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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Next, What to Do?

So you’ve gotten past your “Oh, shit!” moment and have realized that the only thing that’s really changed about yourself is your thoughts about sex and sexuality although, admittedly, there still may be some “issues” still running around between your ears.  Perhaps you’ve decided that there’s nothing you can – or want to – do about this but maybe this has been on your mind enough and you’ve been thinking about what you’d like to do about this, you know, if you could.

Another of those “way back in the day” moments.  When two guys decided they wanted to “do it to each other,” it was accepted that “it” was pretty much doing everything, from playing with each other’s dick, to sucking each other’s dick, to dicks going in each other’s butt or, at the very least, dicks going between butt cheeks… then repeat if necessary or possible.

I’d have to say that guys then didn’t have much in the way of preferences other than wanting to do it and it wasn’t like guys were in the habit of asking what one liked (or being asked); again, “doing it” was a package deal so if there was a question to be asked and answered, it was usually, “Where can we do this?”  “What” was the whole nine yards; “why” was kinda self-evident; “when” was usually right this moment (but dependent upon the answer to “where”).

Experiences and time would eventually start to shake things out into “I like this” and “I don’t like that” which also included that, “Put it in my butt – but don’t stick it in too far” and the “I’ll suck your dick – but don’t shoot in my mouth” things that would crop up from time to time.

No Internet and the only form of porn were paperback books so if one was clever enough to swipe their father’s stash (or their mom’s stash), the only visualization of the sexual acts you were reading was whatever your mind could conjure up; other than word of mouth, there wasn’t much in the way of helpful information other than knowing what guys liked to do it and what guys didn’t or were too afraid to give it a shot.

There was almost always – and usually – that one moment when one boy would look at another boy and ask, “Have you ever done it with another boy?”  If the answer was yes, the next question would usually be, “Do you wanna do it?” and if the answer was no, um, the same question would be asked – and the answer could still be no… but sometimes it could be, “I don’t know…”

One might not have had any specific preferences when it came to doing it outside of wanting to do it out of that combination of raging hormones and the thrill of doing something that we all knew we weren’t supposed to be doing.

Today, guys have the “advantage” of being able to determine and decide what things they’d want to do once they get past that “Oh, shit!” moment – and thanks to the wealth of information the Internet can make available as well as an understanding of what gay men do when they do it to each other –  and deciding that doing just might be a good idea… but what to do?

And a lot of guys ask this question, believe it or not; it’s one thing to know what two guys could do to, for, and with each other, something else to figure out which of those things will turn out to be just what the doctor ordered.  It’s one thing to know that guys suck each other’s dick, another to imagine one’s self doing it and the same goes for having anal sex and even jerking each other off.

Guys ask this question of me and I’ve answered their question with a question:  What would you want to do?  Some guys would ask this question and it’s a rhetorical one – they already know what they wanna do but the question is more of a… confirmation of sorts so a conversation about what can be done begins and at a basic level:  Mutual masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, all of the above, any combination of those things which could also include kissing and cuddling (or not).

Guys today are able to sort out their preferences before they ever do it for the first time; they’ve already decided that they’re going to be a top (the guy in the male-dominant sexual role) or a bottom (the guy in the female-submissive sexual role) and, yeah, sometimes, a guy will start out wanting to be in both roles and as he feels in the moment.

What gets… amusing is that some guys do, in fact, have an idea of what they want to experience… but will still ask what it’s like to do it, oh, like sucking dick, for example.  Now, you’d think this would be a no-brainer and more so for any guy who’d ever had his dick sucked by a woman and for some guys it is a no-brainer – just not for every guy.  Having your cock sucked is one thing… being the one doing the sucking a whole different thing and, of course, there’s the whole matter of what to do when the guy cums – swallow it, wear it, avoid it at all costs and by any means necessary.

Guys are well-versed about fucking coochie and you’d think that there wouldn’t be much of a disconnect about sticking their dick in a guy’s ass – and more so if they’d ever had anal sex with a women – but, again, there’s this perceived difference but the main thing about this is a sense of revulsion because, well, we know what that orifice’s main purpose is, don’t we?  On the receiving end of the high hard one, again, we see that knowing that guys get boned as being one thing… wholly different when you’re the one with the hankering to get boned because the other thing we know, even via word of mouth, is that, um, it can hurt going in.

True enough, some guys prepare themselves for this moment by using toys, from butt plugs to dildos to prostate stimulators and while this is all well and good, most guys find that while using toys can get them used to being penetrated, having the real thing in their butt is rather different; it’s one thing to do this to yourself, another when you’re not really in control of that moment and there’s a very horny guy on the other end of the dick that’s about to meet your acquaintance.

So we see that when it comes to deciding what to do, there are choices… but choices that aren’t always easy to make because along with all the things two guys can do, there’s also a laundry list of reasons why guys shouldn’t do any of them.  One major one is, “What if someone finds out I (add an M2M thing here)?”  Yes, there’s the whole “What if I catch something?” thing to consider but it’s nothing a case of condoms can’t take care of.

Guys find that it’s easy to sit back and think about all of this but to get to the point where one does those things they’ve been pondering just might provide some added “stress” to the list of things to stress about in this, up to and including wondering, even here in the 21st century, if doing whatever they’re thinking about is going to make them gay.

Yeah, guys back in the 1960s were worried about this, too, so that hasn’t changed a whole lot.  Sometimes I think that guys looking and/or waiting for their first experience tends to suffer from an informational overload – just too much information to process but it is important for a guy to process all of that information and to the best of their ability because one thing they may discover is that the best thing for them to do is…

Nothing.  Certainly, there are a lot of reasons for a guy not to give into the great urge to get out there and do something about what they’re thinking and feeling but it just doesn’t pay to dive in there without thinking things through and beginning with being able to imagine themselves all up into whatever they wanted to experience.

Which is a kind of lead-in to the next thing I’ll scribble about – and you’ll know it when you see it…

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Posted by on 7 December 2018 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts and Top Searches: Coincidence?

I dunno… maybe it’s just me, but there seems to be an increase in the interest in blow jobs, from the bi guy forum to my old friend, Top Searches, which still has a question about bro jobs hanging out on my dashboard and my post, “Asking for a Bro-Job” continues to be the most read scribble.  Even my protege, Cityman, said something to me about a surge in the number of guys hitting him up and offering (and asking for) head.

Makes me wonder if there’s something about this time of year that could be responsible.  Cityman opined that maybe it’s the holidays and dudes are just lonelier than, say, back in the summer.  I opined that in much of the country, winter is making itself felt – the weather’s getting colder and nastier in some places and maybe guys aren’t of a mind to be out on the prowl so much when it’s colder than a witch’s tit – so staying and, um, entertaining themselves via some mutual cock sucking is better than running around all over the place and looking to do the same thing – bad enough one has to go out in the cold to go to work and handle other necessary business.


