I had a busy day yesterday with back-to-back doctor appointments, but I’d gotten my mind in the gutter about group sex after re-reading “Because She Asked,” a scribble about being in a poly relationship and what it takes to be successful and how people tend to fail.
My thoughts began with a memory of hanging out with guys and listening to them fantasizing about having sex with two women and how they’d wreck the pussies and all that and I’m thinking that, yeah, I’ve been in that situation before and in the younger days and if those guys thought this was a slam dunk, they were going to learn something about themselves.
It just wasn’t unusual for us horny-assed kids to have group sex because if sex was the thing to do right now, leaving others out… wasn’t fair. It wasn’t unusual for three of us guys to go to a hideout and do it and it was usually a lot of fun but if one of the Hot in the Ass girls wanted two of us to do it to her, well, shoot, some of them wanted everything to be about them which would sometimes find one guy being a spectator and waiting for his chance to get in the pussy.
One time, there was two girls, myself, and my buddy and they said that if we wanted to do it to them, that’d be nice and off we went. At one point, though, they both said that they dared us to suck each other’s dick and if we didn’t, no pussy. For me, that wasn’t a problem, but my buddy was now caught between a rock and a hard place because he didn’t suck dick… but he wanted the pussy badly and that was a lesson in doing whatever you had to do to get what you wanted.
When you’re hanging out with a bunch of guys and dicks start to get hard, there’s no telling what might happen. The many times I’d have guys over and after playing basketball for most of the day and… a group session would break out and even if some guys previously weren’t a fan of sex with guys – but I reasoned that with everyone’s testosterone levels spiking due to all the exertion of playing ball, something had to give and merely jerking off or waiting to get home and maybe get some pussy wasn’t going to cut it. Add a few six-packs of beer and now you have a party!
The first doctor is prescribing me another round of prednisone for my thumb and I’m thinking about my fellow forum members and those who are clamoring to experience sex with more than one guy and they have it in their minds that it’d be a glorious experience. I’m not saying that it wouldn’t be, but I learned some stuff about how guys can get when their dick gets hard; they can go from really nice guys to fiends of the highest order and, yeah, I’ve had my mouth and ass ravaged unpleasantly being in a group of horny guys whose only consideration is getting their rocks off at my expense.
It’s like be careful what you wish for because you just might get it – and wish you hadn’t. In the early adult years and situations that I mentioned above, sometimes, I would just sit there and watch it all develop and start happening and “taking notes” about it all and, yeah, some guys, when their dick is hard, can do the Jekyll and Hyde thing in an instant and now it was a matter of none of them noticing that I wasn’t in the mix with them.
Being subjected to a man’s lust ain’t all peaches and cream and it doesn’t always “go nicely” and like you can see in “gay porn” which I’ve felt is the motivation a lot of guys have about group sex with a bunch of seriously horny dudes. And, oh, yeah, being the only guy with two horny women? What a humbling experience that can be and as I really learned in the poly years.
Porn makes it look incredibly hot and, really, it is… but, um, different takes at different times, lots of editing, retakes, so on and so forth so that what you’re watching is the hottest thing ever. I learned that one of the things that makes group sex problematic is… sex is supposed to be one-on-one and a “power struggle” can happen over who gets to do what first and all that and if the guys involved aren’t bi – or they aren’t going to mind some man-on-man stuff, well, there are horror stories and a lot of them are true and I’ve seen my share of them.
A guy says that he fantasizes about sucking off a group of men – and by “group” I mean more than two guys – as someone who has had that experience a few times, um, yeah, why would you want to and more so when it’s very likely not going to go down the way you think it is? Agreements get made before the fact – what’s doable and what isn’t, flip a coin to see who gets that mouth first and the other guys are just patiently waiting for their turn; everyone takes a turn unloading cum into the guy’s mouth and no muss, no fuss and… that’s why it’s a fantasy because the reality can be quite different and can get surly because a guy who’s been waiting for a while gets to asking what’s taking so long and, a couple of times, I’ve seen fights break out.
Keep in mind that I’m talking about doing this with guys you know; such things can happen with guys you don’t because even grown men can tend to do something I experienced in the younger days: “Hey, wouldn’t it be funny if we all got our dicks sucked?” Yeah, it could be funny but not in a humorous way but that’s one of those situations where one would have to be in the right place at the right time and among men who aren’t all that inhibited and, yeah, able to blame it on the alcohol.
My thought where some guys are concerned is that if you’ve never sucked one guy’s dick, why would you want to suck multiple dicks coming out of the gate? I know that just sucking one guy’s dick can be an adventure and not totally in a good way so now multiply this by three, four, more, and… tell me again why you thought this was a good idea. Again, I’d never say that it’s a bad idea because I’ve been in those situations, and it was a hell of a good time for one and all… and in those situations when the shit hit the fan and usually because someone thinks they’re getting more than their fair share of the attention.
I was game to do a threesome with a couple of guys and then be the focal point in this and… it never got off the ground because they got into a fight over who got to get next to me first. I’m trying to defuse and mediate the situation but tempers were up, blows were thrown and, okay, let me get out of the way before I get hit and… does it make any sense for guys to act like this? I didn’t think it did but, again, reality tends to assert itself and says, “Oh, is that what you think? Guess again… and you should know better than that.”
I do know better. The best group sex I’ve ever had has been when it’s been a free-for-all more than something that tends to get scripted; who can do this, can’t do it, when it can be done and just wait your turn and if you’re in the middle of an MMM situation – and the “M” in the middle means you are the focal point – things can get interesting because it can be quite intense with just one guy… and now, double the intensity and it can be a bit much and… I know why a lot of women wouldn’t want two guys focusing their lust upon her.
