn’t hard to figure out that if you could put it on – and it was going to stay on – that if you busted a nut, it would go in this balloon-looking thing and not inside the girl and if it didn’t go in her, she couldn’t “get in trouble” as it was said back then.

Over the course of about a year (I’d guess), our happy, horny little group learned everything we needed to know about sex thanks to our group sex sessions and, yes, any one-on-one stuff we did.  We even learned some BDSM things, like spanking, restraining a “prisoner” (if we were playing Army or Cowboys and Indians) by either tying them up (loosely) or holding them down so the could be, ah, interrogated.  Some of us liked this, some of us didn’t but, I dunno, maybe it was like an unspoken rule or something but if you were there and didn’t leave, well, that mean you were down for whatever was going to happen.

By the time any of us got the legendary “birds and bees” speech, um, our peeps were wasting their time and breath telling us about something we already knew… and in greater detail than they could have ever expected.  Hell, I can remember my father giving me the speech (again) and I sat there listening to him and, when he wasn’t looking right at me, rolling my eyes because this shit was more than old news to me since I was getting my sex education “on the job.”  Thanks to the dirty books a lot of the guys would swipe from their parents, oh, hell, yeah, they were chock full of things for us to try so, um, Dad?  Why are you telling me something I already know and, by the way, I also know that  you’re lying your ass off about some of the stuff you’re telling me…

I didn’t have an official sex education class until I was in the eighth grade and, nope, there wasn’t one thing the hapless teacher assigned to teach the class could tell me that I didn’t already know (as well as many of my classmates) and it didn’t surprise any of us when that class got removed from the curriculum; I didn’t see sex ed as a class again until I was a junior in high school… and even that was a waste of time because they spent more time telling us not to have sex than anything else.  Thanks to my curiosity and very frequent trips to the public library, I knew about male and female anatomy before it was ever discussed in school – I damn well knew that babies didn’t show up via storks or the mailman…

By the time I was twelve, I just didn’t merely know about the evils of sex – me and my friends were all about doing all the “evil” that could be done.  If two or more guys happened to get together, yeah, it would be on and still without any real awareness of what a bisexual was, let alone knowing that the word even existed.  We knew what a gay person was but as far as we knew, there wasn’t anything to describe those of us who’d go from poking a girl to doing the same thing with a guy moments later.  What I knew – what we all knew – was that it was so much fun and to the point where we couldn’t figure out why the adults were saying the things they said against having sex.

Yeah, eventually, we learned why but until we did, man, a group free-for-all was just a fun and ‘normal’ thing to jump off for us.  For us guys, sucking cock and fucking was just good, nasty, fun. If a guy was busting a nut, that was good; if he wasn’t, that was good, too – it let you suck that dick a lot longer and without the mess.  Refraction, that thing guys have to deal with and wish never happened, wasn’t even a consideration; I could suck a guy off, he’d get soft… and be hard and ready for action literally in mere minutes.  The guys who weren’t shooting sperm could fuck you to your heart’s delight because all they were getting was “that feeling” without losing their erection and do it until they eventually got tired.  We had a “fascination” for sperm and it wasn’t unusual for a girl or a guy to jerk off a guy that was shooting just to watch that shit flying through the air.  I was one of the first to start shooting (at the age of nine) and that made me popular and I got used to someone wanting to see me shoot and I sure as hell didn’t object to how they’d get me to do it and all requests to shoot my baby-making stuff into them were granted with great glee.

I tell people about my childhood activities in this and I’ve gotten reactions from disbelief to amazement… but it was what it was for me.  I reveled in my desires for sex with boys and girls, well, up until I learned what a bisexual was – that caused some confusion for me to work out but, nah, didn’t change anything when it was all thought out.  It never fails to amaze me how as a youth, having all kinds of sex was so simple and easy… and definitely not so much being an adult.  I have zero shame about those moments in my life; it embarrasses me at times because even though I did all that shit, wow, it is kinda hard to believe that it all actually happened.  And, yes, I do often wish I could do it all over again…

Time for something else to do…

 
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