Cityman had asked, rhetorically, what’s up with all the guys wanting to suck cock “all of a sudden” and I reminded him that cock sucking is still like the number one M2M thing to do and as I’ve said here time and time again, it’s high on the list because it doesn’t take a whole lot of time, doesn’t require any special preparation before the fact, can be done almost anywhere… and, oh, yeah, it feels pretty damned good giving and/or receiving.

That and there are plenty of bi guys who’d rather not fuck or be fucked.

When Cityman and I talk blow jobs, it’s rarely about technique; nah, we tend to get into the guts of it (definitely no pun intended), like what’s so appealing about it, whether or not cock sucking “should be” a required skill all bi men should learn – stuff like that.  We debate whether or not technique is all a guy needs or it’s having that desire, that love of participating in some oral satisfaction, that has the most meaning… or a combination of both things.  We get into that whole oral fixation thing and how odd it is that a guy will want to experience this, be justifiably scared shitless to do it – but then gives it a shot and now they kinda get hooked on it.

We discuss the social aspects and once got into an interesting conversation about how guys sucking each other off more often can go a long way to resolving population issues and even how going down on each other could take some of the pressure off of women to do it.

The guys on the forum get all into what size cock they like to suck and some share what it’s like for them to suck a dick, good information for all those guys still sitting on the bench and waiting for their chance to find out what all the hype is about sucking cock.

One of the things Cityman and I talk about often is why there are some guys who just won’t suck a dick; such conversations tend to get a bit involved because there’s no simple answer to the question, which can range from “I tried it and didn’t like it” to guys being very worried about their masculinity since, you know, sucking dick is such a “girly” thing to do.

Like I’ve been saying, if you think women are funny about such things, guys are even funnier and as evidenced by the number of guys who love to suck cock… but would prefer not to have theirs sucked and how this… behavior seems to be prevalent in guys who are bottoms.  One of the reasons behind that that I know about is some guys know that if they get their dick sucked and made to cum, they’re gonna be taken out of the game and now might not be in the mood to do any sucking themselves.  Another is that some guys cum pretty quickly when there’s a dude blowing them and, well, that’s pretty embarrassing so, sure, the best way to avoid that is to tell homey to keep his mouth off the dick, please and thank you.

Some guys have said that having their dick sucked doesn’t turn them on or doesn’t do anything for them and, as such, they’re of a mind that it’s always better to give than receive.  I know what such fellows say about this and I can accept what they have to say… doesn’t mean I really understand this other than for the reasons mentioned in the above paragraph and maybe even how some bottoms are really into being “submissive” and, I guess, in their minds, they’re the ones who do all of the cock sucking and it’s never a question about reciprocation for them.

So… it’s the holiday season, getting cold and stormy in many parts of the country… and guys seem to want to wile away the winter doldrums by getting into some heavy cock sucking.

Coincidence?  I dunno… it is kinda curious, though.


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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: I Tried to Resist, But…

…I couldn’t, not when I saw on my Dashboard, “how to know when a guy wants a brojob.”

Still, it’s a legit question and the only thing I can point back to was the many times I’ve seen guys doing everything they could to get the hint across that, um, you know, if we were to, uh, suck each other’s cock, er, ah, I wouldn’t mind and I sure won’t tell anyone that we did this.  Lemme see if I can (once again) dissect this.

Are there any external signs that a guy might want a bro job?  Other than sneaking peeks at his crotch to see if he’s hard or not, you’d have to be knowledgeable in the art of reading body language and being able to listen to how a guy is saying something and not necessarily what he’s saying although that can be a clue as well.  While these things are and can be rather telling, before one puts such a suggestion on the table, one must remember that what you see or hear isn’t always what’s really going on.

Some of trying to figure this out depends on the situation at hand – what are the two guys doing and/or talking about?  See, back in the day, it wasn’t unusual for guys to get together to just hang out and gossip – yes, women aren’t the only ones who do this.  Now it’s a matter of whether or not the conversation migrates to things sexual or not and, at least in my experiences, it wasn’t ever a question of if a conversation would make that turn but when it would.

For me, that’s when things got to be rather funny.  If you’re paying attention to the other guy, again, his body language and a certain change in the pattern of his speech can, at the least, tell you that he’s horny and wants to do something about it.  Some guys fidget – they can’t seem to sit still and I’ve heard some guys say, out of the blue and totally unrelated to the conversation of the moment, “Man, I wouldn’t mind getting my dick sucked right about now!”

What you don’t know is whether he’s actually hinting that the two of you should do this or he’s really thinking about how he can convince a woman to suck his dick.  Likewise, I’ve been in conversations where a guy will, again, out of the blue and totally disconnected from, say, talking about football, “What would you do if some dude asked if he could suck your dick?”

Some guys are just fucking hilarious when trying to drop hints and just as funny are the guys who sense where this conversation is going… but are on the fence about whether they should offer up their own thoughts on whatever funny question was asked.  For me, sheesh, such conversations and these hilarious twists would be… annoying; I’d be talking to a guy, the conversation gets “sexy,” and he’s dropping hints all over the place and as he does so, I’m thinking to myself, “Why don’t you just come out and tell me what you wanna do?  Jeez!”

So when a guy dropped the “I wouldn’t mind getting my dick sucked” thing, I’d just ask them, “What’s on your mind about it?” or sometimes I’d even say, “Yeah, that would work for me, too!” – and then watch them – again, their body language can be quite telling if you know what to look for.

To the question of, “What would you do if…?” I’d often take a moment to think about the guy I’m talking to and what I already know about him before answering in one of two ways:  If a guy wanted to suck my dick, sure, I’d let him do it or, if I’m pretty sure or have a good sense that this answer would, ah, offend him, I’d backpedal and answer with, “I don’t know what I’d do…”  And many times, I’ve learned that what I thought I knew about a guy wasn’t all there was to be learned about him, i.e., he’s usually pretty vocal and against guys doing it to other guys… but, secretly, he’s either done it before or is now looking to take the plunge.

Then, with either response, I’d watch his body language and if he appears to be disappointed or even “encouraged,” well, he could be suggesting that the two of us whip out our dicks and work toward making them very soft again.

Once, a guy was tap-dancing all around the place and it actually got on my nerves enough for me to say to him, “Why don’t you just ask me what you want to ask me and stop dancing around all over the place?”  Sometimes, one can be intuitive enough to sense a change in the mood and pick up on the fact that whatever machinations the other guy is going through really means that if you were to agree, it would be nice for us to suck on each other’s dick until we both cum.

And I won’t tell if you won’t.

You just know this is what he wants to ask and do should you be of a mind to agree – and now it’s just a matter of whether or not he’s gonna be brave enough to just put it out there.

