Today’s Bisexual Thought: Once More, Uh, Why?

19 Jul

I’ve always felt that the one thing that fucks people up about male bisexuals is that, to many, it just doesn’t make sense that a guy would want – or have a need – to have sex with another guy since, as “everyone knows,” there are plenty of women out there who are more than willing to have sex…

Except, um, no offense, but while that might be true, you still have to find them and convince them that it’s in their best interest to have sex with you – it just is what it’s always been.

Some point to our built-in and hard-wired compulsion to have sex and this is why just having sex with women appears to be not enough or other sentiments along these lines, like being oversexed, addicted to it, so on and so forth. Our rep as men – and when it comes to having sex – isn’t exactly a good one and I’m sure many of you have heard that we’ll fuck anything with a hole including knotholes in a fence.

Many point out that maybe our parents didn’t raise us right and, as I’ve heard at times, not having Jesus in (and running) your life just leads to such behaviors and ya need to go to church and pray for forgiveness and salvation – and start hitting on the women in the church – good luck with that one, right?

What the naysayers don’t talk much about where cause is concerned is what a guy is thinking about these things and, yes, what he’s feeling… and why he’s thinking and feeling the way he is. It’s “well-known” that guys who just have no luck with women are likely to turn to men for sex but probably the lesser known thing is the many men who don’t have issues with women – but they still want, like, and enjoy sex with men, not because they’re greedy dogs – and like everyone feels comfortable saying – but because in his mind, well, he just has a different understanding about sex that, let’s say, the average person.

As I’ve said time and time again, we pay so much attention to what two guys might be doing to each other… and not a whole lot about why and even when some attention is paid to this, eh, it’s usually a lot of speculation and assumption and it doesn’t help things all that much to ask a guy why he is the way he is because chances are he’s not going to tell you why and even categorically deny the allegations.

A long time ago now, women were in our cases and, I think, justifiably so as they demanded that we get in touch with our feminine side to which many a man replied, “What feminine side? I’m a guy!” The statement, of course, was taken completely out of context because a lot of guys, upon having a woman tell him this, just stopped listening to her trying to explain that she’d be happier with and about him if he was not so emotionally closed off – another aspect of the very bad reputation men have had to pinned to us.

But unbeknownst to society at large, a lot of men literally took it to heart and came to the conclusion that the best way to get in touch with our feminine side is to do… feminine things like sucking cock and being fucked… because, well, it sounded like a good idea and for many men, it was the one piece of the puzzle we call life that was missing and the one piece that would make them…

Complete. Whole. I’m gonna mention once more that a lot of men over the many generations have, in fact, been in touch with their feminine side… and not all of them were homosexuals. It’s either one of those things where it does, in fact, makes a lot of sense… or it’s one of those things that, hey, who knew it could feel that good? As I’ve also said, there’s the one guy who told me, “Shit… I’ve done everything a man could possibly do with a woman so doing it with a guy is next on my list of things to do!”

We – society at large – are and have always been of a mind that men having sex with other men serves no purpose; it’s unnecessary, you know, with all the women running around all over the place. Having said that, it’s not as if no one knows that it ain’t as simple or as easy as it sounds. No one, not even myself, can really explain what really goes on in a guy’s mind when it just “hits” him that having some kind of sex with another guy is the right thing for him to do and, as always, evidenced by the number of men who seem to get totally blindsided to have this appear out of nowhere from their perspective.

It’s not that there are a lot of men who are able to resist and suppress this; it’s that there are lot of men who, for whatever reason works for them, don’t want to suppress it… so they don’t. Why? You gotta ask them what their reason and thoughts were about such a landmark decision they’ve made for themselves.

I’ve… theorized that once you get a taste of the other side of the fence, if nothing else, you gain a more complete view of what sex is – and it’s just not boy/girl. Whether one finds it to their liking or not is a whole different thing but, yeah, uh-uh, many try it and find that they like it… and some even come to this conclusion after saying that they didn’t like it and usually because they’ve had some time to think about it.

And it remains the one thing, when people are running around speculation on why a guy would even want to be bisexual, that no one really pays attention to. Women can be bisexual – duh, right? Very few people are of a mind to ask girlfriend why she is and probably because there’s some truth to the “rumor” that men are just incapable – or totally inept – at tending to all of their needs and most of those needs are emotional. Few people are of a mind to seriously question why a woman would want and need more than what a man can provide and I’ve felt that if someone is thinking like this, well, hmm, you really don’t understand some stuff, not only about women but about humans.


In moments like this, I keep remembering a woman asking me why I suck dick and me answering her by saying, “Why do you do it?” – and the look on her face when I pointed out to her that I do it for the same reason she does it: It feels good to do it and it’s very pleasurable to do it.

This, alone, doesn’t seem to be an acceptable answer and many, I think, are of a mind that there has to be some other reason why two guys will pull their dicks out and start sucking on each other (and maybe even fuck each other) and, as such, just flat-out overlooking the obvious:

It. Feels. Good.

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