My protege found out about this. He was of a mind that it would be great to be in a group session and found out that it didn’t go the way he thought it would. After his first failed experience with this, man, I was chatting with him about it for hours because he couldn’t understand why sex between three like-minded guys turned into a clusterfuck and I tried to explain to him that, first, sex is only supposed to be done one-on-one and in a threesome, one person almost always winds up spectating and it rarely occurs to the guys to… get on in there and do something and not sit on the sidelines moping and bitching about getting related to the sidelines.
“It shouldn’t have went like that,” he had said.
“What you think is always one thing but what happens is always something else,” I said. “I know you think these guys are super-cool and all that but when guys get their dicks hard, they can change and not in a good way and then the threesome you thought was going to be all that turns out to be anything but,” I replied.
He learned that some guys aren’t able to have sex in a group. He told me about a session where him and three other guys were having their way with a very game twinky kind of guy and two of the guys were getting salty over which one of them was next to fill the twinky guy’s butt with dick – and he had to step in to defuse the situation which had an effect on the whole thing and at the end of it, the only guy who had a good time was the twinky guy.
I also told him that it’s not a good idea to spring a threesome on guys who weren’t expecting it and something he did a couple of times. I allowed that if it was just him and either of those guys, things would have gone well because when it’s one-on-one, a spontaneous breakout of sex isn’t a bad idea but when you toss in another guy who (a) didn’t see this coming and (b) is more of a one-on-one kind of guy, um, what made him think that this was going to go the way he thought it would?
“I wouldn’t have done that,” I said when he told me how it went down. “If you know the guys involved, what made you think that they’d be amiable to a threesome? And then, why did you wait until you got back to your place to spring this on them? I’ll bet you won’t do that again, will you?”
In contrast, he’d gotten invited to a group session by a guy he’d been one-on-one with and, at first, he was leery about accepting the invite and I strongly suggested that he accept it because (a) he’s going to learn something and (b) at the least, he’s going to get his nuts busted open. He went and, whew, there were quite a few attendees! But at the end of it all? It went well because everyone was willing to interact with everyone else and without any drama appearing.
The key to his success was being with a group of men who had zero problems with having sex in a group… and not all guys are like this. He had asked me if I’d go if invited and I said, “Sure, unless there was a reason why I couldn’t or shouldn’t – but I’m used to having sex in a group setting so that wouldn’t bother me and, yeah, I’d go with the understanding that anything can happen.”
“What if they wanted to fuck you?” he asked.
“Then I’d get fucked,” I said. “I know I could state that I don’t want to be, but I’d go there with the understanding that I could change my mind and, yeah, when in Rome… be Roman.”
He didn’t get boned but he got a lesson on how to have a successful group sex session.
It sounds like a good idea and sometimes, it really is. I’ve been in group sessions – both planned and unplanned – and have had one hell of a good time and, again, I have my own personal horror stories, too.
I’m at my second appointment – with the cardiologist – and my attention is divided between listening to what I’m being told and still thinking about group sex at a somewhat high level of thought. They can be erotic and sensual and oh, so, intimate and satisfying if it’s happening between people who don’t have a problem… having sex in a “public” setting, i.e., someone’s watching you get laid and all that good stuff.
Like, my protege and I were talking about the guy I wrote about a few days again and he asked me if I’d suck the guy’s dick with people watching me and I said, “Sure – why wouldn’t I? It’s not like I’ve never had people watching me have sex with someone.”
And me knowing that, nope, he wouldn’t. Oh, he’d suck the guy’s dick – after he got him behind closed doors because, in his mind, sex is still only to be done one-on-one and in private. And if this is where your mind is about having sex, well, sure – a group sex thing might be nice, but it does only “on paper,” right? Doesn’t mean you’re gonna do it because it’s not how you believe sex is supposed to happen – and there’s nothing wrong with that because that’s how most people think.
They’ll tell you how “wild and freaky” they are but mention sex in a group and… not so freaky now, huh? A husband and wife hit me up for a threesome and what they had to say “passed muster” with me but experience had taught me that if it can go wrong, it will go wrong and, yep, it did because the wife was having a field day with the “BBC” she wanted to experience. I’m trying to get him involved but I’m having a hard time because he made the mistake of thinking that this was going to go the way he thought it would. I eventually got him involved but this was a clusterfuck on the verge of happening.
He told me at the break that he was quite pissed to see his wife having fun with me – and very different from how she had fun with him, and I understood that because I’d seen this one before.
“You just have to get in there,” I’d said to him. “I got you to eat her and you were fine after that because you weren’t sitting on the side being pissed off over her behavior.”
I wound up taking charge of a situation that he was supposed to be leading. I had asked him, “Who as this really for – you or her?” and the question confused him until I got him to understand that he had proposed this to her and she agreed to it and, yeah, lost his cool because it wasn’t going the way he thought it was supposed to. The “good” part? I talked him into letting me blow him since his lady, well, let’s say that giving him some head wasn’t on her mind. He was reluctant but he said, “Fuck, why not?”
Which got her even more excited and now she’s engaging with him and, whew, disaster averted. He was happy, she was stupid happy and I… had fun. Someone had asked me what’s the best way to have a threesome and I offered, “It’s better when it’s not scripted, i.e., you’ve already decided what’s going to happen and how it’s going to happen before anything really happens because you can never know how the sex is going to affect someone either positively or negatively.”
And you really do have to have your head in a certain place to be able to (a) have group sex and (b) have fun at it. In the younger days, we did it like this because it was fun and usually didn’t have a lot of drama involved; in older times, I’ve seen drama and even violence happen because it’s sex in a way that we don’t know how to have; if it’s not one-on-one and without witnesses, it’s going to go very wrong.
It doesn’t always go south but, yeah, do be careful what you wish for because you can never really know what’s going to happen and especially when hard dicks are involved.
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