Some guys disguise their, ah, desire for this with roughhousing; if a guy “suddenly” suggests that we should wrestle or otherwise initiates some light roughhousing, well, that could be a rather physical hint that he just might want some more, um, personal body to body contact.  The thing that always struck me as being hilarious was that most of the guys I hung out with knew I had a black belt in judo and they’d still want to wrestle and now for me it was a matter of being observant enough to be able to feel his erection as we tussled.  Or, like one guys did during one roughhouse session, um, he planted his face in my crotch and lightly gnawed on me; on the surface – and if you had been watching this, it looked like he was trying to distract me as I had applied a light arm lock, you know, to “shock” me into releasing the arm lock (not that I was really gonna hurt his arm).

I felt the… nibbles and just said to him, “If that’s what you want to do, ya might want to unzip me first – pretty sure my pants don’t taste all that good…”

His response?  “You’ll have to let go of my arm first…”

On the whole, there’s really no sure, definitive way to know if a guy wants to get into a bro job unless he either does or say something that leaves no doubt in your mind that this is what he really wants to do.  Again, sometimes what he says can be an indication and more so if he’s asking or talking about something that’s unrelated to whatever preceded this change in the conversation.  If a guy seems to be down in the mouth about something – girl problems, some shit going on with his job or even the frustration over not being able to get a job – and a few other things, it’s just kinda strange that when guys get stressed to a certain degree, sex just seems to be the right thing to relieve that stress and, sure, if some intoxicants are involved, well, there’s no telling what his lowered inhibitions are going to reveal.

Sure, if you sense that things are heading in this direction, you could just simply ask him, “Why are we talking about this?” or even “What is it that you really want to do?” while keeping in mind that he might be “offended” and start backpedaling.  Guys talk to each other about sex even if in rather general terms and a general sort of way; doesn’t mean he’s fishing for a bro job… and it could mean that he is and now it’s up to you to figure out what’s really on his mind and short of asking him directly, there’s still no dyed-in-the-wool to know or tell that he’s interested in a bro job unless, of course, he’s bold and daring enough to come right out and ask you – and some guys won’t because, as everyone knows (or should know), we don’t exactly handle rejection very well.

I’ve had guys ask me how they can ask another guy if they can blow them and without getting punched in the face and I’ve honestly told them that you just get up the nerve to ask them and be ready to deal with however the other guy reacts and even if he reacts badly to such an offer.

And, yes:  I’ve had guys ask me how they can ask another guy if they can suck his dick… and I’ve been the guy they wanted to ask and, yep, I’ve been taken by surprise by such a twist and usually because I just learned something about this guy that I didn’t know.

Guys can be direct and right to the point about wanting to do this… or they can drop hints, tap dance, and other rather funny things trying to get up the nerve and to the point where what they want to do, right here and now, is to get some cock sucking going.  I’ve sat and watched guys go through all of this and stop short of actually putting the suggestion on the table… then, the next time I’ve been hanging with them, they happen to mention that, um, you know, the other day?  I really wanted to suck your dick and was hoping you wouldn’t mind sucking mine…

And the only thing I could say in response was, “Why didn’t you just ask me?”

And that’s really the only way to really know if a guy wants a bro job – just ask him if that’s what he wants to do as well as deciding whether or not you, too, want to do this.


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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Oops!

I’m sorry to bring this up again, but, the image of that clip I saw on Tumblr a while ago now where the young guy was sucking dick and got surprised by the other guy cumming popped into my head and while I know it’s not really funny… um, it still gives me the giggles to recall the look of utter surprise on his face and his cheeks doing the chipmunk thing.

One of the reasons why some women will skin you alive if you cum in their mouth is because, as I’ve heard countless times, the “perpetrator” swore on every holy item he could mention that if she does this for him, he’s not gonna cum in her mouth… and then he does just that and, yeah, sometimes a guy can be such an asshole because no matter what he said, he intended to do what he swore he wasn’t gonna do.  Going forward, the “victim” might continue to give a guy head but it ain’t gonna be “a whole lot” and she sure as hell isn’t going to tolerate one of those “I didn’t mean for that to happen” excuses… and even if the guy truly didn’t mean to.

I often think there are some… misconceptions at work here.  One of them is our ability to hold back from cutting loose when getting head and as if our control over this is absolute – it isn’t.  Then there are those guys who will say that while they enjoy being sucked, bleh, they’ve never been able to cum that way – or, perhaps, truthfully, they’ve never been allowed to cum that way.  So they assume that if they’ve never cum being sucked by a woman, it’s not gonna happen with a guy… and both guys can wind up getting surprised and often, sooner than anyone could anticipate.

Another is the assumption that the guy being blown will have the presence of mind to give the promised warning and that can be an iffy moment at best because getting shoved off the cliff can hit a guy faster than his brain can realize it’s about to happen – and there’s no time to blurt out, “I’m gonna cum!”

And, um, oops – sorry about that, man…

And, yeah, there are still those guys who are total assholes and will tell a guy that, hey, if you suck my dick, I promise to let you know when I’m gonna cum so you can stop, okay?  Then, moments later, oops!  Now the cad is “apologizing” for something that he, in fact, meant to do.

As I sat here giggling to myself about that video clip that seems to be stuck in my head, a question popped into my head and along the lines of what, if anything, can a guy do to keep from getting surprised?  The first thing is kinda obvious:  If you’re not planning or wanting to get a mouthful of spunk, um, don’t suck cock – and I’m not even gonna say don’t suck it for a long time because, again, a guy’s “control” can be subverted at any time.

If a guy promises to warn you, take it with a grain of salt because, um, he might not be able to give the warning in enough time and, yeah, if he’s telling you in no uncertain terms that he’s not gonna cum in your mouth, um, don’t believe him and keep it firmly in your head that shit always happens when you don’t want it to.

Are there any “warning signs” that a guy is on the verge of cutting loose?  Yeah, there are… if you’re able to pick up on them and you’re paying attention to how he’s reacting to what you’re doing – and some guys just don’t give off any signs that they’re about to cum; one moment you’re happily sucking on him and the next, oops.  Sometimes the “warning signs” are noticeable, like being able to feel a series of tremors running along his cock and being able to feel the guy’s prick swell to some degree and if he hasn’t issued the warning, you have maybe a second or two to get his dick out of your mouth.

If you keep on hand on his cock and, sometimes, one hand lightly on his belly, you might be able to pick up on those things as well as a big change in his breathing.


Of course, the other thing one can do to avoid a mouthful is to tell the guy – and before anything happens – that you’d prefer him not to unload in your mouth and just in case he’s not gonna be able to keep his word to abide by your wishes, put a condom on him.  Not only is it safer but should his, ah, control not be as good as he thinks it is (or as good as you think it should be) if he goes “oops,” it’ll be in the condom and not assaulting your taste buds with a taste you might not be used to or want to deal with.

