Yeah, I know… here we go again, right? I see this and I have differing thoughts about it and this one was different; the others are about asking for a bro-job.
I had to think about how many times in my life that I offered one and, admittedly, I’ve not offered that many – I can count them on one hand and not use all of my digits. Compare that to the number of times I wanted to offer one, well, I’d have to borrow a few people’s digits – take a number and I’ll be with you shortly.
There are two components to offering and I’ll do my best to explain them. The first part is having the urge to suck a dick or being in a situation with a bro where it becomes clear that offering him a bro-job is warranted and that can be anything from him being really stressed out or the moment is so incredibly boring and/or you’re trying to figure out what to do or where to go and you’re both coming up with blanks.
The second part is much harder because, in most cases, you’re not sure how he’s going to react to such an offer – that’s about the time when you realize that you don’t know your bro as well as you may think. You’re about to reveal something about yourself that he didn’t know although, in some cases, maybe he suspected that you’re not as straight as you may have said but, eh, what you suspect is one thing, what you can prove is something else.
If he’s ever said anything about guys having sex with guys, that’s not always a good indicator that he’ll accept or reject the offer; in the few bro-jobs I’ve offered, I’ve heard the guys either go off about how fucked up it is for guys to be sucking dick and getting fucked to having more… neutral opinions about the whole thing or they take that “not in my backyard” stance. It’s an instant lesson that teaches you what someone says and what someone will do aren’t always the same thing.
The next thing to be considered is whether or not offering a bro-job – and no matter how that goes – will hurt or improve the relationship with your bro. It’s said that friends shouldn’t have sex with each other because it could ruin the friendship but, on the other hand, if you can’t have sex with a friend and someone you know fairly well, um, isn’t that better than having sex with a total stranger and trying to get a feel for that person and on the fly? Most people say that it isn’t – you just don’t screw around with your friends.
And while all of this (and much more) is bouncing around inside your head, you’re also working hard on putting the words together that won’t make you sound like an idiot if – or when – the words come out of your mouth. As I recall, the first time I offered one, yeah, I sounded like an idiot, stumbling over my words and all that and the guy put me out of my misery and said, “If you’re asking to suck my dick, just say it – damn, you sound really stupid for a smart guy!” At first, he politely refused the offer but a few minutes later and, I assumed, giving it more thought, he accepted, it happened, we were both happy and life went on.
Going forward, I’d just come out and say it – get right to the point and heart of the matter then brace myself for whatever reaction would follow. Sometimes, being direct works… and sometimes it doesn’t; it depends on what you know about your bro and, again, that’s the same time you realize that you don’t know him all that well.
As a piece of advice, I’d say that if you really have no idea how he’s going to react, um, don’t make the offer… but this depends on why you wanna suck his dick. If you’re just horny as fuck and sucking a dick is the solution, eh, I might not ask a bro if he’d be interested in helping me scratch this itch. However, if this is one of those situations where your bro is feeling some kind of way – lost his job, his girl, stuff like that – and you’re feeling compassionate toward him and something inside of you is saying that giving him a blowjob might make him feel better, well, okay – roll the dice and make the offer as long as you understand that his might not react in a good way about it.
Okay, um, your bro is emotionally distraught over something and you’re feeling his pain right along with him… so why does offering him a blow job seem to make perfectly good sense? The answer is… I’m not really sure! I guess that in this particular situation, there are only so many things you can say and sometimes, what you say, damn, maybe it helps him to feel better, maybe it doesn’t and even your most heartfelt sentiments can sometimes sound empty. He’s your bro and if you’ve been bros for a while, it’s implied or even made known that, hey, if there’s anything I can do for you, just ask, man, and if I can do it, it’ll be done.
Now how that gets narrowed down to offering him a bro-job escapes me but after running this through my mind a lot of times, I saw that I’d sit there talking to him and going through everything I can think of to do to ease his pain and, well, sucking his dick is on the list along with the thought that getting your dick sucked and your balls emptied is a great stress reliever.
It’s just weird how that winds up being the one solution that makes sense when, in some ways, it probably shouldn’t make sense. It’s risky in the sense that you could wind up trashing a good friendship while effectively outing yourself… then there’s the fact that he could accept and you blow the living daylights out of him, he feels better (you do, too) but did that really solve his issue? Or by doing it, does it clear his head some so he can work through things?
It’s a lot to think about and the only thing that you know for sure is that you want to suck his dick because you’re horny, out of sympathy for him, or just because there ain’t anything else to do. What you don’t know is, again, how he’s gonna react and respond, just like you don’t know what’s gonna happen if he refuses or how things are gonna be if he accepts and it gets done.
Too many variable, too many potential outcomes (not even a pun) and that’s even if offering him a bro-job has been on your mind for a while and you’ve had time to think about all of this. Some folks are of a mind that bro-jobs happen spontaneously and, sure enough, some of them do; sometimes they happen “accidentally” and by that I mean, um, sometimes, your inhibitions and his have been lowered in some way and he’ll say something like, “Damn, I wouldn’t mind getting my dick sucked right about now!” and you hear yourself offering to do it… and ya might even have an immediate second thought: Who just said that? Was that me?”
But some potential bro-job offer come to the forefront after a lot of thought because of the way you feel about him or because of what you’ve been seeing and hearing about things are going with him and his life. You have x-amount of time to think it through as best you can and now it’s all about waiting for a good time to make the offer… and how the words are gonna go from your brain to your mouth. Be direct and just tell him what you want to offer him or start dropping silly-sounding hints and hope he picks up on them and gets him to ask, “What the fuck are you talking about, man?” or something to that effect.
Then it’s shit or get off the pot time. Whether he accepts or not doesn’t mean you’re not going to have to explain why you wanna suck his dick and more so since he’s probably sure that you don’t have a cock sucking bone in your body… until you make it clear that you do.
I once had a guy offer me a bro-job and the funny thing about it was, to me, there wasn’t a “reason” for the offer; I know I wasn’t bummed out about anything, wasn’t stoned and we were playing basketball at the time so it wasn’t like we were bored and had nothing to do. On his part, it puzzled me to hear him explain that, one, he’d never given any though to sucking dick and never had a guy blow him. His actual words were, “I don’t know why but I really want to suck your cock – is that okay with you?”
I asked him why, of course, and the gist of it all boiled down to him thinking that it was something he wanted to do to and for me even though he’d never thought about it, let alone done it. I accepted, not because I wanted to get blown but because I could tell how it was stressing him as well as understanding how important it was, even if his explanation didn’t make a lot of sense to me.
When considering offering a bro-job, it might help to give some thought to how you’d react if one of your bros rolled up on you and made you an offer and what will go through your head once you hear it; it’s kinda like putting yourself in his place, as it were, and more so if the offer comes out of left field and from someone you had no reason to believe was into sucking dick.
Maybe this will make it easier to make the offer, maybe it won’t… but “conventional wisdom” says when in doubt, do nothing – it’s always better to be safe than sorry, better to err on the side of caution. But if the situation seriously says that sucking his dick is what will work, just put the offer on the table… then hope for the best while expecting the worst.