And that’s if you can handle the taste of latex; even those flavored condoms can leave a worst taste in your mouth than a load of spunk can.  Some make the mistake of using a condom that’s been pre-lubricated; not only does the lubrication keep the condom from drying out in the package, the lubrication can also contain a spermicide – I wonder if it’s still Nonoxol-9? – and the included spermicide can not only taste horrible but can make one’s mouth and tongue go numb.


Let’s see… what else?  If you have doubts about his ability to not cum and you have reason to believe that he’s getting close, stop sucking him and finish him with your hand – oh, and point the “barrel of the gun” away from you unless you’re not gonna mind getting a facial.  Another kind of funny thing is that some guys actually like to watch the other guy bust a nut and tend to hover over the cock they’re stroking with their hand and waiting for the explosion to happen… and with their mouth open – and usually because they’re also trying to catch their breath.  The guy cums and, oops, now you’re tasting some spunk when that wasn’t on your list of things to do.

Lawd… I can’t get that damned video clip out of my head; I think that guy’s look of utter surprised is burned into my memory.

I’ve talked to guys who’ve gotten that unexpected mouthful and they were beyond being pissed about it and usually because there was no warning and while I can sympathize with them, I’ve asked them, “Well, what did you think was gonna happen?”  Some guys admitted to being surprised, like, the guy cut loose way before he thought he might and I’ve found myself shrugging and telling the pissed off guy, “It happens…” which doesn’t make the “offended” guy feel any better but is still an indication that what you think and what might happen truly aren’t the same things.

One of the things that isn’t exactly an “oops” moment is a guy getting surprised by the amount of spunk they find flowing into their mouth… and some guys can really bring the fabled “huge load.”  Instead of “oops,” that’s more like an “oh, shit” moment to find yourself trying to handle more than you expected and, oops, sometimes swallowing out of self-defense or even as an automatic reaction to find your mouth “overloaded” and spitting it out, well, there’s just no time to do that right away.

But, yeah, even that can make a guy giving head get “that look” on his face and give him chipmunk cheeks.  Yeah, I know – it’s not really funny and more so when one gets caught off guard by the other guy’s happy moment – I just happen to have a wicked sense of humor.

Now, ya might be wondering if I’ve ever been surprised like that… and the answer is sure I have and, yup, I’ve even had guys tell me that they’d warn me, that they weren’t gonna cum, and even that they couldn’t cum like that; otherwise, I never would have learned the lessons that are a part of this and the biggest and most important one is that if you suck a guy’s dick – and, sometimes how long you do it isn’t a factor – if you do it in just the right way, he’s gonna cum in your mouth.  How do you know when you’ve done it in just the right way?  Um, he’s gonna cum in your mouth and, yup, it’s a surprise to both guys.

So you learn to expect it to happen and if it doesn’t, okay.  You fix it in your mind that if/when he cums – and you’re not opposed to him cumming in your mouth – it may be a little or it may be a lot.  It might take him a while to cut loose or, ah, embarrassingly, it could literal take a few seconds.  You do your best to identify the warning signs (and if the guy gives off any) and if you think he’s about to unload on you, just stop sucking him.  There are little tricks you can use to, um, delay the inevitable, like hold him at the base of his cock and applying some pressure – but not a whole lot because that shit hurts, right?  If you want to make him cum – but not in your mouth – use your hand a bit more and cut back the amount of time you have him in your mouth.

The thing is that once a guy reaches that point of no return, nothing you’re gonna do is gonna stop him from exploding; the other thing is that the point of no return isn’t as… consistent as one might expect because not only do you not know when the other guy is going to reach that moment, sometimes he doesn’t know, either; like I said, it can either take him quite a bit of time to cum (and more so if he jerked off before you got together) or it can happen seconds after you get started.

And, oops – chipmunk cheeks and that look of total, utter surprise on your face.  I will say that this situation isn’t really that big of a trust issue that some guys make it out to be; if anything, it’s the giver not really understanding how this whole thing can work and that it often doesn’t work the way one might expect it to so, yeah:  If you suck a guy’s cock in just the right way and in the right moment, what do you think is gonna happen?

And, with all seriousness now, if you don’t want to be surprised and be all chipmunk-y, um, don’t suck dick or do it with him safely covered up.


Posted by on 28 October 2018 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Being in One of Those Moments

I’m sitting and watching “Station 19;” the new captain is bitching out a woman on his team who has applied to be a lieutenant and he had given her some leadership tasks… and tasks that she failed to do and he said something about the way she was thinking…

And your friend and mine – my brain – asked, “Why is it that some folks believe that bullshit that us bi guys don’t think about what we’re doing?”

Oh, okay… we’re really doing this again, brain?

“We sure are… and while you’re at it, we need to make a dumpster run so grab your coat and I’ll rewind the tape and show you what I’m talking about…”

I don’t remember his name or how we even wound up being together; I don’t even recognize where this memory too place – my brain has edited that information out because it’s not germane to the question asked.

We’re both naked and I can tell that he’s nervous – this is only like his third or fourth time doing this and his body language is conflicting because he’s nervous yet his cock is showing no signs of being nervous. Indeed, he’s so nervous I can smell it, a somewhat sour kind of scent that’s not wholly unpleasant. He’s telling me something – I can see his mouth forming words but can’t hear what he’s saying.

“It’s not important what he’s saying,” my brain says, trying to sneakily ease its “finger” off the mute button. “This ain’t about him – it’s about you so pay attention, okay?”

I said something and he smiles nervously before stretching out on the bed and I follow, feeling my thoughts shifting into operating mode but I’m not really thinking about anything outside of wondering what he’s gonna taste and feel like in my mouth.

“Fast forwarding,” my brain says and now I’m well into sucking his dick and most of my senses are working at 110%; his scent has changed – it’s no longer a little sour because he’s gotten over his nervousness. With one hand on his belly, I can tell his body temp is up, as is his heart rate and breathing and, oh, yeah, his cock tastes and feels wonderful in my mouth and I’m trying to decide if I want to prolong making him cum or “kill him quickly…” and then let him live just enough so he can return the favor… or even if wanna be bothered with that… or swallow his jizz and keep going until he’s good and hard again.

That’s for later consideration; for now, he’s gently thrusting into my mouth and even though my brain has muted his moans and curses, I can feel the vibrations in his body and just when I’m about to really get into the zone, my brain says, “You know we’ve got that meeting tomorrow at 9:30, don’t you?”

“Oh, and when you get done with this guy, don’t forget you’re supposed to go get the oil changed.”

“What’s for dinner? Are you cooking or do you wanna order out?”

“He tastes a little salty and I’m reminding you to get your lab work done…”

“What else do we have to do later?”

And this sudden influx of seemingly random thoughts stops me dead in mid-suck, my tongue kinda waving around his cock knob as I ask my brain, “Of all the times to bring this shit up, you had to do it now?”

“Sure; just because you’re having fun blowing this guy doesn’t mean I’m supposed to just shit down… and that remind me – we’re getting low on coffee and creamer.”

I blink and return to the moment and, oops, he’s spilling his seed into my mouth and it does taste as good as I suspected it would… but even as I swallow, I’m back to thinking about those few seconds where my brain decided to do it’s job and think, remind me of stuff, and keeping track of the guy who’s been writhing under my oral assault and did, in fact, record the moments before his back arched and he pushed a little more of himself into my mouth just before that first spurt was fired.

Just as it made note of how long it took for him to cum – just over six minutes; total time I was “distracted” by the other things in my head? Felt like twenty minutes – was really only a few seconds and, as always, one of those things was that damned cricket that lives in my head reminding me that I should have done this, shouldn’t have loved doing it, and I sure as hell shouldn’t be getting situated so he can do what’s he’s doing now.

“Which, by the way, does feel good,” my brain chimes in. “Now, while he’s having fun working to get you off, let’s go over what we have to do for the rest of the week…”

While my brain is forcing me to go over my to do list, The Cricket is pissed beyond being pissed… because this guy is really giving my dick a good working over. The Cricket is protesting mightily, that other part of my mind is droning on and on about what has to be done next month, and that part of me that is always paying attention to everything is letting me know that in about, oh, another few minutes, he’s gonna make you cum – so what do you wanna do after that?

Do you call it quits or do we have time for another round of this?

Let me finish busting my nut and I’ll get back to you…

Lots of white noise blankets out all thought… the the signal is reacquainted and the brain is both rejoicing over my ejaculatory moment, The Cricket is having a stroke and a grand mal seizure, and then”appointment secretary in my head had determined that if he wants to go again and, um his renewed erection seems to indicate that he does, well, we have some time before I gotta go get the oil changed.”

Total time immersed in this memory? About five minutes – the time it took me to get the big trash can, trundle it to the dumpster, empty it, and return home.

And, no – it’s not true that we don’t think and/or are mindless about doing this, that we’re not aware of the implications and the probable consequences… but if you were to ask what I was thinking about as this guy and I sucked each other off twice, my answer just might have been, “Nothing…” not because I wasn’t thinking but because what I was thinking about was just too much to verbalize and most of it didn’t have anything to do with what the two of us was doing that day.

And even as I went through this memory, that damned cricket had something to say – again… and just as I did that day, I ignored it, not because it’s being a mental pain in my ass but because it’s not telling me anything it hasn’t told me many times…

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Posted by on 26 October 2018 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Why Are You Doing It?

On the heels of “TBT:  Who Is Better?” on of the things that I think play heavily into this is why someone is sucking cock to begin with and, doing a bit of generalization, men and women do it for different reasons and reasons that I’ll do my best to explain.  I’ll get this right up front and say that y’all don’t have to agree with me but I’m just telling you some things that I’ve observed over all this time.

Sassy Sara commented on my last scribble and mentioned that she’s been going to town on her hubby and expecting, at some point, to have his tool inside her but realizes that he’s close to exploding so she keeps going until he does… and this particular thing is one of the reasons why some women are loath to endure finishing off a blow job; they know that if he’s allowed to cum, she’s not gonna get screwed in that moment or later (and when she might not be in the mood) or not at all.

Good reasons not to finish a blow job, right?  Some say this is selfishness, some say it’s a necessity because her needs should always supersede his needs so he shouldn’t ever expect to be finished unless she’s giving him head because that’s all she wants to do.

It’s not totally a case of women not liking to give head but one of a combination of things, like, it’s hard work and the bigger the cock, the harder it is to work; some guys in her past have managed to make sucking cock a rather miserable thing for her to do and when you combine these two particular things, if she’s going down on you, it’s usually because it’s expected of her or, in her mind, merely a prelude to her getting nailed… and let’s not ignore that getting a mouthful of stuff is still very much an acquired taste and one that is always subject to change even with the same guy.  It’s the reason why a guy cannot step to a woman (or his woman) and ask her for a complete blow job without getting his head handed to him in some way.  Well, he can ask… it’s a sure bet he’s not gonna like her response and/or answer.

It’s also something that some women can be in a hurry to get done with and for the reasons I’ve already mentioned.  Let me, at this point, add in another peculiarity that, among men, adds to this situation, namely, how some women demand to be eaten and giving her a few token licks is not what she had in mind; I’ve heard too many men complain that they don’t understand why a woman will be so demanding about being eaten for long periods of time… but if he were to suggest she suck him off, shit tends to hit the fan.

Which is a nice segue into why there are guys who like to suck cock and be sucked by other guys.  The thought here is that another guy is – or should be – willing to do that which women, “apparently” aren’t of a mind to do as well as it is assumed that all guys who into sex with other guys suck dick as a matter of course and by default and unless some fucking is on the list of things to do, finishing things is expected and for many men, required.

Let’s not forget that there are a lot of guys who are into sex with other guys who wouldn’t suck a dick even if you put a gun to their head and cocked the trigger nor should we forget that just like women, men do get subjected to bad cock sucking experiences that will impact and effect their willingness to suck a dick going forward and, yes, including that, “I’m not gonna cum in your mouth – I promise!” thing that many women have experienced.  Then, not all guys who suck cock acquire the taste and guys to find out, just as women have, that sucking dick and getting the guy off isn’t always as easy as one might think it is so for some guys, sucking a dick and working to get the guy off is more of an effort than they want to expend and, sometimes, time is a factor which is also why a lot of guys are game for a blow job session because when compared to what it takes to get dick into ass safely, blow jobs take less time and can be done almost anywhere.

But just like some women, a lot of guys suck cock because they’re expected to and as a prelude of getting poked by the dick they’re sucking – again, like women, guys expecting to be fucked aren’t gonna be of a mind to finishing off the cock in their mouth because they know that when the other guy cums, it’s game over for an unknown period of time. So to the guy doing the sucking, not finishing the job makes sense to him… but to the guy on the receiving end, well, he just experienced a bad blow job because he wasn’t allow to cum that way.

For both men and women, all of this should sound familiar, right?  Cocks get sucked – or pussies get eaten – out of expected obligation and as foreplay for the main event – putting A into B or C.  One pointed difference is that there are guys who aren’t into anal sex at all so their one and only thing to do is to suck cock and since this is the only thing they wanna do with another guy, they’re gonna be pretty gung ho to do the job and finish it… provided the other guy cooperates.  Guys in this frame of mind are… dedicated to making that dick hard and making it soft and no matter how long it takes to do it but it is to note that when time is a factor, some guys can be quite aggressive when working the dick, the thought here being the quicker nuts can be busted, the faster one can get back to whatever they were doing before taking a cock break.

Um, some guys don’t respond well to aggressive cock sucking which can divert attention from the pleasures of being sucked to worrying about any discomfort he’s feeling, like too much teeth being involved, sucking too hard, and even being gripped too hard or having their balls fondled too roughly for their tastes.  Then tack on the expectation factor, like a guy just expects that the guy going down on him knows exactly how to suck his dick and get him off… and unless it’s a guy you’ve been with before, uh, how is a new guy doing it gonna know exactly what it’s gonna take?

You’re beginning to see how this “Who’s better?” thing is starting to play out, aren’t you?  Then one of the most definitive and deciding factors – the notion of what’s a good blow job and what isn’t and a lot of guys are of a mind that if they aren’t made to cum – or allowed to cum – the blow job wasn’t all that and no matter whether it was a girl or a guy performing it.  It cannot be discounted that some guys do not know how to get their dick sucked and are of a mind that face fucking, for instance, is the same as getting a blow job and I tend to disagree with that and, yep, I lay the blame for this directly on porn which has gotten a lot of men thinking and believing that someone sucking their dick really wants to get gagged, have rivers of snot and tears flowing and just having their mouth and throat ravaged.

And while some do think this is their idea of cock sucking fun, that ain’t everyone who sucks cock and, indeed, there are some cock suckers who are of a mind that if something like this isn’t happening, the receiver must not be enjoying what’s being done and guys who do it as a matter of course probably believe that they’re not doing it right if they’re not trying to ram as much cock as they can into someone’s mouth.

If a cock sucker doesn’t like that, well, sure – the receiver is going to almost always label the blow job as bad because it didn’t meet their expectations.  A lot of guys point to technique as being a factor in determining or deciding between good and bad; as I’ve said a lot of times, technique is important… but just because Person A can deep throat the shit out of you but Person B is unable to, that doesn’t necessarily mean that the blow job is a bad one but, yeah, once again, expectations tend to play a very major role in this good/bad and who’s better thing.

But if you suck cock, why are you doing it?  Maybe you don’t think this has something to do with things… and if so, I’d say you’re probably very much mistaken and it is something that most people don’t think of… or really give a shit about.  The reason why someone sucks cock is tied to and/or related to both their ability to do it… and their desire to do it or, as mentioned many times, the difference between an obligatory action, liking it, and loving it and these three things impact cocks suckers and no matter if they’re male or female, that and if a receiver makes the cock sucking experience a nightmare for even the most eager cock sucker, that good, bad, and who’s better thing becomes more of an issue.

I’ve asked guys who suck cock what I think is a simple question:  When you’re sucking dick, who are you doing it for?  Are you sucking that dick because it makes you feel head-swimmingly wonderful… or are you sucking that dick to make its owner happy?  Would it surprise you that a lot of the guys who’ve answered these questions will say that they’re doing it to make the other guy happy?  I’m not saying this is unimportant… but it’s my thought that if you’re not sucking dicks because it makes you happy, could that also play into the good, bad, and who’s better thing as well?

And, before you ask, I’ve been asked the same question(s) and my answer could be seen as a selfish one in that when I’m sucking cock (or even eating pussy) I’m doing it because it makes me feel very damned good to be doing it and, in turn, it makes the recipient a happy critter – unless they tell me otherwise, of course.

I think one of the things that also plays into this is the thought that cock sucking is a submissive act… but not every cock sucker looks at it as a submissive thing to do and, perhaps, depending on what the word “submissive” means to an individual.  Many cock sucking guys do say that the reason why they suck cock is because it makes them feel submissive and they like feeling that way.  I’m not saying this is a good or bad thing but it does factor in to that whole good, bad, or who’s better thing.

It’s really all about why and not so much how that I feel is key to this whole cock sucking thing.  It’s about incompatible expectations and you can read this as the cock sucker having one expectation and the recipient having a totally different one.  Sassy Sara mentioned a factoid that said only something like 13% of men actually cum from a blow job… and even she thinks this isn’t quite right (and neither do I) and there are a lot of reasons that support this… and also plays into good, bad, who’s better from the fact that some cock suckers who are expecting to be fucked will not allow or tolerate the recipient busting a nut to including the fact that some guys actually “cheat” when they’re expecting to be sucked by jerking off before the fact and that’s something that, in most men, will make getting him to cum again take a very long time to achieve… and if it happens at all.

If a cock sucker gets it into their head that the other person isn’t enjoying what’s being done, it will affect things… and even if the giver is really mistaken about that.  Technique, such as it is, will not only vary from one person to the next (and even with the same person) but whatever happens to be going through a giver’s mind in that moment can affect the outcome – and the pun is really intended this time… and if the giver has other expectations or has it in their mind that what they’re doing is way too much work, that, too, will play into any determination where good, bad, and who’s better is concerned.

One other thing that I think plays into this among men are those guys who want their dick sucked – or don’t want it sucked – because they know they’re gonna be enticed to lose their load before they want to and it’ll take them out of the game and put an end to anything else that might have been on the table… unless there’s sufficient time to allow recovery and a continuance of things… and sometimes, there’s no time for that.  As odd as it may seem, a guy who is enticed to cum before he wants to will view this as a bad blow job… because his expectations weren’t met and they didn’t take into consideration why the other guy is sucking his dick in the first place.

Is any of this overthinking things?  I don’t think so and considering how many guys want to not only have their dick sucked but be made to give up the jizz.  Again, between men, if the agreement is to exchange blow jobs, there are some hard-set expectations or, really, just one:  If you suck my dick, you’d better make me cum and if you don’t, you will be tagged as being bad at it and the “balance” between who’s better will tip one way or the other.

Maybe it’s just me but I think that guys should be, at the very least, grateful that someone is willing to suck their dick in the first place and instead of having an expectation of being made to cum, perhaps their focus should be more on how he’s being made to feel while being sucked.  If they can, um, it might help to know if the person sucking their dick even wants them to cum – and sometimes they don’t and it’s not necessarily because busting a nut is a game-ending event or they haven’t acquire the taste for spunk but because sucking on a hard dick is very pleasing and as long as it’s hard – and its owner hasn’t unloaded, the longer the pleasure can last for the giver.

So in many ways, it’s all about why it’s being done and more than a means to an expected end.  I can remember many a conversation with women about why I suck dick and I’ve responded initially by asking them, “Why do you do it?”  They’ve answered, “Because I like doing it” or a similar statement and I’ve replied, “Well, there’s your answer to why I do it… and do you really believe that women are the only ones who not only suck cock but do it because they like/love doing it?”

And I guess that never occurs to some women, huh?  The thing is that guys who suck cock have something in common with women who suck cock and we do, in fact, do it for nearly identical reasons:  Out of obligation or expectations, because we like it, or because we absolutely love doing it and if some seed gets split, so much the better but if not, it was still a fun thing to do even if the recipient feels that not cumming didn’t make it fun for them.  In the case of good, bad, and who’s better, it’s about perspective more than anything else – what the giver’s purpose for sucking the dick is and what the receiver’s expectations are about the outcome of having their dick sucked.

There are reasons… valid reasons why some women aren’t the fans of it that some think they should be and any guy who sucks cock should know – or will eventually learn – why women behave they do about sucking dick, just like they should learn something about this thing we have in common with women and, yes, including how much some of us just love eating pussy and just like how many women love doing that as well.

And, once again, it all begins with why and, sadly, how this is usually ignored or not paid a lot of attention to; there’s the whole expectation thing that very much plays into the good, bad, and who’s better issue and if a giver somehow doesn’t meet a receiver’s expectations, a bad mark is gonna be issues for the man or woman performing the act.

Okay, I need to get to work on smothering some pork chops so I’ll leave y’all to think about this and if you have your own thoughts, well, speak up because one of the other determining factors in this whole frigging discussion is the fact that this is something we just do not ever wanna talk about and regardless to sexuality.

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Posted by on 4 October 2018 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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Today’s Bisexual Thoughts: Who’s Better at It?

At some point, you just know that if you get a bunch of bi guys together, someone is gonna ask this question and the answers are pretty much predictable and along the lines of, “Only a man/woman knows what a man/woman wants!” when it comes to oral sex.

To me – and looking at the root of things – the more important question is, “How do you define ‘better’?”  I’m gonna give you a link to an article one of the fellas contributed on this very subject and I’d suggest that you all give it a read and see what went on to answer this question:

If and as you read this piece, keep in mind that this… experiment started with a stacked deck but, sure, even if you’re of a mind that gay stuff is yucky, this is worth the few minutes it’ll take you to read it.

Now some “facts” about giving head, starting with one of the most often stated reasons for a guy to let another guy suck his dick:  Women ain’t fond of doing it.  It’s a generalization, of course, because there are women who are not only fond of it, they are very damned good at it.  A lot of guys get miffed because a woman can “demand” that she get eaten – and she’s not talking about just a few token licks; no, she wants you to really get at her and pack a lunch because the longer you can provide her with oral pleasure, the happier she might be.  But, then, when homey is looking for her to return the favor, um, well, if it does get returned, a lot of guys say there’s not much in the way of enthusiasm.

One of the things I tell guys about sucking cock is that for one to understand why some women aren’t fans, um, go suck a guy’s dick and you’ll find out why a woman may have started out being a fan but, today, not so much.  Having said that, there are a lot of guys who wouldn’t suck a dick if you paid them to… but they are quick to provide some negative criticism for the person who took the time and effort to suck them and they didn’t get the result they were expecting.

Then again, some guys think that because they’ve had their dick sucked, they have some knowledge or expertise on how a dick should be sucked and that’s true… if the guy ever had dick in his own mouth; otherwise, what do they really know?

What defines being better?  Some guys define this as being made to cum and if the suckee doesn’t entice them to cum, bleh, the blow job wasn’t all that and regardless to how he might have been feeling – or was made to feel – before happy time failed to show up.  Some guys say that it’s all about technique; if you can suck a dick all the way down to the bone and keep your teeth out of the action, you might find yourself on the “better at it” side of this list.  Except, not everyone can deep throat a dick, right?  See, once again, I think a lot of guys watch cocks being sucked in porn and see both men and women making monstrously huge dicks disappear without a trace – or some poor cock sucker is being “forced” to make that huge dick disappear – and maybe they get the impression that this is the way a dick should be sucked and, gulp, getting someone to swallow the sword is easy to do.

What they kinda gloss over is that the people they’re watching go at the dick are “professionals” – they do this for a living and they’ve had a whole lot of practice and, yeah, you can watch some cock sucking scenes and you can tell that the person with the dick in their mouth is not having any fun at all… but it’s a paycheck.

So while technique can go a long way in this, I’m not of a mind that technique alone is – and should be – a determining factor when trying to flip that coin and saying who’s better at it.  You can have the best technique… but if your heart ain’t in it, your excellent technique doesn’t mean a whole lot.

Some guys say with great certainty that guys are better at it and because guys are usually very willing not only to suck that dick but to finish it off and as a matter of course.  And that’s fine… but doesn’t necessarily make men better at it – it just kinda proves that we’re more willing to do it and some guys who’ve never had a cock sucking experience with another guy will just assume that it’s true that only a man knows what a man wants… until he finally gets around to having a guy blow him because one of the important things is that you just might know how you’d want your dick sucked… but you’ll find out that you have no idea how the other guy will want his dick sucked unless he actually tells you which is a good thing… except for those guys who don’t like to be instructed in how to do something they think they know how to do.

Women will tell you that some guys aren’t very good at eating them because homey isn’t listening to them or paying attention to how their body reacts when he does – or doesn’t do – certain things and that same thing can be in effect when it’s guys sucking guys.

It’s to be noticed that while there are some people who are just “naturals” at sucking cock (and eating pussy), most people have to learn how to do it and, in my opinion, they also have to learn how to have it done to them.  One clear thing is that if you make it difficult for the giver to, um, give, chances are good you’re not gonna have a good oral experience.  Again, some guys watch porn and, I dunno, assume that face-fucking the shit out of the person giving them head is the way it should be done and that’s fine… if you happen to enjoy getting face-fucked in that rather brutal way.  There’s that natural or even automatic fucking motion that happens and it is a fairly good indicator that the person you’re going down on is enjoying what you’re doing… but guys should never assume that the person sucking their dick enjoys having their mouth and throat ravaged in the way porn likes to demonstrate these days.

So when the question of who’s better at it comes up, first, take a look at what your idea of better is as well as your idea of what bad is.  You have to look at every instance you’ve experienced and while you’re looking at how it was done, if you can, try to factor in the person doing it and if you note that for those “bad” moments the person going down on you didn’t seem to be having fun doing it, well, that should tell you something and it is quite possible that the reason why they’re not enjoying doing this to you could be your fault and not, as some tend to assume, the fault of some person in their past that made giving head a not-so-nice thing to do.

When guys hook up to suck cock, it is assumed that they know what they’re doing and what is expected of them… and ya might want to consider not assuming anything other than someone you’ve had no prior experience with is going to do their best to suck your dick and just as you’re gonna do your best to suck them.  While men seem to think that the goal of sucking a dick (or being sucked) is for them to bust a huge nut, well, they kinda miss the boat a little because one of the main “purposes” is to make it feel good for the recipient as well as the giver.  In other words, you don’t have to bust a humongous nut for a blow job to be good and I’ve always wondered if some guys even pay attention to the fact that while they’re having their cock sucked, they’re also experiencing orgasms… or are they like a lot of guys and think that busting a nut and having an orgasm is the same thing.

And it isn’t although they can both happen at the same time but this particular thing is a bit of a testimony of how much guys might not know about themselves or their body.  And if you eat pussy – and the person you’re eating is enjoying what you’re doing, maybe you’ll notice that a woman can have a lot of little orgasms and that they tend to pile up to, hopefully, become that toe-curling big one that many women want to experience and, oh, yeah, would you believe that some women don’t want to experience the big one because, for them, that’s pretty damned scary?  Weird but true.

One of the other things that play into the good and bad aspects of this is one’s expectations… and having them isn’t always a good thing because you’re expecting this or that and what’s actually happening is something other than what you were expecting.  If you’ve ever had a woman tell you – and as politely as she can manage – that you weren’t as good at eating her as she expected you to be, are you the reason why it wasn’t good… or did her expectations factor into a not-so-good pussy eating moment?

When considering whether the oral sex is good or bad – and who’s better – one should, I think, factor in many other things other than whether or not the end result was achieved up to and including how the person you’re having oral sex with is feeling, the time of day and even shit like the current weather conditions.  Then you have to also factor in how you’re feeling and what else has been affecting and impacting your day prior to the moment when mouths meet genitals.  Do you think such things don’t matter?  You’d be mistaken if you didn’t think they do.

The final piece to this is about desire and, at least in my opinion, one of the prime determining factors in any such discussion or as I’ve said here hundreds of times, it’s the difference between doing it out of a sense of obligation, liking to give head, and being mad-crazy in love with doing it; these things will directly affect the outcome and weigh in heavily in the debate of who’s better at it and then, when you combine levels of desire with technique, wow… just wow.

One must factor in how much effort it takes to suck cock/eat pussy and, just as important, how much time it can take to get the object of your oral lust screaming for someone to save them from your attempt to “murder” them with your mouth, tongue, and fingers.  It also matters whether or not you’re sucking that dick or eating that pussy as a prelude to fucking and one thing women knows about us guys is that if she’s sucking us and she entices us to cum, she’s not gonna get fucked – so she’s not gonna suck you with the purpose of making you bust that nut even though you probably wouldn’t mind if that did happen.  Women, I think, are different in this because they very well want to feel you inside them… but after you eat them senseless but, sure, sometimes they want you to eat them but not “murder” them while doing it – it’s really a matter of what’s wanted and needed, not that a lot of women would complain if you ate them senseless then fucked them, mind you.

And, oh, yeah, if you happen to be one of those people who are of a mind that someone going down on you doesn’t do a damned thing for you, um, it might not be them or what they’re doing that isn’t pushing your buttons; I’ve learned over all this time that if a person has already decided that this isn’t going to be good for them and ain’t gonna do a damned thing toward their pleasure, it’s not gonna happen and nothing the other person can do is going to matter.

And if you need your buttons pushed a certain way, um, why haven’t you told them where the buttons are, how to push them, and when to push them?  Perhaps you’d be surprised at how often this doesn’t happen, which usually results in a “bad” experience and can tilt the scales when deciding who’s better at it – and providing you’re someone who has experience giving and receiving in the dual mode of oral sexual pleasure.

There’s a reason why oral sex is considered an art and why I tend to say that anyone can fuck… but not everyone knows how to give head and, yeah, some folks don’t know how to receive head.  I’d ask you at this point to take a look at your own experiences giving and receiving head and, perhaps, you’ll see what I’m talking about in any of this.

Are women better at eating pussy?  Are men better at sucking cock?  You’d have to decide what “better” means to you as well as what constitutes good and bad when it comes to this; I’m just the guy who’ll tell you that there’s more to figuring this out than what you might think there is.

And, finally, there’s this little factoid:  If someone goes down on you – and regardless of the end results, uh, um, shouldn’t you be grateful that they’re willing to do this to and for you at all?

Think about it… and if you wanna share, feel free to do so.  One of the things that makes giving and receiving head an iffy thing to do is that like so many other things regarding sex, it’s something we don’t talk about and even with the person we might be involved with who gives us great head one day and lousy head the next… or it gets fixed in our minds that men are better at it or women are and without really understanding what the hell is really going on with this.


Posted by on 2 October 2018 in Today's Bisexual Thoughts


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Acquiescent Soul

Watching life as it passed by

Justifiable Opinions

We all have them, lets share what we think

Jenny's Swinger Party and Dating Advice 🎉

23 year old real estate agent & swinger 💋

Katya Evangeline

From Missionary to Sex Preacher and Loving It!

Domestic Discipline, Jenny style!

Unconventional journey to unimaginable fulfillment.


All the things that make me, well "me."


If I had a power color, it would be sparkle. Landon Brinkley

SeXXy Julie

Sordid Sex Stories & Erotica of a Cougar

Temperature's Rising

It's getting hot in here...

A Question of Lust

"Love My Way, It's a New Road"


Random thoughts from a random mind


Writing about recovery.

When you feel like giving up......

If you feel sexy you are sexy!!

The Watering Hole

Where everyone comes to quench their thirst for insight to life's challenging questions.


Parts Of My Life

Date A Bisexual


The Wise Serpent


Fetishes, Gender Issues, Sexual Politics, Erotic Memoirs

a worried whimsy

bouncing between happy and anxious

ann st vincent

My journey through marriage, open marriage, divorce, being a Mom, sexual rebirth, online dating, failed relationships, and lots of sex

The Self-Actualized Life

Have a fulfilling life sexually and every other way!

Larry Archer's World (

------ Erotica from the dirty mind of Larry Archer


is there a path to a successful open marriage?


The silent inside of an anonymous Indian rebelling against society

The (Bi)te

The uninteresting world of a young bisexual girl


What Perspective Matters Most Depends on Your Perception


when and why size matters


I write when the choice is to die if I don't

My SEXuality

Why am I afraid to tell you who I'am?

Confessions of a Cheating Housewife

...because love just isn't enough ;)

Apparently I Don't Exist

The Many Adventures of a Bisexual Genderqueer

foreverdreamingoflove 💋

WARNING **This Blog Is For Mature Audiences OVER THE AGE OF 18**

Writing Myself into a Hole

The flailing scraps of a struggling writer. Original fiction and creative whining, whenever my petulance will allow it.

Mighty Cents Worth

The greatest site in all the land!

Penny's Dirty Thoughts

Penny's blog of sex related writing and photography